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LawnLoverTX -> Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 11:09:11 AM)

Hello Everyone,

     Just to let everyone know, I realize some of the profiles of the submissive
women in the 39 to 50 age group to be a bit misleading. Profiles not truly
specifying age comfort levels. After one to many replies of.... "Age does matter,
good luck in your search..."  and... "My son is almost your age..." ...and... "My
grandson is also your age..." then the classic... "I'm not your mom, go find someone
much younger.." To avoid unpleasant feelings being hurt, is there a way to put
age groups together? Create a focus group to segregate age differences. If the
Dom is 29 to 38  Subs must be 28 to 37? Ect? I know this sounds stupid, and
corny, the kind of blow offs I get are classic, and for aspiring Doms to learn the
rules, and Lifestyle, does he now worry a sub he's attracted to, is old enough
to be his mommy, and now the older sub feels she has to play wetnurse? LOL
Nah, she'll tell him her son is as old as the aspiring dom and if the aspiring dom
don't "GET THE HINT" the group and Website authorities have to step in.

    Let's make the profiles more clear that age discrimination and age segregation
is in order, and that older Doms must be with older subs, and younger doms with
younger subs. That's the fact of life, that's the truth of existence. As long as the
older subs, slaves, ect want older doms, and masters, then lets make it a little more
clear shall we? I'm crying to the fact and truth, I'm 34, and I must find subs in my
age bracket. Sorry ladies, if you are older than 38 then you get a senior's discount,
and have to take the senior's bus. :)

This may be controversial, and might escalate some points, yet the facts and the
truth is clear. Age matters, only except if the Dom is older, or old enough to be a
dad or granddad. The profiles I saw, most of the subs want a dom daddy figure.
Let's try to communicate that fact, and make it plain... "Doms under 38, please
go to the kiddie section!" LOL

Shalom,

LawnLoverTX



cuddleheart50 -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 11:27:41 AM)

Hello and Welcome to the forum.



shadevarr -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 12:00:23 PM)

I can understand your plight Lawlover for I have a preference for women roughly 10 years older than me due to maturity and sexual tastes in that age bracket. Nothing is quite as annoying as being rejected on the basis of age and not something more personal. I'd rather be told that I wasn't their type, or they don't date men with long hair as opposed to being too young.



pahunkboy -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 12:10:36 PM)

IMO- if anything is going to last...with me, they would have to be of simmilliar age. with in a few years.

a fling or other friendship is possible- but for long term, there has to be commen ground after the looks fade.



ToServeIsToLive -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 2:40:51 PM)

The net is an inpersonal place.  So expect inpersonal things like age differences to affect your ability to start communication with people.  I've been in a working relationship with someone 21 years older than me, and it was indeed awkward at times (can't really introduce someone almost as old as your mother to your mother even if you try to keep the non-vanilla stuff secret...).  We didn't meet over the net though and I doubt we would have ever gotten to the point we did if it started out on the net.



LaTigresse -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 3:07:54 PM)

I don't know, I just don't consider age to be that important to me. I have met some 23-30 y/o's that are much more mature and interesting than some over 40 y/o's. And I have met some 50+ y/o's that were wayyyy sexier than some 20somethings. I like to get to know the person. Who was president, or what the cool song was when they were in school doesn't matter  much.



luciddream -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 3:23:16 PM)

Age comes up a lot in the replies I get.  I am 27, recent college graduate, entry level job market...  My parents are very young 44 and 47.  I get creeped out beyond all belief at the idea of a relationship with someone older than or just closer in age with my parents.  It's a preference.  I'd like to keep my partners between 24 and 36.  It's what I'm comfortable with. It would take a LOT for me to go beyond that.  Maybe my opinions will change with age?? 



MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/27/2006 3:36:35 PM)

My personal opinion on this subject is that if a person has age restrictions, they should clearly state them in their profile so that those reading it know whether to approach them, or whether they'd be wasting their time.  The ones who do not clearly state what they seek should not be surprised when folks of all ages approach them, since they didn't specify anything in particular.
 
I know people who prefer someone around their same age (like Me), some who like older people, some who like younger people, and some who don't really care.  I think everyone is entitled to seek what makes them happy (though I wish some of the more unrealistic ones a lot of luck--they will need it!)
 
