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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:08:03 AM

gypsygrl

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No, you're not being a b*** about it. There's no reason you should feel that you are. As far as suggestions go, if you like him, and want to keep the relationship, have him suggest things you two can do together that he can afford. It doesn't have to cost anything, and, the really good things don't.

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:11:44 AM

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And please don't judge people based on facts alone, especially if you don't know the whole story

Hey, we only have what you've told us. We are free to judge as we please.

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:13:57 AM

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And please don't judge people based on facts alone, especially if you don't know the whole story...

If we cannot use facts, will you allow fantasy, innuendo and inferrals?

Just askin' for fucks sake.

Ron

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:22:18 AM

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I usually tend to judge people based upon how they look.. or how much they weigh...Facts? Hmmmm? Naw, it doesn't seem to be a good basis on a way to judge someone...I'll stick with on how much they weigh.

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:30:07 AM

TxBlkMistress

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ORIGINAL: GirlyDevil

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

You're kidding right? It sounds like you both need to get work.

I've had several interviews in the past few days and may have a job starting next week but not sure yet. And please don't judge people based on facts alone, especially if you don't know the whole story

ok, I wasn't going to comment because....well....anywhoooo

don't judge people based on facts alone??? excuse me???

you posted here, and usually when one posts they are asking for opinions...and we can only give opinions based on the "facts" that you provide....so I'm confused...what exactly are you wanting?

I've seen excellent suggestions...and they are right...you don't try and add another to your household, until "you" have that household in order "first"

You are already struggling, so why would you even consider taking on someone that obviously doesn't want to support himself..and that is not judging from strangers...according to your o.p. you got this knowledge from his friends.

It's good you are about to get employment...I don't know how long you have been out of work, but I guessing you probably have some catching up to do....hell I work and I still have catching up sometimes...lol so I would get myself straight...and then find someone that is truely worthy of you...someone that you deserve...this guy doesn't think much of himself to even take care of himself...not likely he will take care of you, and I"m not talking financially either

of course this guy wants 24/7....that way he can stay home all day and probably do nothing...and call himself a houseboy...been there done that, got the t-shirt, ....I get offers for "houseboys" all the time....it's like going to a ferrari dealership, when you earn minimum wage....don't get what you can't afford.

< Message edited by TxBlkMistress -- 1/26/2007 11:40:04 AM >

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:35:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

And please don't judge people based on facts alone, especially if you don't know the whole story...

If we cannot use facts, will you allow fantasy, innuendo and inferrals?

Just askin' for fucks sake.

Ron

Damn!!! He beat me to it.

In addition, employment is a good thing.

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:37:10 AM

KatyLied

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If we cannot use facts, will you allow fantasy, innuendo and inferrals?

She doesn't want us to use the facts. So we'll have to rely on gossip. We can make up a story!

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:38:19 AM

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Once upon a time, in a land far far away.............

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 11:51:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: gandalf0297

Yup.Gets back to the necessary evil.Work. Its a bummer I know but we all have to do it.

And SOME of us actually do!

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 12:00:01 PM

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It's obvious to a trained "eye" what "is" her life story as well as what has got her to this "point."

She was raised by wolves, high up in the Rockies, until being liberated from the pack at tender age of 17.

Being raised as a feral child myself,as were probably many of you, I can speak first hand of the rough road she faced coming back and having to transition herself as well as her thinking and actions to "human ways."

Wolfly skills are under appreciated in the market place today and killing sheep and eating voles are not what most head hunters are looking for at the top of one's resume.

So cut her some slack...perhaps she will find that sub that can appreciate a domme with eight hairy teats...and a lust for venison....So who among you dares to throw the first stone or lay out the first bear trap?

Judgemental pricks!...Each and everyone of you!

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 12:39:01 PM

LaTigresse

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ACTually, it was tigers that raised me.........in a jungle. We just killed feral pigs and the like.

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 12:49:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Once upon a time, in a land far far away.............

And the Deep South version of that is.....

"No sh*t, there we were...."

or if you prefer...

"Ya'll ain't gonna' believe this sh*t..."

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 1:02:24 PM

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quote:

GirlyDevil
I have just got a new slave and he doesn't have any money or transportation

Um Why?

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 1:02:25 PM

gypsygrl

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ORIGINAL: GirlyDevil

And please don't judge people based on facts alone, especially if you don't know the whole story

Right. Isolated facts are, in and of themselves, relatively insignificant. They can only be understood in a specific context, which would be the whole story.

