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Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 2:40:52 PM

Nosathro

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Hello All

I do not know about any of you but I have noted that in many profiles and it seems to be growing that, at least the women here have been contacted by men and instead of a friendly hello and welcome..they get some really rude comments.

Makes me wonder what is happening.

I wish you well

Nosathro

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 2:43:50 PM

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I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying that the men contacting the women have been rude? Or are you saying that the responses from the women to the men contacting them have been rude?

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 2:45:44 PM

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It isn't just you. I don't what is happening except that perhaps on the internet people feel they can dispense with social grace. I've been solicited for prostitution, called a cunt as a first greeting, had someone try to buy me with jewelry and asked if I was fingering myself, among other things. All this while my profile clearly states that I belong to someone. I honestly don't want to know what sort of mail I would be getting if I was unowned. Thank goodness for the delete button!

Edited to add: Just realized I may have misread your post. If so, I'm sorry. But I would like to say that the only time I grow rude with men who have contacted me are the ones who are a) telling me my dominant isn't "man" enough for me, b) asking for nude photos of me, c) seem to be trying to insert themselves in my life as a dominant or d) are asking for information about me that I considered unneeded, my sexual habits or such. If a man makes those comments then I generally direct them to my dominant and if they continue contacting me, then yes I do snark them. I feel they have disrespected myself, my relationship, and more importantly, my dominant.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 3:00:37 PM

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I would put it down to a growing number of HNG's...not interested in D/s in any form, just a quick jerkoff.
I rarely use expletives other than when I hit my thumb with the hammer or some such incident. Nor do I use insulting manguage as a motter of course. I find that, when necessary, good english is quite sufficient to put someone in their place.

"A diplomat is someone who has the ability to tell someone to go-to-hell, in such a way that they actually look forweard to the trip" lol
Subs and slaves deserve at least as much respect as anyone else, even if, from their Dom, it is disguised as a reprimand or humiliation. If s/he doesn't mean it that way, they don't deserve their sub.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 3:06:54 PM

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It's hard to tell if it's bad manners or no manners at all. When i first went on-line i used to answer all my e-mails (although there weren't that many then or now..lol), but i don't do that anymore. i specifically say in my journal that i don't answer 1 or 2 word (or sentence) emails, or when i do write declining i mostly get a return letter that starts listing all the reasons why i should change my mind, or whining, or name calling -- none of which i need. i admit it goes against the grain (and my upbringing) to ignore a letter, but it's usually easier all the way around.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 3:11:11 PM

alovelylady4U

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i have had a few replies that i was not sure how to take. i even wonder at times how some of my replies are taken by O/others ~ i can have an odd sense of humor at times, or abstract "what if " questions, in short? i think W/we all have experienced it and it is experience that reminds me W/we are all so very different. And thank heavens W/we are, shoot if all roads did lead to Rome, i would have missed some fantastic places like Stockholm, London, Pairs, and "Bug Tussle TN?" Were some of the replies instant deal breakers? - sure.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 3:19:09 PM

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Bug Tussle? And I thought Elko NVwas interesting, LOL.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 3:53:58 PM

Serenityy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nosathro

Hello All

I do not know about any of you but I have noted that in many profiles and it seems to be growing that, at least the women here have been contacted by men and instead of a friendly hello and welcome..they get some really rude comments.

Makes me wonder what is happening.

I wish you well

Nosathro

Hello Nosathro

I must ask; is it the women who are rude? or is it the men contacting the women who are rude?

Either way, such is the way of the Internet, I am sorry to say. For some, it is easy to forget the manners that one was brought up with; for others, it is an easy escape into a world of anonymity. Either way, it is shameful that so many resort to such tactics.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 4:17:33 PM

nikaa

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Nosathro,

The reality is in life we encounter rude people and online gives people a buffer if you will that protects them from any real consequences for their actions or words. People like this remind me of children who are so starved for attention that they mishave, thinking negative attention is better than no attention at all.

