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RE: Past repeating itself? - 1/12/2007 8:09:21 PM

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As it was already said, communication and expressing how you feel to the other is key to remove doubts and such.

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RE: Past repeating itself? - 1/12/2007 8:15:18 PM

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What do you do when you see signs of past behaviour from partners in present partners?

If your ex partner was always flirting with others but told you it was harmless, when really they were playing several women at once. You then see your present partner being flirtatious and again they tell you it is harmless.

How do you stop yourself doubting your present partner?

I don't think the question is how do you stop yourself from feeling whatever you happen to be feeling for whatever reason.

I think the question is: Why do you draw people to you that do this? The answer to that question is the only thing you really have any power over, anyway.

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RE: Past repeating itself? - 1/12/2007 8:26:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

What do you do when you see signs of past behaviour from partners in present partners?

If your ex partner was always flirting with others but told you it was harmless, when really they were playing several women at once. You then see your present partner being flirtatious and again they tell you it is harmless.

How do you stop yourself doubting your present partner?

Quite honestly. I tell them how I feel when they do it, and why. I explain what has happened in the past. I then keep my eyes wide open, and trust them until they prove they can't be trusted.

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RE: Past repeating itself? - 1/12/2007 8:39:03 PM

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quite frankly if it annoys me or makes me a loser or ruins my image and rep and its a relationship?!!!!! i have to take the full responsibility ,for my own behavior and look at myself and say do i really need this?
and try to get rid of it(the person and the whole situation pronto) split second; no regrets; like you do when your young and conceited and sure of yourself ;no time for problems and baggage in the affairs of who loves me ,hangs w/ me takes up my time;(think youre supposed to be living and really going places and you dont need a negative ball and chain going in opposit directions ;looking elsewhere aggrivating you all the time)and who really just diggs at me isnt needed ;you end up saying take me home im not having a good time waste money on dinners ;get embarrassed in public places at affairs you ot to be seen at etc;

no regrets ;see ya later;and just dont ans the phone when they call
dinner was nice ;no thankyou ....

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

What do you do when you see signs of past behaviour from partners in present partners?

If your ex partner was always flirting with others but told you it was harmless, when really they were playing several women at once. You then see your present partner being flirtatious and again they tell you it is harmless.

How do you stop yourself doubting your present partner?

Quite honestly. I tell them how I feel when they do it, and why. I explain what has happened in the past. I then keep my eyes wide open, and trust them until they prove they can't be trusted.

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RE: Past repeating itself? - 1/13/2007 5:37:52 AM

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Look inward to see why you choose partners who flirt with others, YOU are the common demonator in all these relationships, find out why you choose these sort of men.

I think in general most people have a flirt now and then and i already recognise it is not a fault in Him. I know its my issue to deal with and im sorry if you got the wrong impression from my post.

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RE: Past repeating itself? - 1/13/2007 5:43:31 AM

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no regrets ;see ya later;and just dont ans the phone when they call
dinner was nice ;no thankyou ....

Thanks for the advice but i wont give up my relationship over a bit of flirting. If you give up so easily on the small issues how do you deal with the really big ones?

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