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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 2:09:21 PM

MaryT

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists
There are people who post here that do influence me and have caused me to grow. However, the decision to allow them to influence me was a conscious decision made to improve myself.

<nods> Probably the most important words of wisdom I've gotten here regarding relationships were from LA when she said, "You have too many cooks in your kitchen."

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 3:21:17 PM

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I am not restricted in any way regarding online activity. I will often ask My Lord for his opinion on a post to better understand something, but He does not monitor or censor what I say. I am expected to behave in a manner that reflects well on Him at all times, no matter where I am or what I am doing.

As daddysprop said, my outside influence is limited since I stay at home and do not have a lot of friends, especially in this lifestyle, that are local to me. This forum is a way for me to interact and learn from others. But I do make a choice as to how much the thoughts of those outside of My Lord influence my behavior.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 3:57:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: HydroMaster

Well, I don't imagine this will stay serious for long. But my personal view is that social isolation isn't healthy for anyone. So no, I would not limit a subs interactions in the forums. I would like to discuss what she read and talked about but that's about it.

I would like to think that most Masters would agree with this statement..to do otherwise to me and IMO, would show a distinct lack of self confidence on the Masters part, and that of his sub/slave..Tempting

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 5:20:16 PM

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To me the answer is- whatever works for the relationship.

I personally am a casual monitor of what they do, I want to know the general stuff they are spending their time on reading, finding out, finding interesting. I also encourage them to places I find interesting and want to share, and encourage them to read my own things online.

Otherwise, I'm hands-off and could care less. As a reactive person, until it starts to cause an issue, I don't worry about it. If it started to cause an issue, I'd have no problem limiting their online activity in whatever way I felt necessary.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 5:28:40 PM

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I agree with you cjenny... english isn't her first language...I think she's doing really well considering that.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 7:57:23 PM

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My dominant really couldn't care less what I do on the internet as long as I keep within a few rules. I'm not allowed to make porn (without giving him a cut anyway

) and I'm not allowed to share private information like our phone number and where we live. Of course these weren't actually offical until just now when I turned my head to ask if he cares...

I don't really get the big deal. Personally I think that flipping out over the fact that your sub/slave will have contact with those who disagree with you is a very bad sign.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 8:00:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: nephandi

To make a bit more serious version of another tread here.

What level of control do a Dominant or Master wish to ahve over his submissive/slave`s use of the internet and forums like theese inparticular? i can for exsample see why some Dominants might have a slaves is to be seen not heard attitude and not wish them to post, while others belive this is a good learning ground. Thos post is not meant as judgement, but just as a place to discuss this.

Personaly i am aloved to do what i want online aslong as i am polite, and that includes this forum, witch i do learn alot from. Though Master is a bit sceptic, he is considering taken me of the board for a while so we can develop our own relationship whitout being influenced by others so we can get the D/s relationship he and i want to have, not the one member x on this forum belive is a good one, i often get a bit carried avay and a bit to awed by advice, but eept for that he thinks it is good i am active at forums.

As far as I know my owner really doesn't care what I do online so long as I'm not doing anything wildly inappropriate or illegal. He's on collarchat but has posted under ten times and I think sometimes looks up what I'm posting but he's never said anything about it unless he happens to post on the same thread as me.

I suspect that of all the things to care about and control that this (online forums and such) are relatively unimportant to the grand scheme of life.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 8:05:22 PM

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Isolation is bad, outside meddling is bad, the trick is to know which is which.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 9:52:47 PM

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my Master trusts His slave and has no concerns about my being online, either in this forum or others. i am allowed to chat with anyone i choose and to exchange emails. He does have access to my email and reads my online journal and other online postings i write. Some of my postings, especially in my journal, which He has told me to be very blunt and honest in what i write there, have caused some very deeply emotional and constructive conversations between us, which have helped me to better understand myself and helped me and my Master to grow closer together.

my Master also enjoys discussing a wide-range of topics with His slave and reading from a variety of online sources, CM forums being just one of them, helps me have more to contribute in O/our discussions.

Also, while i am not totally isolated and i do have outside activities, i spend a lot of time at home and i have no close friends who are involved in BDSM, so this helps me to feel more connected to people who i can relate to.

In other words, my Master has a slave who is less frustrated, more positive, happier, and more productive because of my access to and involvement in online forums.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 10:22:45 PM

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This girl's Master does not limit her access here or what she says; however He does expect her to act with appropriate decorum and politeness and carry herself with grace within whatever situation she is in, online or not. He does come here as well so he peruses her posts at His leisure and if He feels the need to speak with her about things that she's said then He does so. she keeps her station here, just like she does at home and He trusts that her opinions and thoughts would not go against her place, so He doesn't feel a need to monitor her every post.

To say though, that she doesn't get anything out of these forums would be an understatment. Topics of these forums have sparked many an interesting conversation between herself and her Master and have helped her work out some of her own views, so of course He would want to be a part of that. she does agree, though, that there is occasional behavior from certain threads that have caused her to raise a brow or two at words of other slaves, but that is just because of the dynamic of her own relationship.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/11/2007 10:48:43 PM

juliaoceania

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What level of control do a Dominant or Master wish to ahve over his submissive/slave`s use of the internet and forums like theese inparticular?

