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RE: Have you ever known someone like this? - 9/1/2006 7:07:40 PM

WhipTheHip

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ORIGINAL: Lorelei115
I am currently dating someone who is SO a submissive and completely doesn't realize it. I was cooking dinner for us the other night only to turn around and find him folding my laundry for me. I asked him why he was folding my laundry, he said because it made me happy. Aw. How sweet. LOL. He also drove an hour and a half from his house to mine and back three days in a row just to help me get my new car. And every time I turn around he's washing my dishes for me. These are just a couple of examples, there are LOTS more. My question is this. Do I tell him he's a sub? And how? He knows about my involvement with the BDSM lifestyle and hasnt expressed an issue with it. Is this something I should just let him figure out on his own? Or is he not actually a sub, just a really sweet guy? Should I just let the relationship be what it is without having to put "labels" on it, or will putting a label to it help him to understand himself a little better?

Be open and honest with him. Don't tell him what he is, and what he isn't.
Let him tell you!!! Would you like him to be your sub? Ask him if he would
like to play your sub for a day. After the day, ask him how he liked it.
Ask him if there was anything he didn't like about it. Do you also like
being a sub or a bottom? If you do, tell him your likes. Take him to a
club, and let him watch how guys flog females. Tell him, that you would
like him to tie you up and flog you. Tell him your sexual fantasies, and ask
him to tell you his sexual fantasies. Ask him if he has any ***DARK***
fantasies. Tell him your dark sexual fantasies, then ask him if he has
any ***DARK*** sexual fantasies. Let him know that you are not scared
by fantasies, and that you understand there is a big difference between
fantasy and reality. I can't believe it when two people are lovers and
never talk openly about the things that turn them on. When you are laying
next to him in bed, tell him your fantasies, and ask him to tell you his
sexual fantasies.

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RE: Have you ever known someone like this? - 9/1/2006 10:31:39 PM

FangsNfeet

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He's submissive in pleasing you and making you happy. However, things are known to change when in the bedroom. Also, if there's a serious situation where you are becoming stressed out, there's still a good chance that he will take controll and call the shots.

Anyhow, he sounds like a great guy for you. I hope it works out for the two of you having a D/s and S/m relationship to both your likings.

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