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RE: How do you deal when you are dumped....or is it duped? - 11/25/2006 9:42:06 AM

crouchingtigress

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i have not read all the posts i admitt..but i did want to jump in with some hugs before i left for work and to echo the other posters:

dont beat yourself up
he sounds emotionally inadequate, (so you dodged a bullet there)
you did do all the 'right' things

and maybe if there was any advicei could give i would say forgive him...see him as inept and wounded....as opposed to cruel or selfish..
because this is very likely true...the most cruel and selfish folks are the folks who have been wounded and never developed the skill sets to heal it properly.

this does not excuse him...but it allows your heart to soften and be more loving to yourself and to the next man that comes your way.

and never forget :

live every week like its shark week...
you are cute as a button from what i have seen and some will be lucky to have you!!!

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RE: How do you deal when you are dumped....or is it duped? - 11/25/2006 9:45:33 AM

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cry a lil, drink a lil, cry a lil more, then move on.... find someone better, no one is worth loosing sleep over....

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RE: How do you deal when you are dumped....or is it duped? - 11/25/2006 10:27:23 AM

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Don't ever feel bad for writing or trying to reach out to others eroticangel...just like TxBlkMistress said...ignore the negative posts! Take what you can out of the positive ones and know there are people out there rooting for you.

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RE: How do you deal when you are dumped....or is it duped? - 11/25/2006 9:31:57 PM

CandleInTheWind

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moss angel,
Im sorry that you seemed to do all the righ things...the things that i woul dhave done to ensure that he wasnt a player...after all I am worth waiting for...anyone that tried to push me into playing or anythign physical before i feel ready gets abig go away from me...and after 8 weeks you did agree to playw ithhim...i would have thought that i would have known him by then as well... a similar thing similar but not hte same whne i was a newbie...and i learned the 230am trick...if i am not able to call someone at 230am and he isnt concerend rather than angry to hear from me...well then i do not want o hear frm him

inmy case the fella i was seeing turns out was married...he had told me he was sepparated...yeah when we meant he was separated..his wife was visiting her mother at the time...but i learned the 230 am call...if a cannot call randomly at 230 or 400 am and i actually warn these fellas that i do it...if someone makes a comment that they shut off their phone at night...well then unless they give me a house number to call them on...it is a no go...i feel that i should be abet o call someone that i am going to be completely invovled with should be available for me....

after all as a submissive i am available 25/7 for them they should be available for me...as a submissive i give of myself physically for the emotional connection so therefore if they arent going to be available i dont want to deal with it..

so that is just one more test to add to the others that you obviously did take care of.

again i feel the pain honey and i do hope that youa re able to regroup soon...andsomeone good will come your way i now the good ones are hard to find...

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RE: How do you deal when you are dumped....or is it duped? - 11/27/2006 2:39:30 AM

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greetings

i am so deeply sorry he did this and if we only could name names but we can not here. he is what i call a fool and he was justing looking for someone to have and then just leave. this happen to another woman i wrote to he left without saying why. there is something somewhere you will remember he said that was out of place if you think back, i had subs i have spoken to and not meant but they changed their minds fast i do not know what he was looking for nor do i know what some of the subs look for when they do this. it is heart breaking ours is a trust not given to just anyone we work on knowing them and trusting them with our heart and for submissive it is so hard too have this happen he was a fake a no good bum. to take you that long and then drop up is beyond cruel i have a saying what comes around goes around and trust me someone will catch him off guard and do the same . the love of my life did this to me i was rpegant we were to be married and one day he did not show up i was worried sick i had to wait to call him at work and he just said i am not coming back. a man like this is so bad he was dominant type and i fell so hard for him. but as the years when by he never saw our son once maybe and then so many years went by, as i said you do not do wrong to someone and think somehow or way you will have luck so bad you wished you had been kinder well some years bad i recive a letter stating he was in prision and i know how much he love the open air and the sea well he hit someone and kill them i do not say he had this happen for what he did to me but things will not be good for this men. he left my son and i to strave and he was so weathly. you will be okay this will hurt for sometime but do not waste years on it as i did and do trust another dom just take your time as you did but maybe a little longer. he was most likely married dear. you have my deepset feeling. ( please everyone what i mention about my son father and what happen to him is one thing that happen to him he did not even want his brother to even help his nephew so it not saying all heart break with suffer like he did they will suffer something wrong is wrong to hurt someone)

please take care dear
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