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SimplyMichael -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 8:17:01 AM)

I tend to only play with people with whom I am sexual and I am not sexual with many.  There are a very select few with whom I "just" play and those I hug goodbye because to me a kiss is intimate in a different way than my play is.




SATANMAN -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 10:56:18 AM)

the reason i said nothing is because my sub is always of clear mind and kn ws whats going on.




hereyesruponyou -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 11:00:27 AM)

A "that was nice hug" if it is deserved, otherwise just a catch ya later and i'm outta there. Also depends on if we are leaving where we played separately or at the same time and who is leaving first.

For you??? Big hugs of course, and a ball squeeze




julietsierra -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 1:42:49 PM)

At Thanksgiving one year, my mother asked me if I wanted pumpkin, apple or pecan pie. I said "yes please."

So, that's what I was reminded of when I read this thread.

While I am in a long term very committed relationship, my answer would have to be "yes please."

We've hugged. We've kissed. He's patted me on the shoulder, spanked my butt, poked a bruise or just flipped his coat on and walked out the door with a "see ya."

It depends on his mood, why he's there, what he's thinking about when it's time to leave as well as a myriad of other things. Most of the time when he just says "see ya." I hear him chuckling as he walks out to the car cause he usually knows I'm sitting in the house kind of confused, a bit miffed and struggling to figure out what the heck he was doing.

And then, I hear him chuckle and I chuckle thinking "oh, it's like that this time huh?" and get on with life. We laugh about it a few days later. Sometimes, if his timing is off (there are these ridiculous cycles that seem to afflict me and he likes to take advantage of them when he can), I call him crying...we talk. I feel better and then I hear him laughing again...and I realized he's done it again...tipped me over just to see me work on righting myself. It's all part of living life with a sadist.

Life is good.

juliet




WhiplashSmile -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 1:45:25 PM)

I'll give both a hug and a kiss after play.  If it's somebody connected with well, a deep passionate kiss.  If the experince was not so hot a simple brief quick kiss.  Sometimes a kiss on the lips, or a kiss on the forehead.  Then again, I do this with a lot of the vanilla girls which are friends of mine as well.   Hug and a kiss goodbye.  The type of kiss depends upon how deep the connection is.  There are some girls which are friends which I do not kiss simply put.  Because I am not that attracted to them.  But I will always give them a hug goodbye.  I never play with somebody I'm not attracted to.

If I can hug and kiss one of my lesbian friend goodnight, why not the girl which I just used and abused?  A hug and a kiss reflects how much you appreciated them.  Nothing wrong with that.  Personally, for me, sharing a simple tender moment afterwards is an awesome twist, because I am twisted and enjoyed twisted up things.











CollaredByBob -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 1:52:39 PM)

Being a slave Id imagine it depends on your relationship that you have with the person you are in the moment with, its difficult to answer. My Master is always loving attentive affectionate and kind, its a very sexual relationship therefore a kiss would be mutually fulfilling but it depends on what Master would like from me. He takes what he likes from me and i am happy to serve and provide as best I can. 




MistressSassy66 -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 1:58:37 PM)

For first time sessions its always a handshake as they are walked out.
Then it depends on the person.Some still get a handshake.
Some get a hug.A few get a kiss on the cheek.A couple get a kiss on the lips.
The special people get a hug and a kiss.




grlneedstolearn -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 3:00:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

When your at play or in session, and the person your with (that being the sub or slave) has finished their time with you, do they leave you with receiving a kiss, or a hug or something else?

This question does not pertain to married  or longterm relationship partners but more to those who play with others as either a pro or occassional .

The reason for the question is I have spoken to others that feel the hug is acceptable for a good bye , while a kiss is something  more personal. I was woundering how others felt about the importance of  either at the end of playing?
Does it somehow ever leave subs/slaves getting the wrong idea or take away from training in some way?


My dom has me hug him before he leaves, or he'll ask for a kiss on the cheek, or he'll give me a kiss on the forehead. It just depends on how well i did during our playtime.




WhiteRadiance -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 3:00:42 PM)

If I play with someone, they are going to get a hug. If they're worth my time, they deserve and get a hug after a scene.
I have yet to have a masochist tell me I ruined his headspace.




princess4Sir -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 5:29:26 PM)

my Dom and i have never parted ways without a hug and kiss (or 2 or 3 or
a million) - i guess we are just both very lucky that we so enjoy both kisses
and hugs - as a matter of fact, part of greeting him is presenting myself
for as many kisses of whatever manner and length he desires -
i am a very lucky "sweet submissive princess" - thank you Sir




mp072004 -> RE: Kiss or Hug or nothing? (2/16/2007 5:37:57 PM)

quote:

how importain is the softer side or the abilty to just to show that person that they meant something to you . I guess how do you show that sub or slave that everything they go through for you really matters?


I like to play casually. People who bottom to me often don't want our time together to _mean_ anything special, or "really matter," and I often agree. Spending time together means that we enjoyed playing together, or giving and receiving service, or whatever the activity of the day was. It doesn't mean that we care for one another. It means that we each think the other is not crazy, reasonably good at the necessary skills, and somewhat attractive.

Which doesn't prevent me (or, likely, them) from enjoying a bit of cuddling. I certainly hope I can cuddle with people without indicating that there was something really significant about beating them up! :)

Monica




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