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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 7:47:58 AM

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This is your fault for allowing this to happen...So now you've become the protector of women in the world....(Trumpets blare as a large "Rumtiger" banner is unfurled over the new Girlscout building being dedicated in Chicago today)

Tell the chick to get lost...Man, you really do dig the pain dontcha brothah!.....

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 8:07:41 AM

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Captain Save'a'ho to the rescue...riding in on his black horse called Drama and his cloak of personal deception waving in the wind.

Not actually directed at you, the line just hit me.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 8:14:37 AM

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It sounds like you are her emotional boyfriend? If I were you, I would establish some clear boundaries. Otherwise it sounds like she is going to take advantage of you. You sound like just another Tom, Dick, or Harry on her string of manfriends. Don't allow her to treat you like you are expendable. Speaking as someone who is recovering from an addiction to assholes, you really cannot give her any help. It is great that you are there to listen to her problems and be a good friend, but do not let her use you as a crutch. She has to help herself and leaning on you while she recovers enough to find another asshole is just more self-destructive behavior. If anything, tell her that she needs to re-evaluate her ideas about relationships and look closely at why she is choosing a certain type of partner. She has to help herself. You really cannot do anything for her, other than remind her that her stuff is HER stuff.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 8:18:39 AM

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I love that term "emotional boyfriend"!

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 8:22:38 AM

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This is typical high school shit!

Immaturity reigns in this situation!

1. Her for feelings"helpless" to do anything
2. YOU for thinking you can fix a situation like this.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is withdraw from a situation and let the person flounder for herself.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 8:38:05 AM

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Go to your local sorcerer and buy a potion that will cure her of being such a dysfunctional cunt. Other than that, I don't think there is anything you can do except keep yourself from being sucked into her stupid bullshit.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 11:17:44 AM

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She aint a cunt....granted a pain in the ass yeah, but a cunt nah.

To answer you people who are asking me why I even bother with her, its because I care for people I care about, simple as that, this isent some girl I met a couple months ago and we just happen to click, i've known her since I was barely getting out of high school, if I hadent had such a history with her I wouldent be putting up with this. I would expect the same treatment from any of the very very very few people I consider friends.

agh, gotta get to work, i'll complete this thought when I get back.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 12:17:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rumtiger
i've known her since I was barely getting out of high school,

Hon, if you keep doing the same things over and over, WHY do you expect different results? You keep rescuing her...and so she keeps asking you to. Care enough to make her walk on her own instead of enabling her behavior.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 2:12:20 PM

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Two words: Attention Whore

She gets attention from the dom. She gets attention by arriving late to work and appointments. Then, she has to call people for "help" and "advice" i.e. more attention. And I'd lay odds you're not the only one she's calling for "advice".....and attention.

Really want to help her? Quit enabling her, quit giving her attention. That way, she might just to grow up someday. Though I kinda doubt it.

(edited to add....just for the record, I typed the statement about enabling before reading the post above me!)

< Message edited by windchymes -- 1/30/2007 2:13:15 PM >

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 4:40:45 PM

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Well after discussing it with her a bit more I convinced her not to have me as involved in the whole situation, one by me talking...and two because I managed to convince her to go back with her mom, who thankfully likes me enough to have heard me out (italian types, she loves me cause I always eat her out of house and home), and also I told her if she dident take this step for herself I wouldent be helping her with guys anymore.

I dident talk to the guy, I dident really have much contact with him, the only thing she wanted me to do was accompany her to thier place while she talked to him and told him she was moving back to momma's, one so that he wouldent as easily blow her off, as well as just in case he decided to do something stupid..and because she needed help carrying a TV...after a couple idle threats from the fatass (he cant do shit), we vamoosed.

dont worry she payed me back with a 6 pack of honeybrown.

As for the aftermath, she'll be a bit more toned down living with her mom, not just from her but also because I told her that I wouldent be helping with her boy problems anymore. It was within what? 4 months? that i've delt with this kinda stuff twice.

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 4:56:33 PM

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Good for you man. Now just make sure you hold firm to the boundaries you've set. =)

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RE: My Friend...again - 1/30/2007 5:16:01 PM

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Well, at least you have good taste in beer

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