For that reason I tend to ignore rude e-mails because I refuse to give them the attention they seek.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 4:44:50 PM

alovelylady4U

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Yes~ if i remember from TV land and the re runs? Granny is from "Bug Tussle TN" i always loved the idea of a town so small and connected. But what the others say is true, there are all kinds of differences. And true where i may have found the comment offensive, rude or way out there (we should start a list of them?) Someone else may consider it terms of endearment? But to simply ignore is probably the best way to go. Unless you are like me and tell the telemarket guys that seem to know when i am cooking dinner~ how badly you want their what not and if they can give you a minute, you need to run and get your gold card, then put them on hold and go on about your cooking.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 4:59:22 PM

MaryT

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I don't know how many are intentionally rude and how many are just plain clueless. The more I tighten my profile, the more intentionally rude messages I get. That's all good because then I'm not wasting time corresponding with men who would eventually get intentionally rude anyway.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 5:03:34 PM

SadoCasinero

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One aspect maybe that there are a lot of frustrated (for many reasons) folk out there who have jumped on the Net 2.0 social networking bandwagon expected it to be an instant panacea for all their unmet social needs. Then when they find they "even there" they still can't get instant gratification its just too easy and safe to mouth off.

Plus there is a growing trend with younger folk for whom IM/SMS is a way of life, towards what older folk would perceive as unwarranted vulgarity and which to them is just a way of talking, without the implications that their parents would see in it.

Its tough, though, when you suspect that your own polite "of course :)" message has a good chance of going un-noticed amongst the flood of junk hitting the women's mailboxes.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 6:08:30 PM

whisperedsighs

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CaptainBligh

I would put it down to a growing number of HNG's...not interested in D/s in any form, just a quick jerkoff.

Remind me again what a HNG is?

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 6:11:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SadoCasinero
Plus there is a growing trend with younger folk for whom IM/SMS is a way of life, towards what older folk would perceive as unwarranted vulgarity and which to them is just a way of talking, without the implications that their parents would see in it.

Nah, I'm 31 which is neither extremely old nor young, but I can say that many people whose social life is almost entirely online haven't developed good social skills. They truely are jerks, your first impession was the right one.

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 6:25:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: whisperedsighs

Remind me again what a HNG is?

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 7:01:59 PM

akbarbarian

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And here I thought it was Horny New Guy

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 7:22:41 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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Nosathro...It is not a growing thing..it is what it is...Simply however ,as one grows older many wonder what the world is coming to...That is a natural way of humanity..and aging....Do you not remember perchance your parents often exclaiming.What is this world coming too?"...now as time passes "we" are becoming our parents!...lol...we always think we are sooo different...then BLAM...we notice repetition and same mistakes made..gotta love the higher powers and their sense of humor!..

...Tempting

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 7:45:15 PM

xonemasterx

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You mean a "hello slut" and a picture of my penis is not the way to get to know someone? Is there more of me or her to know?

Help! My paradigm shifted without a clutch!

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/22/2006 8:02:19 PM

MzMia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nosathro

Hello All

I do not know about any of you but I have noted that in many profiles and it seems to be growing that, at least the women here have been contacted by men and instead of a friendly hello and welcome..they get some really rude comments.

Makes me wonder what is happening.

I wish you well

Nosathro

Hello Nosathro!
You are on target with this post. I am not sure where to even start here.
I will say that, the majority of the men that approach me are kinky bottoms
looking for a TOP.
This is the short version.
I have rejected most that have approached me by now, so I don't get that many
rude comments anymore.
But there are some real nut cases around here.
I had one so called submissive, go ballistic on me about 3 weeks ago because after
2 or 3 emails, I would not send him a picture.
I blocked him, and he created several new names like "ForgiveMeMzMia" and has
been begging for me to forgive him.
I told him I forgive him, but I am not interested in going any further.
You need a great deal of common sense online and around here or you will be easy
prey for those with less than honorable intentions.
This particular man I believe needs serious mental help, I hope all women on here are
cautious and err on the side of caution.
Try to use common sense.
Common sense ain't that common!

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RE: Is it Me? - 12/23/2006 4:20:02 AM

Alastair

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Just to redress the balance a bit its not solely limited to the men. But i do agree unfortunatly the "men" are more prolific.

Apologies for spelling slightly dislexic and my spell checker is asleep.

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