I post at his pleasure and if he told me not to I would not. He has told me to clarify or edit posts, his perogative.

He told me just tonight that if someone wants to debate me in an academic way he expects me to be able to defend my points unless I choose not to. In this regard I have complete freedom to challenge and debate in anyway I see fit.

I know one day I may be restricted from the internet except when it comes to business that must be accomplished (bill pay, banking, ordering necessities, academic work). I have accepted that, if he wants me to stop using the internet, I will. It has not happened yet. He is the only opinion that deeply matters on this forum. I belong to other forums (not BDSM related). If he wanted to read those forums he can too. He can control any aspect of my social life he pleases. He chooses not to exercise that right.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 4:40:33 AM

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Oddly enough, Master ordered me to come to the forums and start interacting, which he reminded me of a month or so ago. He has at times restricted my coming to the forums and at other times told me not to start certian topics. Like the Revolution one i started in Off Topic. He says it has nothing to do with BDSM. True enough. Honestly though, he doesnt really care what about my activities here. Which i found out why last night during a conversation about the online BDSM world. He finds it a joke - all of it. LOL thats not a topic i will bring up again. Other then that, he lets me do my thing, he knows it entertains me. Although i do think if i got on here and started blatantly cussing, acting like a punk, starting fights - he would care. As those behaviors are not acceptable anywhere. Pretty much, he expects me to be me. Its when i shove myself inside and pretend to be some one i'm not. He calls it my attitude and he seriously seriously dislikes it, so no matter where - its not allowed. He's also has all of my internet passwords and can check up on me as he wills - which he only does randomly.

Pretty much, i think orginally he used the net as a tool to help with communication. i didnt know how to open up and be honest about what i thought/felt and in order not to be left in the dark alot - he had a fall back (my posts) if need be. Now its all a moot point.

disclaimer - granted this is only my interpretation of what he thinks.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 4:55:00 AM

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Whilst I can act on My control over any part of her life, if something isn't broke, I don't try and fix it. Unless and until her use of the net adversly effects either her or the relationship then I have no need to overly concern Myself. Plus I get pleasure seeing her responces to threads and questions, sometimes those responces bring up topics of discussion between us, other times maybe a diffrent viewpoint maybe prove benificial in either a gap in communication or present a new and more effective avenue of approaching something we are already working on in other ways.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 5:45:18 AM

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Thank you for all your replies, it is a very interesting read.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 6:37:41 AM

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Master reads all my posts. I know he reads all my posts. I know what is expected of me and if I get a little too fiesty or he wants to comment he does.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 6:42:43 AM

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He doesn't care what I post. If he has a question about something he asks me. But he isn't so insecure that he's afraid of me learning anything from anybody else. Besides, sometimes I come across stuff that sounds cool and then send him the link, saying "Can we, huh can we? Please, please" He likes that.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 7:00:31 AM

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For myself, Master does encourage me to read and participate in these forums. He does exercise much control in regards to my usage of forums but hasn't restricted my internet usage. I do have to abide by guidelines He has placed on me, I am to respond in a manner which reflects on Him in a positive manner. If I happen to give an opinion that He disagres with, He will discuss that in private with myself so in the future that won't happen. Most of the time we discuss a topic from here before I post, thus there hasn't been any conflict between U/us.

Master does trust me enough to allow me access to these forums and He does want me to learn and grow. Master wants his slave to be able to think on my own and to have my own opinions and this in no way is a threat to His authority.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 7:05:51 AM

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I don't actually care what Fox does online it leds to something offline -- then our rules about meeting partners and giving feedback or vetoing come into play.

Fox does want to be on Collarme -- he has other groups he spends time with and he knows he must manage his time well or his service might start to suffer with is unacceptable in my house. He'd rather spend time with his furry buddies than join a new community. If you met us in meatlife you could talk to him then.

I just don't have the desire to control or monitor internet or snail mail or phone calls for my slaves -- plus I'm a busy woman, do I need that added to my daily agenda? NO!

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 7:20:57 AM

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Daddy knows i'm a chat-a-holic and sometimes spend time in the forums. He doesn't assert that level of control or limit my time here because He knows it's good way for me to interact with others online as well as offline ...to read and learn something new and discuss the forum post or two which He might be interested in reading.

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RE: Slaves and this forum. - 2/12/2007 7:30:06 AM

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reposted from another slave thread:

the reason this slave was allowed to participate in these forums to begin with was to have access to information on other’s ways, ideas and experiences. To witness and interact with others regarding aspects of WIITWD as they walk the path of their own way was/is something Master desires for His slave to experience. this message board as well as attending various munches, groups, clubs, dungeons, fund-raisers, FOLSOM!!!, conventions, workshops, demos, private and/or public-invited parties have all been resources for this slave to learn, socialize and have fun~Thank YOU, Master, for demanding/allowing this slave's participation!!!

It was, and still is, important to Master that His slave have access to others who could share their views, experiences and thoughts about WIITWD…He did not want to be the sole source of information for this slave. Many a post here has inspired a conversation with Master, regarding a topic this slave has never really given any consideration.

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