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LadyHugs -> RE: Discipline (12/26/2006 12:58:34 PM)
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Dear Ladies and Gentlemen;
This posting is not in response to any one post and or writings, and or individuals.
In my mind's eyes I see, that "discipline" is very wide in it's use. Discipline as mastering an art/skill, discipline as mastering self such as a diet and or growing in a spiritual way, etc., Discipline as far as maintaining order and or discipline which is connection to punishments.
I agree with KnightofMists, where he identified "Discipline" as a tool not the tool that fits all. There are many things Dominants can apply, using the least amount of force necessary as to 'drive the point home,' per se. From the "look" (Dominants know what I mean--slaves/submissives get deer eyes in the headlight look and a huge gulp) to heavy impact corporal punishment; with everything in between.
What needs to be said further, is that with Discipline, there must come good intent, good judgement, good understanding of the infraction prior to 'punishment' and establish if it was a mistake, accident and or willful disobedience, as to manipulate and or control the Dominant into a behavior, such as 'pain' through discipline/punishment. Along with Discipline, there is a need for a big dose of patience and compassion. Before punishment, there needs to have been long prior to the infraction, a clear understanding of what misdeeds will reep consequences. This isn't kindergarten or child's play. We're dealing with adults and teaching/training can be done effectively with a good conversation and why things need to be done a certain way. But, it also needs to be said further; slaves do train, educate and inspire their Masters as well. Masters need to be open to it and both slave and Master need to understand, that nobody is a 'know it all' but, acknowledge each may know a lot.
In addition--Masters and slaves must operate on trust during lessons and or training, as well as when the slave goes solo; putting into practice what was learned and, to allow the slave to put their 'spirit' or their 'style' into serving, as long as it is within the boundaries of the lesson.
Discipline is what keeps the lessons orderly and the authority structure in place however, it is not the license to be oppressive or cruel. When the slave puts into practice what is learned; the Dominant transfers the power and the discipline for the slave to manage. Just as it is a transfer of power and discipline to educate others, as to best manage their daily life. For an example, in teaching the slave about the disciplines of getting into a physical position as a second nature, they use that position as to best handle impacts and make it the least painful as possible. `Tis the second nature, to which a Master seeks for a slave to learn and master, thus gains their own self discipline and are empowered by such.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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