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mgdartist -> RE: Cheating (12/17/2006 1:40:04 PM)
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I have never cheated on a woman/gf/sub...sexually. I have been cheated on several times.
I didn't want it, or like finding out, but for some reason couldn't make myself seem to care.
I was most upset with myself for not getting jealous or being possessive enough. One ex I had always said: "The only thing worse than a very jealous and possessive man...Is one who isn't whatsoever."
For most men, as myself, there is no cheating except at the physical, sexual level. I've had ex's feel I was cheating if I watched porn, or talked to anyone online more than casually. This percieved emotional betrayal, always stunned me, till I finally learned the emotional arena is the woman's home field.
But here's the part I could never quite grasp: Compared to men, the woman's sexual ability and "armaments" if you will, is vastly superior to men's. Given the wish to do so, a woman could readily "service" upwards of 5 gents per day, and even more if highly motivated. Hookers do it all the time. Compared to her rapid fire field artillery, we men have but a derringer with 2 shots max, unless still in our teens (*generally speaking). Paradoxically, outside the world of poly, women are the ones who invariably seek and require strictly monogamous partners, and seem the most emotionally devastated when betrayed. Men, it seems, will cheat when almost any "fuckable" availability presents itself, while women are driven to it usually, by some lack or dysfunction, or need for vindictive reprisal in their current relation.
I one read that the real reason men usually cheat however, is much deeper in their psyche that the crotch area.: Because they fear death.
"Say what? ...no way." was my initial reaction. but who knows? It would indicate a more quantitive view of ones sexual conquests, and perhaps stupidly keeping score of how many we can nail before we croak.
So obviously, I have little real understanding of your dilemna, and shouldn't judge or condemn you till I do.
However, for your sake, and as a special favor, since you asked, will pass sentence as deemed obvious...by me:
You are spoiled, willfull and greedy, and should be strung up and whipped publicly, then after being fitted with a chastity device, left till nightfall on display. Once suitably punished, you should be caged and confined in strict restraints, and verbally humiliated constantly for your lascivious nature. If your hubs isn't up for the daunting task at hand, I suppose I could step in and help out.
..oh, your quite welcome, and don't mention it.
MGD
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