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Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 9:30:25 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Another post got me thinking again about something I've pondered since I found CM.  One of our dear memebers mentioned our site, CM as " a sex forum " in one breath and in another " a sex cum dating forum ".  Please understand in no way am I pointing fingers I've always found this person's posts to be rational and well thought out.  Definatly not your typical HNG.  A part of me agree's with him, yet fully I can not.  Just reading a bit on this side or the other you'll hear over and over again that this is not all about the sex.  Yet, is that how ~we~ view this? 
What I mean is it's obvious from so many first posters who find the boards from the other side where their heads are at.  .. ... ... I'm not saying sex isnt involved when I look at this from my point of view, but it's not the starting point. 

So, I am asking you how you view CM, and the lifestyle. 


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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 9:44:49 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I saw that post too.  That is how he views it; it is not how I view it.  I have never searched for sex, dates or orgasms here.  My Master administers those already.

I come here to engage in discussion on topics that interest me, and through the course of that I have come to befriend a few like minded people.

But everyone's experience is different.  His is obviously different than mine.  On the profile side of CM, there are probably many out there who are searching for just what this person you refer to said.  There are also those who search for something with deeper meaningful relationships.  I'm sure there's a whole gamut of reasons people come here....or should I say cum here

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 9:45:37 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		It is what you want to make of it. The personal side has people looking for the One and certainly that would not make it a sex hookup site, but there is also plenty of people on the site from both genders and roles that are not looking for anything serious and that realistically means hookup. Sex part can certianly be a part of that as well. For some sex has nothing to do with the life, for others it is all about bedroom play and for others it all mixes together.

How I view the life is it is all consuming. I do not separate sex nor do I think it is all about sex. What I do think this life does that helps in the sex area is let people feel free to talk about sex and not lock it away in a closet like many people in the regular world do when first getting to know each other. Sex is a very large drive for most of us and therefore talked about and looking for someone compatible is a good thing in my book. I applaud people who will talk about it just as long as they can also talk about others things.






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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 9:48:24 AM   
Aine


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Status: offline 		Similar thread idea of mine a while ago:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_606020/mpage_1/key_Dating%252CSite/tm.htm#606020

Might get some of the same kinds of opinions in there somewhere


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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 10:27:10 AM   
smilezz


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So, I am asking you how you view CM, and the lifestyle.

They are two separate things to me.  CM or any other forum i may participate in...surfing the web...etc....when i click that logo to get onto the web, i am doing it for my own entertainment, regardless of  what that venue is.  I can say i have some great conversations with people, i have learned from researching and speaking to others.  I have met some outstanding individuals......but quite honestly, getting online is for one's self entertainment......again, whatever that venue is.

I see the way that i live as a choice...it is how both Thorns and i choose to live our lives.  It has nothing to do with CM or any other venue online.  I will certainly admit that Thorns and i did meet online almost six years ago.....i'm not saying online is a bad thing...........there just comes a point where you practice what you so desire/crave in real life........or stay on the merry go round and play that game.

Oh....and to add.......yeah, it could be a sex cum dating site......nothing different than any other site online.  Depends on how one views it is all.

just my .02 of course...
~smilezz~

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 11:00:43 AM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		I think the personals side can be abit of all that.  How many people are over there just looking to get laid?  Anything is what you make it really

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 11:10:23 AM   
Caitriona


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Status: offline 		My goals with CM are simple:  learning more via discussion and making friends that I can also learn from.  Perhaps one day we'll utilize it as a dating site if we decide to take in a slave.  But for the moment that's not the goal for me.

As with most things, it is what you make of it.


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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:04:37 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		Honestly i think people get confused!!!

BDSM is about sex, it is a sexual orientation just like beeing gay is. No beeing gay doesnt mean you are all about sex but the title is a sexualy based title. Now all the things we do are not sex, but please gimme a break our scenes are sex related... I dont know this is just my opinion and its prolly not gunna be a popular one with all the people that say BDSM isnt just about sex!! I really wish I could explain my feelings about it better but I cant seem to find the right words. So this is the best I can do!!

Magik's slave

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:08:57 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I'm just trying to figure out which sense of "cum" he meant in that phrase.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

Another post got me thinking again about something I've pondered since I found CM.  One of our dear memebers mentioned our site, CM as " a sex forum " in one breath and in another " a sex cum dating forum ".  Please understand in no way am I pointing fingers I've always found this person's posts to be rational and well thought out.  Definatly not your typical HNG.

