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Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 7:58:24 AM

Hardspanker44

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I have noticed an unsual protocol in the lifestyle. Here is the usual scenario, there is a very sexy picture in the profile and a notice they want to have friends but they are currently owned by a Dom and they are happy and dont want to be castled for it. Sound reasonable? It is to a point, but I am wondering, does it really meet the test of authenticity. When does a Dom become the conflict resolution secretary for a Subbie who broadcasts her affiliations and couples that with a sexy picture; inviting as she does attention from men. There is the underpinning that she doesnt want to have friends who are attracted to her sexy picture; and that her Dom can then act some crazy scenario of dominance and protection. Probably it would be better for the Dom to have her take the picture down, and simply let her answer whatever. Afterall, There is no such thing as complete absolute slaves or submissives. It is against the law and nobody has the right to determine what you read or do with your life. A slave should come from the perspective of healthy mental attitude, maturity, and a genuine dedication. It should not be alot of drama and controlling by the Dom. A Master does not control by giving alot of rules and restrictions; a Good Master rules by nature of who he is and what he stands for. Often times the slave is learning about life or simply wants to have another in charge. Either way, one has to be careful about doing things that are healthy. And loud caveats and billboard size signs about your DOM are so much BS and reflects a very caddy approach. The best way to announce such a relationship is simply say it as it is. A More conservative picture is good. I have written scores of emails to people onthis chat without the least idea about a relationship beyond a chat once in a while. Afterall I cannot presume that one could really have a relationship with someone who is so ruled bound. lol In my humble opinion.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 8:01:51 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Hmm I thought we were done with the rants about the obvious for awhile.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 8:09:26 AM

juliaoceania

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My first question is why you would care what people do on their profiles.. I do not understand that. I may have curiousity about why people put things on their profile, have opinions about that, but it does not rise to the level of thinking I should tell other people how to organize their photos or relationships.

I have a pic of me on profile that some would construe as sexy, and I have had even sexier ones in the past. I have my Daddy's name on my profile, I have no desire to email with other dominants. I do not answer their emails unless they email repeatedly, and then I ask them not to, only then will my Daddy email them and politely ask they refrain from emailing me further... this has happened a grand total of one time.

Now you may think this is silly, weird, or whatever... but it is not like it matters a whole hell of a lot to me. I have my profile up for me, not for you and other doms... so as to your opinion about my dynamic due to a pic on profile, and my naming my Daddy on there is really not that important in the big scheme of things. If I were you I would ask yourself why you even care enough to not only start a thread about this topic, but why you think it is incumbant upon you to insinuate yourself into other people's relationships. They have a dom obviously who approves of their profiles, it is their relationship, their power exchange, and really it is none of your business

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 8:14:03 AM

SaphireLynn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

My first question is why you would care what people do on their profiles.. I do not understand that. I may have curiousity about why people put things on their profile, have opinions about that, but it does not rise to the level of thinking I should tell other people how to organize their photos or relationships.

I have a pic of me on profile that some would construe as sexy, and I have had even sexier ones in the past. I have my Daddy's name on my profile, I have no desire to email with other dominants. I do not answer their emails unless they email repeatedly, and then I ask them not to, only then will my Daddy email them and politely ask they refrain from emailing me further... this has happened a grand total of one time.

Now you may think this is silly, weird, or whatever... but it is not like it matters a whole hell of a lot to me. I have my profile up for me, not for you and other doms... so as to your opinion about my dynamic due to a pic on profile, and my naming my Daddy on there is really not that important in the big scheme of things. If I were you I would ask yourself why you even care enough to not only start a thread about this topic, but why you think it is incumbant upon you to insinuate yourself into other people's relationships. They have a dom obviously who approves of their profiles, it is their relationship, their power exchange, and really it is none of your business

*clapping* very nicely said....
Ms. Lynn

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 8:30:07 AM

daddysprop247

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Hardspanker, something else you should realize is that sometimes a submissive or particularly a slave's profile is entirely created by her Master, as mine was. if there is a "sexy" picture on my profile, it is because my Master purposely put it there. if at the same time he did not want Dominants to contact me, that would be his perogative. as it stands, he doesn't mind my communicating with anyone really unless they disrespect him or our union. and to be honest i usually am not aware that anyone has contacted me until after my Master has told me, because he is most often the one who checks my mail and things of that nature. He will also occasionally respond to someone (usually the rude or idiotic) from my id as himself, in somewhat of an aggressive manner. it is not about "protecting" me...this is the internet after all, not a seedy airport bar....it's about controlling me. folks who own other folks tend to be control freaks. :) if this is something that irritates you or contradicts with your own personal ways/beliefs, then perhaps ignoring all such people would be your best bet.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 8:55:38 AM

RiotGirl

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He isnt getting laid Julia and he's exposing why its everyone elses fault.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 8:57:09 AM

juliaoceania

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

He isnt getting laid Julia and he's exposing why its everyone elses fault.

You know the term "sour grapes" came to my mind too

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 9:07:00 AM

RedSavageSlave

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Hey and lets not forget that perhaps some would like to have others envy their owners for what THEY have.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 9:10:35 AM

EvilGeoff

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hardspanker44
When does a Dom become the conflict resolution secretary for a Subbie who broadcasts her affiliations and couples that with a sexy picture; inviting as she does attention from men.

