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Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 11:54:01 AM   
Renorei


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Status: offline 		This isn't necessarily BDSM related, but I need a great way to hurt myself really good, but without causing any permanent damage.  Currently, I spank myself with a metal ruler wrapped in black electrical tape, but I need something a little more painful.  I guess you could say this is self inflicted punishment, haha.  
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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 12:05:41 PM   
Floggings4You


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Status: offline 		Have you considered buying a cane?  You need some training (not much, but a little) to use a cane properly and safely, but one cane can provide several types of pain, and leave little in the way of marks, to some beautiful bruises and welts.  

The ruler probably encounters some air resistance, unless you're striking yourself with the edge.  A cane has little wind resistance, and thus transfers most of the force of the strike to your flesh.

Best wishes for your success...Keith.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 12:07:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		holding ice is often reccomended for folks who have SI (a powerful desire for self injury)

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 12:12:52 PM   
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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 12:18:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		You might want to try frigging with ginger or wasabi.  You can use a candle for  hot wax or a parachute for CBT

Impact play can be tricky since you get to control the rate and intensity, but it can be done as Opus Dei members can probably attest.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 2:02:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Im sorry but does this thread only worry me??

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 2:31:18 PM   
MasDom


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Status: offline 		I use to sew threw my own flesh as a teen.
Then I realized I should start using suiters
instead of normal thread.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 2:44:19 PM   
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I use to sew threw my own flesh as a teen.

I used to sew my fingers together.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 3:01:13 PM   
MissMean


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Status: offline 		There is a thing made by Adams Whips in NYC called a "White Lightening" rod.   It is guarenteed to make you see stars. 

http://www.aswgt.com/whitelightning.html

I own one and have yet to see ANYONE be able to take this rod.  It is lovely and quite intense and nicely inexpensive.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 4:41:49 PM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Clothes pins. Lots and lots of clothes pins.
If you're a real pain seeker try binder clips. The ends need to be taped so they don't cut you though.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 4:43:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMean

There is a thing made by Adams Whips in NYC called a "White Lightening" rod.   It is guarenteed to make you see stars. 

http://www.aswgt.com/whitelightning.html

I own one and have yet to see ANYONE be able to take this rod.  It is lovely and quite intense and nicely inexpensive.

I indeed have been whipped with a plastic cane much like that one.
Used lightly it was very thuddy. Used hard I still have a discolored spot 4 months later and three scars from it.
I'd use it again if I hadn't left it with a friend.
suzanne

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 4:51:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

Im sorry but does this thread only worry me??

Magik's slave

Yeah. Me too. I used to be driven to hurt myself. I know the undercurrent that goes on and in my experience it is not usually good. But I hope we are wrong about this.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 6:32:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Zsuzsanna

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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

Im sorry but does this thread only worry me??

Magik's slave

Yeah. Me too. I used to be driven to hurt myself. I know the undercurrent that goes on and in my experience it is not usually good. But I hope we are wrong about this.


I went through years of therapy and such to stop hurting myself these threads make me feel sick..

If you really wana hurt yourself, you say your a toaster go take a bath that should do it!!!

Magik's slave

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 6:34:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		"Im sorry but does this thread only worry me??

Magik's slave"

I was thinking the same thing.  But was trying hard to shove down that thought and keep an open mind.  Then I saw your post.  Now .... oh hell.  What do I know anyway???

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 6:42:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: Zsuzsanna

quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

Im sorry but does this thread only worry me??

Magik's slave

Yeah. Me too. I used to be driven to hurt myself. I know the undercurrent that goes on and in my experience it is not usually good. But I hope we are wrong about this.


I went through years of therapy and such to stop hurting myself these threads make me feel sick..

If you really wana hurt yourself, you say your a toaster go take a bath that should do it!!!

Magik's slave

I could probably introduce you to a dozen people who have gone through years of therapy to overcome patterns of abusive relationships, yet I know many other people who are in healthy relationships that involve S and M.

I understand that this might be a personal issue for you, but assuming the person who created the OP has the same compulsion as pathological self-injurers is like assuming every Top/Dom/Sadist is an abuser.

Was the toaster comment supposed to be funny? Because, frankly, I find suicide about as funny as you apparently find self-injurious behaviors.



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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 6:46:40 PM   
whisperedsighs


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Status: offline 		I am curious as to why the OP wants to inflict pain on themselves.  Not judging, really curious, have never heard any of the many people I know express this kind of desire.

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 6:53:31 PM   
juliaoceania


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If you're a real pain seeker try binder clips.


Yum, and yes they are painful!

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 7:03:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: whisperedsighs

"Im sorry but does this thread only worry me??

Magik's slave"

I was thinking the same thing.  But was trying hard to shove down that thought and keep an open mind.  Then I saw your post.  Now .... oh hell.  What do I know anyway???


If you take the original poster at his/her word you're worried needlessly.
He/she clearly states that they seek pain "without causing any permanent damage". Unless the OP states otherwise in a later post I think it would be reasonable to say that this one is seeking the pain as a means of sexual arousal, or satisfying their curiousity or as a mechanism to relieve stress.


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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 7:04:21 PM   
Zsuzsanna


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ORIGINAL: whisperedsighs

I am curious as to why the OP wants to inflict pain on themselves. 


As am I. Is it because there is no one there to do it for her? (God knows that I have whipped myself because I wanted it SO bad and no one was there to do it for me)

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RE: Need help with some self-inflicted stuff - 1/7/2007 7:13:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

I went through years of therapy and such to stop hurting myself these threads make me feel sick..

If you really wana hurt yourself, you say your a toaster go take a bath that should do it!!!


Honestly people, if you're so worried about the OP why not write her a private note?  Your responses so far aren't answering the question and make annoying assumptions.  Maybe she's in a distance D/s relationship which requires a certain amount of self-inflicted pain.  There are plenty of reasons within a D/s or S/m context for one to hurt oneself.

To the OP:  A wooden bath brush on a long handle can be used to great spanking effect.  You can also make a small flogger with leather thongs, putting knots in the ropes every few inches.  Repeated use on the back and thighs has the effect of scourging, so you'll have marks without doing any long-lasting damage.  You would be in control of how hard the strikes are and how long you keep at it.

If you're into a service mentality and are willing to invest the time, try this: Sit with your feet underneath you and your butt on your heels.  This posture, used traditionally by the Japanese, has both humility and dignity.  It’s stable, and you can hold it for a long time but it becomes quite painful after awhile, especially when you finally try to stand up and walk again.  It's not dangerous -- you can’t really hurt yourself by staying in this posture for thirty or forty minutes, but it can teach you a bit about humility and pain.  For an added bonus, toss a handful of rice under your knees and shins.

To other contributers to this thread:  If reading this thread "makes you sick," read something else.  Announcing to the list that you're "trying hard to keep an open mind," distracts from the task of actually considering the viewpoints of others.  The OP is not you.  Look beyond your own experience and either answer the question or don't and post nothing.  The sanctimonious "I wonder..." is unhelpful and irritating, especially coming from people who call themselves BDSM "submissives" or "slaves."

~Holly

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