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CreativeDominant -> RE: ProDommes (1/24/2007 1:29:23 PM)
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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
You know my philosophy on all things BDSM is that the parameters and definitions can only be created by the people in that dynamic...but you ask an interesting question CD.
First let me say that my pro dom days have been over for over a decade..
I can only speak from my own experience and that is that, i get so many letters from applicants that want me to consider them for a place in my household, and their qualifications as to how they will enhance my life seem to always be physical...piss drinking and cum drinking, the amount of pain they can with stand , their sacrifice of dressing in stockings and garters for me...
I have to be honest here, i dont really give a sh*t about that stuff, to me it is them disguising their fetish as a sacrifice to me.
What i look for is an applicant that can some how make my life better, accounting, foot massage, cooking, cleaning, animal husbandry, ect....and if a slave has none of these skills yet still wants to serve and offers me their money, to me it shows commitment and a desire to pitch in to my household.
I find this a more sincere declaration of devotion, then how many times they can wack off wearing rubber banded chopsticks on their scrotum. lol
So that was my point to the OP for him to see that service is really about serving.....but also you may notice, the first thing i asked him is how he felt ripped off, and though he has come back admirably contrite, he still has not answered this. (OP:inquiring minds still want to know)
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does that same hold true for female submissives in order to enrich their male dominants life and make it better? Would the same couple of hundred bucks do a better job than how many times the submissive can "cum for her dominant"?
To me it is yes, but its not everyones opinion I am sure. to me they are apples and oranges....one is voluntarily contributing to a household that supports a slave living out a life that fulfills them, and the other is simply an execise in training.
But in those cases where the slave states that he needs/wants/desires something from the dominant other than a place to live and a chance to serve? Like BDSM or sex or giving something back other than just what the dominant chooses?
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What i mean by that is that a slave cumming for a master is sort of a parlor trick, not unlike juggling....very entertaining. But it is not the same as taking ones hard earned money and putting it where it supports and nurtures a household that i have worked equally hard to create. Exactly...which is why I have stated on other threads that I am not interested in a female submissive who has no intention of finding a job or who can never seem to hold one. But I do feel that part of my obligation as a dominant is not just to accept service from someone whose desire is to serve me but to give what she needs in terms of dominance if what she needs is something that I desire to fulfill in the acting upon of my dominance.
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I will say CD, that i am not a male dom, and i wonder if having a female cum for you is equal to contributing to a household to you? No. Cumming for me is something that is, as you said, entertaining and rewarding as a physical display of my control of her sexuality. It also fulfills something that any submissive that I would choose needs. Contribution to my household...to paraphrase myself from elsewhere...is realization that I expect a submissive female to hold a job and contribute financially to the household she is living in and that, just like it is for me, upkeep of that household will be part and parcel of her duties for the betterment of our living circumstances and the entwinement of us as a D/s couple.
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And what sort of feelings having a slave come for you creates for you as a male dom? Males cum pretty much at anything so for me it is no big whoop, but a lot of females have a tough time reaching an O, so maybe it is different? Younger males maybe...but there again, there refractory period is much shorter than that of most older males. As for the cumming of a female submissive, the difficulty or ease of it is not what I was addressing, I was merely using it as a complementary example to your example of the male submissive. I won't say that it is more important as it has surely been expressed on here before when the sexual interest of femdominants in their male submissives as compared to the use of the male submissive as a non-paid servant was questioned before and the replies came back fast and furious that for many female dominants, there is just as much sexual interest as any other interest.
Thank you for asking such a good question.
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