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Shopping mall trips? - 9/7/2006 9:32:33 PM

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I'm taking my sub with me shopping tomorrow for some clothing and what not. Since I didn't feel like going through the hundreds of posts trying to find if this was ever a question, (I did go through 10pgs and the posts started looking all the same to me). But what do you do when you take your subs/slaves for shopping at a mall? I've seen grocery stores, but not malls.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/7/2006 10:08:33 PM

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I shop and he opens the doors and he gets to carry all of the bags .He holds my purse while I try things on and then when I decide what I want he goes to stand in line with me to pay for it. When we have lunch he pulls out my chair for me and pushes it back in, sometimes I order for both of us, sometimes I allow him to order his own. We check out other women together which he finds fun and amusing. We both have similar tastes in women so we comment to each other back and forth.

If he behaves himself I'll allow him to purchase a new pair of panties or a bra for himself. He is into the crossdressing thing and its alot of fun for us both. Or if I'm feeling kinda frisky, I make him go into Victoria's secret as I watch from outside while he fondles the filmy lingerie and gets odd looks from the ladies in there.

He usually comes out with a tent in his pants and a bunch of giggles from me. subs are so much fun.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/7/2006 10:42:04 PM

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bishop is the best to go shopping with...I never have to touch a door,that would include the car door.
she holds My coat and anything else I have,she always does that stuff though,thats why I like shopping with her,that and she has much better taste and knows its okay to be honest.
I dont do much shopping with the males,I usually have them go alone and they have to wear what they bought to their session.The few times I have taken them with Me I expect them to be exactly like bishop.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/7/2006 10:59:29 PM

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I havent had a chance to take my boy shopping much, since we are LD. The one time we did go, though, I didnt touch a door, or a bag. This time, we have plans to go to a store, Walmart or something of the like, and do some supply shopping for my hotel room. I would like to take him into the lengerie section and see if we can pick something pretty out for him. I dont know if he is quite brave enough for that just yet though.
I do know that when we do to dinner, he opens dors, puls out chairs and all the usualy gentlemanly stuff. He even stands up every time I leave and return to the table.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/8/2006 8:41:23 AM

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Thank you to all for the responses. He's a little shy and very new to this so I want to ease him into it. I've already told him that he is to buy my a new outfit for our party next week and he agreed. So it should be fun

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/8/2006 10:17:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: GirlyDevil

Thank you to all for the responses. He's a little shy and very new to this so I want to ease him into it. I've already told him that he is to buy my a new outfit for our party next week and he agreed. So it should be fun

Just making a guy pay for your stuff isn't being dominant. If done insensitively, it can make him feel like you are using him. Unless he has a fetish for being forced to buy things for women (and many men do have this fantasy), be careful of relying too much on "oh, and you have to pay, because you are the sub" mantra.

In my opinion, making anything a "femdom experience" has more to do with attitude than acts. Do you want to "pretend" to be the femdom while shopping, or do you want to be it? Do you want to make sure you are doing the things that "make him feel submissive" or do you want to feel empowered?

People have suggested things like making him carry the bags and open doors. Vanilla men do that quite often also. Some people will suggest adding humiliation or fear play into the game -- threatening to or taking him into a ladies dressing room (with permission from staff and respect to the others present, which is tough), making him try on lingerie. But unless *you* get off on that kind of button pushing, it's not quite the same.

Go back to what in your core makes you want to be dominant. What pushes your buttons? Making a mundane mall trip into a femdom experience for me could vary greatly depending on what "mood" I was in. I might make a guy keep his hair wet the entire time, because somehow that "look" was getting me hot, and I wanted to be perpetually hot. I might make him walk innocently with his hands behind his back at all times, so I could pretend he was shackled. I might go to the gourmet candy store and take the sample and turn to him and demand, "Eat this. Open your mouth," and get off on his immediate reaction.

The carrying of bags and opening doors is mundane. If I want to feel empowered, I have to cater to my own lust.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/8/2006 10:39:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

In my opinion, making anything a "femdom experience" has more to do with attitude than acts. Do you want to "pretend" to be the femdom while shopping, or do you want to be it? Do you want to make sure you are doing the things that "make him feel submissive" or do you want to feel empowered?

People have suggested things like making him carry the bags and open doors. Vanilla men do that quite often also. Some people will suggest adding humiliation or fear play into the game -- threatening to or taking him into a ladies dressing room (with permission from staff and respect to the others present, which is tough), making him try on lingerie. But unless *you* get off on that kind of button pushing, it's not quite the same.

Go back to what in your core makes you want to be dominant. What pushes your buttons? Making a mundane mall trip into a femdom experience for me could vary greatly depending on what "mood" I was in. I might make a guy keep his hair wet the entire time, because somehow that "look" was getting me hot, and I wanted to be perpetually hot. I might make him walk innocently with his hands behind his back at all times, so I could pretend he was shackled. I might go to the gourmet candy store and take the sample and turn to him and demand, "Eat this. Open your mouth," and get off on his immediate reaction.

The carrying of bags and opening doors is mundane. If I want to feel empowered, I have to cater to my own lust.

Akasha

I think those things are only mundane if you and your partner believe they are.

When Fox and I are together, there is no doubt in our minds that I am the mistress and he is the slave. He considers opening doors for me, including the car door, to be a service and carrying my bags a privilege that I can and have denied him in the past. We talk about what I wish and shop where I wish and he offers his honest opinions when I give him permission to do so.

We may look mundane and even romantically silly but there is no confusion in our minds or in our language.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/8/2006 10:47:55 AM

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The last time, I took the sub that I was in relationship with out to mall shopping with me, mainly for the purpose of picking up items for play or just to have some fun, we went to Victoria's Secret. Once there, I had him go through the sales bin to pick out panties in his size. We'd discussed beforehand that he would be picking out some items, but he had no idea, he'd be fumbling through that sales bin where all the other ladies were huddled around bumping into one another. It was fun watching him get through the task a bit flustered. Especially when I'd have to send him back over for bringing a wrong color or style to me. He also had to search for bras, but at least those weren't in the sales bins. I'm sure he was glad none of his patients walked in VS to see their Dr in such a state. I would have loved to hear him explain that. Knowing him, he would have handled it magnificently.

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RE: Shopping mall trips? - 9/11/2006 4:29:20 PM

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I have taken my best friend TV to the mall and grocery store numerous times over the years dressed. I was his first experience out of the closet.
She is hardly passable with her 6" stilletos brings her to almost 7ft.

Relax, at this time and age it seems like every store is cool with having a male trying on bras and skirts, & dressing up for a shopping venture,especially Victorias Secret. Also the MAC counter for cosmetics. They were so cool!

Even the cashier at the grocery store that was ringing up my girlies tampons & maxis was having fun.

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