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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/13/2006 10:39:55 PM

DiurnalVampire

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ORIGINAL: Mikida
Guess I should get straight to the point. Why do I feel more like a girlfriend instead of a slave? I want to serve him and be punished when I act inappropriately. How do you make that a reality?

Whats wrong with feeling like a girlfriend AND a slave? They do not have to be mutually exclusive all the time. Obviously, it would be a poly relationship, since your Master does bring others into the picture.
I know in my perosnal relationship, my cherished pet is also my boyfriend. There is no blurring of lines, the two arent separate roles, just how we interact.
Sometimes, though, someone might treat their cherished pet a little differently than the others. You need to let him know that you do not necessarily want special treatment. Since you are new, and he knows that, he needs to lead you through your discovery period. It is up to him to teach you, and see what you do and dont enjoy.

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/13/2006 10:54:08 PM

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This might give you some insight:

Can love get in the way?

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 3:22:57 AM

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But your profile gives a completely different story which is much more tentative about your current ability to commit and indicates that you are still looking.

Possibly things have moved on from then in which case a revision would be a good idea. I don't question that you feel yourself to be a slave and aspire to be one in reality one day, but are you truly a slave at the moment and could this misconception be part of the problem?

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 4:07:28 AM

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I had a somewhat cynical thought or two when I read your post.

Just a few things that MIGHT crop up in my mind........

He *gives emotionally to so many others*.......... Well, that's an admirable trait..........but may just leave you feeling a little short-changed?

I'd probably wonder why *giving a friend a place to stay and get away from it all for a few hours* ..needed to result in bdsm play?

* I cherish you more than that* .....Somehow would appear to be a glib *fobbing off* and incomplete explanation.

Ahem, my cynical slip is showing.....sorry.

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 4:25:15 AM

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You mean he may not be the one for her :O Heaven forbid not finding the right partner on the first go. This to some people is a crime in the lifestyle and say to her to stay put and try to work it out but reading the quotes your copied from the op i'd say she is more a trophey then anything else.

And to move on to better pastures.

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 5:17:41 AM

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As a submissive male i can relate to what the O P is saying. i have been released by two former Mitresses who could no longer punish me or order me to do some of the other tasks i.e menial housework that i normally did.They started to like me and could no longer be strict. michael

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 8:42:39 AM

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Am I the only one who thinks that someone is burning their candle at both ends.

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 10:31:35 AM

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Quite possibly, Raymond. I sometimes think you're alone in a lot of the things you think about. *grins*

Anyways.

Two people up from me..servantforuse...check out some of the threads about whether or not love has anything to do with D/s.

There's been some interesting ones, and I think that it goes right along with your past situations. It's amazing how opposite ends some of us are in our beliefs of how D/s blossoms between two people.

I for one am of the personal belief that you at least have to -like- someone to be involved in any kind of BDSM or D/s activities.

So I'm not sure why anyone would have released you because they started to like you. To me, that's ludicrous and a little backwards.

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 3:03:01 PM

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Aine he probably did'nt do windows. Not true about liking someone. Some pay Pro Domme's

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RE: Should I feel more like a girlfriend then a slave? - 11/14/2006 10:20:09 PM

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I was leaving pro dommes out of this one.

I was talking about contracted or even non-contracted dommes that take on say....service slaves or subs. That's what it sounded like to me.

And if you don't like the person and trust the person on some level, how the flaming hell are you going to let them into your place of residence to do things for you?!

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RE: Girlfriend vs. slave - 11/15/2006 5:41:40 AM

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surely b4 you were collared there was plenty of talk about the role you would be , your place in His life and what was expected from you ? If he caned some one else and said He doesnt do it to you as he thinks more of you does that mean he picks the cane up on them he thinks less of ??? interesting !!

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