When the men who respond to the profile are total asshats who think that they can snake a gal. Fer cryin' out loud, a submissive (or Dominant) can post whatever the hell he/she wants in a profile, to include hot, sexy, naked pictures. And if she says she's attached, dorknuts ought to know better than to be a panting, drooling, hard-on fueled troll.

The Reader/responder is responsible for their actions and replies. Not the poster of the profile. Game? The only game being "exposed" here is the one happening in the mind of the person responding to a profile thinking they can snag the submissive away from their partner.

YIK,
- Geoff

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 9:12:40 AM

RedSavageSlave

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I wonder if the OP is also of the opinion that girls in low cut blouses and mini skirts deserve to be raped as well for being too sexy?

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 9:18:36 AM

RiotGirl

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can i envy yours?

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 9:27:28 AM

RedSavageSlave

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LOL>.. I just tried to send you an email but your profile doesnt show..should I send it to your alter/ego?

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 10:17:32 AM

MasterFireMaam

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In our society, a woman (or man) is allowed to present themselves in any manner they choose...but still say, and mean, "No." Going against that no is dissrespectul as best, rape at worst.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 10:25:52 AM

crouchingtigress

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quote:

Here is the usual scenario, there is a very sexy picture in the profile and a notice they want to have friends but they are currently owned by a Dom and they are happy and dont want to be castled for it.

lets see...castling a sub...that is a D/s term i am not familiar with....but...i will guess that that would be sliding her over to the left or right and then jumping over her...

sounds kinky.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 2:10:34 PM

Morrigel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hardspanker44

I have noticed an unsual protocol in the lifestyle. Here is the usual scenario, there is a very sexy picture in the profile and a notice they want to have friends but they are currently owned by a Dom and they are happy and dont want to be castled for it. Sound reasonable? It is to a point, but I am wondering, does it really meet the test of authenticity. When does a Dom become the conflict resolution secretary for a Subbie who broadcasts her affiliations and couples that with a sexy picture; inviting as she does attention from men.

Some men find their women beautiful and enjoy showing them off--dominant, submissive or vanilla. They would no more deny the rest of the world the joy of looking at their beautiful mates than they would lock the Venus de Milo in a coat closet.

Sometimes you're allowed to look and not to touch just about any woman.

Deal with it. A woman does not need to be wearing a "don't look at me" burka in order to not want sex with you.

--M

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 2:32:54 PM

Zensee

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Morrigel

Deal with it. A woman does not need to be wearing a "don't look at me" burka in order to not want sex with you.

--M

Yah? But what if it one of those come-hither burkas, eh?

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 2:36:55 PM

meatcleaver

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Where sex is involved people have the brains of rabbits. That counts for the sub, the dom and anyone getting horny over a posted photo. I find it beyond belief that people keep discussing behaviour, criticizing, making justifications, claims to be moral, trusting, having integrity and whatever else gets discussed in such threads as these concerning apparent weird and inexplicable behaviour. Think sex, think rabbits. That's as intellectual and as deep the sense gets.

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 2:41:25 PM

Fawne

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Does the OP think subs should all don burkas?

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 2:51:05 PM

Aileen68

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hardspanker44

I have noticed an unsual protocol in the lifestyle. Here is the usual scenario, there is a very sexy picture in the profile and a notice they want to have friends but they are currently owned by a Dom and they are happy and dont want to be castled for it. Sound reasonable? It is to a point, but I am wondering, does it really meet the test of authenticity. When does a Dom become the conflict resolution secretary for a Subbie who broadcasts her affiliations and couples that with a sexy picture; inviting as she does attention from men. There is the underpinning that she doesnt want to have friends who are attracted to her sexy picture; and that her Dom can then act some crazy scenario of dominance and protection. Probably it would be better for the Dom to have her take the picture down, and simply let her answer whatever. Afterall, There is no such thing as complete absolute slaves or submissives. It is against the law and nobody has the right to determine what you read or do with your life. A slave should come from the perspective of healthy mental attitude, maturity, and a genuine dedication. It should not be alot of drama and controlling by the Dom. A Master does not control by giving alot of rules and restrictions; a Good Master rules by nature of who he is and what he stands for. Often times the slave is learning about life or simply wants to have another in charge. Either way, one has to be careful about doing things that are healthy. And loud caveats and billboard size signs about your DOM are so much BS and reflects a very caddy approach. The best way to announce such a relationship is simply say it as it is. A More conservative picture is good. I have written scores of emails to people onthis chat without the least idea about a relationship beyond a chat once in a while. Afterall I cannot presume that one could really have a relationship with someone who is so ruled bound. lol In my humble opinion.

I think you made a mistake and meant to join the site that has profiles of mindless, doormat subbies that view their submission as a "gift".

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RE: Protective Of Subs: The Game Exposed - 11/29/2006 2:53:44 PM

Morrigel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Zensee
Yah? But what if it one of those come-hither burkas, eh?

YMMV.

--M

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