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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

(Did I mention I'm really happy being single?).

There was a time, some years back, that I wasn't all that happy being single.

I looked at every date, every woman as the "future Mrs. LTR" (of course, I used a different name back then...but nevertheless...).  I thought "She'd do, I could go with that...I could love her..."

Lemme just say for those of you that are in that incredibly messed up frame of mind that says...."I could go with that..."...

DON'T!!!!!

But I digress....

I'm older, wiser...and I met this really great woman (those of you that have seen my many posts...have seen me use the word "chic".

She ain't a chic.  She's different.

She pisses me off just like all chics...she looks like a chic...occasionally she even talks like a chic now that I think about it (which, by the way, really pisses me off) but she's got something more...

(I'd suspect, what she's got, now that I think about it is....more patience than most chics...but...I have to keep remembering...she's still one of "them").

Anyway...a few years ago she tried to explain to me this whole concept of not trying to solve the world's problems within the next 3 months (yeah.,..right!!!...you remember...we're problem solvers....eh? Solutions baby...it's what we do), and...while she tried to explain it to me...I nodded occasionally, gave the appropriate pablum glance...and said..."of course you're right....say, uhmmm...while you're grabbing your car keys...wanna get married?"

She was of course too occupied with explaining to me why I was a complete idiot.

I of course spent the next several years agreeing with her, only long enough to insert at appropriate occasions...."of course you're right...say, uhmmm..while you're grabbing your car keys...wanna get married?"

(Someone did tell me she's deaf in one ear....whenever someone proposes marriage).

Anyhooooo....I like being single (very much)...I'm quite thankful for her indulgence (and patience) and, in case you (she) read(s) this...I'm spending the money I'd have spent on your wedding ring (which, by the way, would have easily equaled most pensioners first and second full year earnings), on a complete remodel of the 12 x 18 room that was going to be your walk in closet and having it entirely remodeled into a fully sealed room, capable of handling 355 gallons of vaseline all the way up to 27 inches high on the wall (and by the way...it's ordered, and I have 6 - 55 gallon drums being delivered Tuesday), I'm adding a 1900 watt stereo system which will be connected to my 11,744 song collection on my home computer stereo system, and I'm going to be spending most days in my closet/vat (I have extra paper towels), and I don't give a fuck if the county comes by and tells me I needed a permit.

(So there!)

(Okay...I'm done with my rant now).

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Then by all means...stay single.

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

Where is that line saying sir "doth protest too much, methinks," from????   M

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ORIGINAL: MizSuz


I, for one, can't imagine how any woman could resist such exclamations of devotion.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I was married young and divorced young (16-22).  I never wanted to do that again until a few years ago.  That, didn't happen and now I am feeling glad about the single thing again.  Marriage.. YUCK (for me).  Single?  I would rather be alone, than feel the way I did when I was married.
*ptui*
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

However, personally having been through the trials and tribulations of marriage and a deep and meaningful relationship, I would stay single and depite Sinergy's questioning whether duct tape is up to solving your problem,
always rely on duct tape in preference to relying on a woman.

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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I was married young and divorced young (16-22).  I never wanted to do that again until a few years ago.  That, didn't happen and now I am feeling glad about the single thing again.  Marriage.. YUCK (for me).  Single?  I would rather be alone, than feel the way I did when I was married.
*ptui*
Kyst

Okay, but here's a valid question (no longer on my rant...everyone can pull in from the shadows)...

I remember being 30, thinking..."Yeah...this is good, (in love with the woman I eventually married) we can build a future...." and all the things that go with that...and looking back of course, you realize that at 30, you didn't have any presuppositions, you could merge in many ways, you and she (you and he) could become "us"...but now...today at (in my case 48), you think "I have my plans...I'm quite specific about what I want, I now have my own (specific) opinions, I want the toilet paper rolled thusly, I like the fact that I can leave my socks exactly where I want them...." and so on...and nobody can argue as to those merits.

So my question is...do you think it's more difficult at an older age (any) to be with someone as a team, do you have greater expectations of that (future partner) person, are you willing to accept less on a continuum than you may have been willing to accept at 23, or...is it exactly the opposite?  Are you more flexible, more willing to accept someone's foibles, not "to have someone in your life", but rather because you've become more seasoned...and you just don't give a shit about all that crap that used to bug you in earlier days?

(It's a good question, isn't it?)

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

Single gosh I love being singly I've dated I've been single I've dated been single again..daily do stuff but HELL does it feel GREAT to be single or does it feel great!!
I do admit though, that when the time comes I don't want to grow old aaaaaaaall alone