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:18:58 PM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		i joined this site as a meeting ground for people but not with a view to sex i accedentially stumbled upon my boy on bondage.com but its a site i dont post in it seems very scarry this site is much more welcoming

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:19:38 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm just trying to figure out which sense of "cum" he meant in that phrase.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

Another post got me thinking again about something I've pondered since I found CM.  One of our dear memebers mentioned our site, CM as " a sex forum " in one breath and in another " a sex cum dating forum ".  Please understand in no way am I pointing fingers I've always found this person's posts to be rational and well thought out.  Definatly not your typical HNG.


Why the cum that comes from sex of course!  Hence, "sex cum"

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:23:20 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Have you seen any other posts 'with' latin in them, eminating from that source?

Ron


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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:24:39 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Have you seen any other posts 'with' latin in them, eminating from that source?

Ron



LOL you're on a roll, lately.

And I don't mean an eel roll.

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:29:54 PM   
Emperor1956


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Ron:  Have you seen any other posts 'with' latin in them, eminating from that source?

Ron


I dunno.  Didn't he say he graduated "summa cum loudly"?

E

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:30:30 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear Quivver, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eye, I can agree that our sexual preferences go to the vein of M/s, D/s, BDSM, S&M.  I would be bored with someone who didn't feed me in the non-traditional manner, such as female dominant and male slave/submissive relationship.
 
It really is about getting what we want in life.  So, in a country where it was founded on the religious slant/religious freedom, it still was hobbling womens desires to get what they want in life.  Just like the right to vote, women were denied so long.  Perhaps this is why women vote more than a man, as it was a right hard fought to obtain.
So to, in BDSM (used very general) to get the right to be treated, in my case as a dominant entity, with the desire to have men subserviant to me.  Sensual indeed spot on, sex is a mere part of it but, important to say and make clear; that sex is not the only thing on my mind or in the column of 'individual' want/needs.  People are more than sexual objects--thus, I would say that Collarme.com attracts the salad bar of choices.  Some only look for the kinky sex.  People like me, much prefer to find a relationship and or have good conversation and growth through seeing in another's mind's eye.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 
 

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:34:29 PM   
BlackKnight


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Status: offline 		Why do people who are attracted to each other, get together. I'm a heterosexual, If I didn't want sex in my relationship I would be able to go out and whip the guys, Gross!  I'd have to kill them then.  The feeling of power, not necessarily doing anything, with a slave gives a adrenaline rush, Just hearing the 'yes master.' and knowing she wants my will to be done, is an incredible feeling that is arousing. lets face it we're human, the reason is to mate, in all terms of the word, bonding, mentally as well as physically.  It's not all about copulation, What we talk about here is another form of sex. Filling One chemical need for another.  One emotional need for another.  Filling our desires, with someone who's desires correspond with yours.

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:41:38 PM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		MagiksSlave, I have to disagree...for ME while sex can be a great part of BDSM I throughly enjoy pure S&M play with no sexual contact involved and I enjoy submitting on a nonsexual level too, more of a service oriented type experience. I find both to intensify the sexual experience when things do go to a sexual level...but as a single unattached sub who is still growing and learning and wanting to experience all that I can I have had many encounters that are not sexual. Some of those nonsexual encounters have also been the most intense for me both physically and mentally.

aurora

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:43:17 PM   
BlackKnight


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Status: offline 		Alright, that was for the personals side, for the last year or so I really just been enjoying the forums, does that go to mating on the emotional side?  A platonic bonding sharing ideas views?  The codependency of the human race to not feel alone cause we like something different?  NaaHHH forget about that silly stuff, I'm going back to my sexchemical dependencysubstitution idea,  it leaves me less vulnerable.


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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 12:48:17 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: aurora31

MagiksSlave, I have to disagree...for ME while sex can be a great part of BDSM I throughly enjoy pure S&M play with no sexual contact involved and I enjoy submitting on a nonsexual level too, more of a service oriented type experience. I find both to intensify the sexual experience when things do go to a sexual level...but as a single unattached sub who is still growing and learning and wanting to experience all that I can I have had many encounters that are not sexual. Some of those nonsexual encounters have also been the most intense for me both physically and mentally.

aurora

To tag onto this, BDSM may or may not include sex.  D/s and M/s may or may not include BDSM.  It is not a universal concept that BDSM, D/s or M/s is about sex.

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RE: Sex cum dating site - 11/12/2006 1:14:02 PM   
Siona


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I dunno.  Didn't he say he graduated "summa cum loudly"?

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