DiurnalVampire
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Joined: 1/19/2006 From: Nashville, TN Status: offline
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Ive noticed that there tends to be 2 main trains of thought on here (and on the majority of relationship sites vanlla and otherwise) There are the people looking for something long term, who believe that they should get to know the person they are with. The mutual kinks and such are a good groundwork and they seek to build something beyond that so there is an actual reality to the fantasies they met under. There are also the people looking to get immediate gratification. There are those who dont see past the kinks and who either dont particularly want or havet considered a long term relationship within the lifestyle. They want to get their fix, and are wiling to doit quickly and with minimal emotinoal and time involvement. Occasionally, there are people who want something longterm but who accelerate their search and want faster involvement. Its play first, learn about one another later. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. I heard from a very good friend once : "Its easier to build a vanilla relationship with the one you want, and then put the BDSM aspects in once youve got it, than it is to build the BDSM relationship of your dreams and try and fit the vanilla parts in later." DV
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I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox Snarko Ergo Sum If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb *Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07* VampiresLair
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