I don't have a job either. There's worse things a person can do than be unemployed. :)

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 1:27:30 PM

SlaveAkasha

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Although I don't work, my Master knows I can hold a job, and a pretty good one at that if needed. We have sat down and talked about it and decided it would be better right now if I didn't. I take care of the home, and I take care of him. I talked to him about this just last night.. I was worried that since he worked a decent amount of overtime..he might grow to resent the fact that I don't work outside of the home. He told me that he knows I work hard to take care of him and the home..and that's what he appreciates about me not working.

I do think in some aspects as the dominant one, it's on you to make sure you can provide for your slave if you choose to take him into your home. On the other side of that though, he needs to show that he is capable of carrying his own weight when required.

I would for sure think twice about carrying on this relationship the way it is. Sit down and talk to him..see if it's worth working out so that both of you can be happy and share the load a bit more. If he doesn't see that as something he would do to keep the relationship..it can only give you a glimpse of the future..and that doesn't look very good right now.

Kasha

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 1:48:54 PM

enigmaslave

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Just my $0.02

In Toronto Ontario Canada, there are more then 60 temporary employment agencies. I can quite a job, and be working again with in 2 days. Unfortunately with temp agencies you cannot be picky about the work; however they do serve as decent paying temporary positions.

I understand that the Greater Toronto Area has a population of a little less then half that of New York City, and that with cities that size, work is more bountiful. But I once lived in a city with under a 100 000 residents, and they still had 5 temporary agencies.

So please explain both your situations. Do suffer from an illness? Are you on disability? Are you being finicky and holding out? Do you lack current skills to gain new employment?

It’s my suspicion that because you’re still in you early twenties you likely still live with Mom and Dad, and you haven’t become fully independent yet. That in itself will hinder the T.P.E. of a L.T.R. So what are you doing to make a change?

“If you only do, what you have always done, then you will only get what you have always gotten”

The only time I have ever had a hard time finding work was when I lived in a town of 10 000.

So with that said, I cannot fathom the concept of neither of you not have a source of income. If you reside in a CITY, there are jobs, lots of jobs. You may have to change your mindset, but there really is no reason to not be employed.

If you live in a town that has lost its major source of with work; and you are now unemployed; well, what are you waiting for. Someone to hand you another job? Its time to move.

Canada may have a socialist mind set, but I don’t care for government involvement in my life. I find jobs on my own; no one gives me a hand out.

I thought the USA, is supposed to be the land of Free Enterprise, not socialism.

So in summary:
The first thing that needs to be done is truly establish who the Dominant in this relationship is. There are decisions that need to be made, that are being neglected.

Then you have the fallowing choices, as I see it.
- The two of you get full time jobs.
- You become his Sugar Momma
- Or you find a Sugar Daddy

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/26/2007 2:22:03 PM

SCDommie

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Don't worry.

You will get tired of paying his way sooner of later. You need a slave who will encourage you rather than you encouraging him unless he is georgeous or something.
Even if that is the case, it will get very old after a while. Listen to experience on this one.

Respectfully,

SCDommie

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/27/2007 9:11:17 AM

lucreziaborgia

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NO

you are NOT being a bitch!

Silly, silly.

A question: is there any reason for both of your unemployment?

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/27/2007 9:18:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

He expects you to pay for everything, he requires you to do everything for him... it seems to me he is the one in the dominant position and you are catering to him in order to have him serve you. DV

Excuse me? Did you mean that?

Since when don't dominants have to be responsible, fully functioning adults?

( apologies to the infirmed, ill, disabled, or those in hard times - these are exceptions)

Who would take orders from a LOSER?

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RE: Money Issues?? - 1/27/2007 9:19:03 AM

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If you ask for advice, or comments, in a forum and you provide us with facts, exactly how are we supposed to reply to anything said if we do not use those facts to judge?
Maybe I am doing this wrong, but whe someone posts, I assume they want us to respond. Never did understand why then tey get annoyed and tell us we dont have thw "whole story". We have what you gave us.

BEing unemployed isnt the end of the world. It happens. Being unemployed and not trying to CHANGE that fact is usualy where the difficulty comes from. Jobs arent always easy to get, and searching for one takes time and effort. It sounds like you have the inspiration to change your lot, and from what YOU have told us, he doesnt seem to share in your ambition. Good luck with whatever you choose to do, and hopefully you'll make your decision before you find out how expensive a mistake he may or may not be

DV

Edit to reply to the above. Yes I meant it. Being fully functional and being USED are different. She is the dominant one, however HE expects her to pay for everything, and contributes nothing. She has to provide the funds, the transportation and everything ese in order to have him serve. Expecting a submissive to be able to provide for at the very least themselves does not make you a loser. They are brought into our lives to make our lives happier and easier, not to become a burden from day one.

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