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Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:17:55 AM

HebiDom

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I am so fed up with friends of mine who are genuinely nice subs, getting shite from wannabe Doms who don’t have a clue about what they clam to be. I have set this up so any sub that has had a bad experience with a Dom can post his name on here, the more times his name appears the less likely anyone will contact the timewasters.
Equally any nice Doms that you know please mention them so they can stand out proud from the scummy timewasters.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:22:43 AM

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One person's "wannabe" is another's dream. It can be very subjective. Not only will such a thread be pulled because it's a violation of the TOS but it is also a dangerous thing to mess with people's reputations. Especially when one does not know the whole story or the person posting. There can be a perfectly wonderful Dom and a slighted sub being vengeful. Seems like something that can really not be regulated to a point where it would be helpful without any potential for abuse.

That being said, do your homework and screen potential partners carefully. If someone does not suit, move on and forget it.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:26:39 AM

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HEH love how people read the TOS befor posting stuid stuff!!

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:33:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HebiDom

I am so fed up with friends of mine who are genuinely nice subs, getting shite from wannabe Doms who don’t have a clue about what they clam to be. I have set this up so any sub that has had a bad experience with a Dom can post his name on here, the more times his name appears the less likely anyone will contact the timewasters.

As has already been pointed out, such actions would violate our TOS and therefore are not allowed here.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:34:12 AM

HebiDom

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I do agree to a large extent of what you say, however if someone it reputedly mentioned by different people then that surly says something. I suspect this will get taken down but we need to be a self policing community looking out for each other. I know three subs in the last two weeks that have been in tears over there doms just deciding to disappear on them. On stated he had family issues somewhere and wasn’t coming back and another never even had the guts to say anything so she has no closure at all.
If this gets removed then I hope it at least sparks some realisation that a great number of people on here are not genuinely who they say they are and to me they are an embarrassment to the lifestyle.

I do appreciate your point and think you put an intelligent argument up.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:36:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HebiDom

I am so fed up with friends of mine who are genuinely nice subs,

According to you....one side of the truth here...

getting shite from wannabe Doms who don’t have a clue about what they clam to be.

Opinions- yours and theirs....

I have set this up so any sub that has had a bad experience with a Dom can post his name on here, the more times his name appears the less likely anyone will contact the timewasters.

Interesting...Self declared "dom" patrol? *LOL!

Equally any nice Doms that you know please mention them so they can stand out proud from the scummy timewasters.

How about we just start a big list of the most nicest, and the most hated, and just spend time picking everyone apart...comon...should be fun...eh? * LOL!

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:37:34 AM

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Just like real life, the best way to establish a relationship is to get to know someone. I never listen to gossip.

And on a different note...

Hi, Mod 11!

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:40:36 AM

HebiDom

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In one of the cases I know both parties involved and he was very much in the wrong

So how do you propose to deal with the ever growing problem of fakes and wannabies?

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:43:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HebiDom

I do agree to a large extent of what you say, however if someone it reputedly mentioned by different people then that surly says something. I suspect this will get taken down but we need to be a self policing community looking out for each other. I know three subs in the last two weeks that have been in tears over there doms just deciding to disappear on them. On stated he had family issues somewhere and wasn’t coming back and another never even had the guts to say anything so she has no closure at all.
If this gets removed then I hope it at least sparks some realisation that a great number of people on here are not genuinely who they say they are and to me they are an embarrassment to the lifestyle.

I do appreciate your point and think you put an intelligent argument up.

People who know what is best for others are usually full of it.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:43:33 AM

spanklette

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Stay out of their business and you won't have a thing to worry about. If you pay attention to your own affairs, you'll see the warning signs before the need for tears.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:44:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HebiDom

In one of the cases I know both parties involved and he was very much in the wrong

So how do you propose to deal with the ever growing problem of fakes and wannabies?

I believe there are things called the delete button, ignore button and block button. That is the way to handle fakes and wannabes, otherwise just learn to DEAL with them for they are EVERYWHERE!

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:45:46 AM

raiken

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It is not my responsibility to patrol the cyber waves, i don't want the job. Why do you?

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:46:46 AM

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Where is the responsibility on the part of the submissive to make sure that she involves herself with upright people? I am not off the hook in making responsible dating choices because I am submissive. Being submissive does not absolve me from checking people out, getting to know them, making judgments based on intuition and experience. There are vanilla players too, and the last I looked they do not have "asshole lists" for vanillas, why should we have one here?

Instead of getting mad about jerks that exist in the world you would be a better friend in giving your friends common sense advice on how to spot insincere users or abusers than you would be in trying to police the internet. It is a lot more productive of an endeavor. Naming and Shaming really does nothing but make both you and the person you "out" look like idiots... because some will believe in your heresy rumor list, and others like me will think you are vindictive... a no-win for both sides.

Here are some tips that you can look at and reject or embrace, but if you are looking online or your friends are it maybe helpful to you

http://submissive1.homestead.com/onlinedominant.html

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 9/26/2006 11:47:07 AM >

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:47:22 AM

HebiDom

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I don’t want to be involved with others business, Id just like to see something enforced to ensure genuine people are on here. Like on alt you can go threw a process that proves who you are

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:49:11 AM

MASTERRocker

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Raiken - "It is not my responsibility to patrol the cyber waves," I thought we gave You the honour...... I will check the last minutes........
MASTER Rocker

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:54:26 AM

HebiDom

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Cool didn’t know that sight existed, ill pass it on

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:54:49 AM

MsKatHouston

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That's probably not going to happen. Even if some rating system were put in place or whatnot, there is always a way around to abuse. This is a site, it's a business. Negative exposure that would reduce the population on the site, thus affecting advertising, will probably not happen. Better to take steps to educate yourself and those you care about on how to better screen potentials. Network in your community. Get into real life clubs as well as cyber. If you learn to reduce the risk of getting involved with those not suitable for you (whatever definition you have for that) you will be much better off.

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:55:08 AM

spanklette

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How do we know you're telling the truth? Don't answer that.It's all cyclical.

If you know both of them in a "new" relationship equally well...then you're too close. Trying to blacklist people in an online forum is invasive and unfair. Which, incidentally, is one of the reasons is against the TOS. Hmmm...what about a list of people who post without reading the TOS?

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:56:05 AM

MsKatHouston

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Also, there are numerous threads here on how to screen and what to look for. I will save posting of those threads for the pros...where's LA when we need her? :P

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RE: Good Dom, embarrassing Dom - 9/26/2006 11:59:57 AM

raiken

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MASTERRocker

Raiken - "It is not my responsibility to patrol the cyber waves," I thought we gave You the honour...... I will check the last minutes........
MASTER Rocker

Hey! Hold da boat? LOL! If anyone should have the honor, i declare it to be MASTER Rocker! How bout it folks? Should we vote? *grin He is very good at mixing words i see....lol

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