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ORIGINAL: Frank01

I feel guilty and a bit abused if someone tells me I screwed up after the fact.

It makes me not want to play with them again.

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Safewords... never used em!  lol  Tho there isnt any pride with that = )  Never been an option before.  Ya know, i had a safeword 2 or 3 weeks ago in the public setting which was "i'm gonna kick your ass mutherfucker"  That was my safeword, because i knew when i reached the point of WANTING to kick some ones ass, i'd be done.  That's my limit when it starts to hurt too much and i can barely take it - i get abit pissed = )  Course it didnt pop out of my mouth.  LOL 

LOL - i should prolly try using something like with any other public scenes.  Not something calm like "red" or "blue" but something that i can vocalize how i feel in the heat of the moment.  Because as it seems to be, i'm not a calm quiet girl when it comes to those public scenes.  i stomp my foot, i stick out my tongue, i tease, i have witty things to say, i act like a brat, i laugh, i hollar, i make TONS of noises, i dance around i'm told, i even use my restraints to suspend myself in mid air...

i think when with the last toy that was used, every time it landed i said "oh snap" 

but see, my question wasnt on the scene.  Cos i had fun and it was all good.  My question was how to get past an inside barrier of not being able to communicate appropriately.  Though, i dunno.  i think Top Cat has it. 

and i dunno.... i dont think there is anything wrong with pushing yourself.  Its prolly all i was doing, was pushing myself.  I think if one is in a safe enviroment, all ground rules - formalities laid out, with experienced and intelligent ppl around - its okay to push yourself.  Plus, i think its interesting to see how far some one can go.  I enjoy pushing myself though i do have a tendency to push myself abit too hard at times.  Ie when i'm working out, the only time i slowed down was when i thought i was i going to pass out.  (course i've learned since then to EAT before hand and i dont reach that spot) 

As far as you Creative - i think its wrong to blame anyone else for something that was wanted.  We are ultimately responsible for ourselves, aye? 

interesting thread to start when one is beyond exshausted!  Tho i do appreciate everyone who helped put it straight in my head.  i didnt do anything wrong  = )  Which of course was my concern

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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

dur.. yeah i'm going on and on.. (i'm worn down from the head down) ya know my friend is suggesting a green, yellow, red system.  But i'm sure i'd give greens!  lol.  But oddly, i dun have this problem with my Daddy.  i got noooooo issue being like "whoaaaaa"  or letting him know its too much. 

<shrugs> maybe its the challenge?