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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 4:50:19 AM

HalloweenWhite

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You're right-there's not much point in sending out messages, most don't get replied to. Some probably don't even get read.

From time to time you will get messages though, but only if/when people know you exist. My advice is read the forums and post an answer to a question every time something catches your eye-other people who read and post there will see you and over time will remember you.

Also, once people have started noticing you comment on the boards, they may well be curious about who you are, where you're from and what you're into, so make sure you have a half decent profile and write in your journal as often as you feel like it. Don't worry about writing pages of deep stuff. Just write how you feel on a particular day, or about something equally trivial.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 5:10:04 AM

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Halloween is right. People do notice you on the boards. I get mail from people I never saw on here. Lol and as everone knows on here I really dont write deep stuff. If your grammar is as bad as mine you will have to learn to ignore the English police on here.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 5:18:20 AM

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I agree with the others here. I do ask for a picture when someone is emailing Me, because when I do reply it feels more personal if I have seen their eyes(just a personal thing). The physical looks themselves don't matter. If they followed the other directives in my profile, I do try to answer back irregardless. The forum side is by far the best way to get noticed. I have talked to many on CM that have become friends strictly because of these boards, and as alot of others here, think it shows more completely the person if you can read their thoughts over time.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 6:09:21 AM

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If you contact the ones you are interested in a respctfull way and include a picturelink it might help.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 6:12:42 AM

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Kc692 has a good point a pictureis good but for me its the face that really counts so be sure that its a clear one likethe sayings go the eyes are the window to the soul and the mouth holds back the fire of the heart.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 1:13:22 PM

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Its hard to describe what I mean about tough typing.

But I'll trt in this way... I dont mind, infact I like, dirty talk, but sometimes it can go a little too far. Like the sub is their complete slave/bitch. Though I do realise this is what happens with most Dommes... but what im looking for is a toned down Domme... so really I guess im just looking for a switch lol.

Thanks for all the advise given. The most of it seems to say I have to work on my profile (I did delete the writting I had in it last night) so I will get to work writting something more descriptive about myself when I have a chance. I did also add a picture to my profile, but I dont think it has been accepted yet.

Thanks again :)

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/8/2006 8:36:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: fkinebil ... but what im looking for is a toned down Domme... so really I guess im just looking for a switch

Sorry to burst your bubble, but a switch is NOT a toned down Domme. We can be just as nasty, or worse (try a session with a Leather Mistress who id's as a switch

). All a switch is, is someone who is capable and willing to be both Domme and sub.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/9/2006 5:04:32 AM

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Sounds what your looking for is someone to mother you. You are in the wrong place for that.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/9/2006 8:35:34 PM

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I feel like I'm in a similar situation to the original poster. For myself, I've noticed a couple of things that work best. Forgive me for repeating what others have already mentioned.

The best way to gather attention is to use the forums. I've posted maybe 4 or 5 times, but each time I usually get an email or two from someone who read the post and wants to talk/argue/call me an idiot.

I've found that if you post something in your profile that grabs people's attention, they're more likely to respond. The younger crowd on here tend to respond to bold, unexpected statements (like my current profile message). I've posted long, detailed lists of my expectations and what I like, and the only comments I received all asked me to define an abbreviation I used.

I personally look for pictures when I talk to new people. I hate to sound shallow, but many times people will say they're 25 and their pic looks like 45. Or they say they weigh 115 and yet their picture doesn't agree. Not everyone takes a great pic, but seeing how honest people are in their profile means a lot to me.

If you're worried about posting a recognizable pic, try to get a pic of yourself that most people won't recognize. Maybe wear a blindfold or something, since you're a sub.

You've got pretty big expectations if you think you'll find a perfect match on this or any online service. I've met great friends online before, but I've every one of those friendships and dates took months to arrange and develop before we ever met.

Best of luck.

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RE: How to get noticed? - 11/9/2006 9:13:55 PM

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Thinking a switch is a toned down Domme is going to get you in a world of trouble. I know a few that are more extreme than I am, and I am strictly Dominant.
You may be looking for someone who isnt into the extremes, which is not a problem. Even if you are looking to be mothered, thats findable. I am a Mommy Domme, so we exist even if it is in the minority. The thing is, you have to make yourself stand out and be worth responding to. Include a vanilla picture. Tell a bit about yourself and make it obvious you read their profiles and information and youve put some effort into writing to them, and it isnt just a cut and paste email. We do at least skim most of the mail we get, so if you are worth reading, it probably will be read. If you dont try, its te surest way to make sure you arent noticed.
Making a name for yourself by posting on the forums is a good idea. WE get to see a ot more of your opinions that way and it might get you more attention. You might even wat to contact someone you see on the forums yourself, and reference a post they made as a conversation starter.

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