However, the sad fact is that the majority of people who respond don't read profiles at all (seems to be around 90%).  If someone fails to respect the guidelines I have stated in My profile, I simply don't reply to them, as I have done My duty in forewarning them that they'd be ignored.  If they choose to shoot off replies before reading people's profiles, that's their choice and they should expect few, if any, responses in return.
 
Lady Topaz



twicehappy -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/28/2006 3:47:59 AM)

The best thing you can do is state your age preferences in your profile though as many have already stated many do not bother to read them. Personally the age does not matter only what kind of person they are.



popeye1250 -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/28/2006 5:37:35 AM)

Lawnlover, "I feel your pain."
At 55 years old lots of women want guys like me for "Daddy Doms".
Some as young as 21 too!
Lots in their 30's, 40's, & 50's too!
And even women in their 60's and 70's want us!
If you make it to your 50's you're gonna love it!



LawnLoverTX -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/28/2006 8:57:07 AM)

MysticFire,

     I agree, if age is going to be an issue for "some" subs / doms then please make
it plain, or give some vauge, or limited reference the age comfort levels, or some
alternative wording... "Age Restricted Apply"  or  "40's 50's and 60's kind of sub
or dom seek same." or... "Under 39 is NOT Divine.." LOL Someting to indicate
on a profile, so that there is an age issue between groups.  "Senior Citizens need
only apply.."  or... "Folxs under 39 are not allowed."  I begin to think collarme,
is just for old farts who got money to spend, time on their hands, and those under
40 aren't allowed.  I am getting the impression, and discouraging miffyness, or
"disuasion" that www.CollarMe.Com  Is simply for old folks over 40, who are
fearful of losing their youthfulness, and thus promptly throw away younger hearts
who have plenty to offer, that need guidance, experience, and wisdom to be good
dom's and subs.

     Mistakes can be costly, youthful hearts who are sensitive to a sub, will learn
the discipline, safety, consensual means to have a lasting Dom/Sub relationship,
that helps make groups like Collarme.com a place to turn to for alternative
lifestyles. If all of the matured, elderly, seasoned subs, and doms give curt, cute,
and or blow-off-ish notes before you know it, if they don't perservere, or get
determined, then some will reconsider and forget the Lifestyle. From the success
so far, that don't seem like its going to happen in the short term, but what about
the long term?   If there are no Dom's to teach young doms the way, and how
things get done, won't the next generation be so misguided, and hurtful be the new
norms? Where lipservice replaces heart service?  Fear can do many things, and
if applied correctly, fear can do good things, if it gets out of hand, it will destroy,
and tear down what took a long time to build.

Shalom,

LawnLoverTX



NastyDaddy -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (8/28/2006 9:15:18 AM)

You speak as, and use the term Dom here on the board, yet your profile lists you as a switch. Is it possible those who receive your propositions do not feel the source "switch" to be compatible with their individual lifestyle needs and desires?




LawnLoverTX -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/4/2006 11:17:10 PM)

I just went to the Medical dept after slipping on some grease water, and landing on
my knee. My Blood Pressure was 189 over 94... the Nurse said... better get some
excersize, do some walking, u need it, or u won't make it past ur 1st heartattack!
YIPES! I'm 34, thyroid issues, overweight, and need to work out. I'd hope to get
to 50, or meet some sexy Jewish women in their 30's and up, who wants a Daddy
Dom! :)   Come to think of it, that can explain my Dad's magnet to chicks. He's 75
years old, and manages to get women fuss, and gawk at him. 6' 4", Ancient Old
School German, and I've seen women "want" him to be Dad Dom. :) (silent look)

Incentives on working out, keeping in shape, flushing 190 lbs! G-d help me. I do
like the curvy features of some Jewish chicks. Even the pleasantly plump ladies,
who got a Jewish New York accent, heavenly curvy, and I'd be their Dom one
day. G-d help me!



SirKenin -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/5/2006 6:55:52 AM)

My wife just turned 24.  I am 35.  We get along very well for the most part.  Sure, we do have our fights, but who does not?  To Me, age is only a number.  Maturity is what matters.



mystictryst -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/5/2006 8:53:17 PM)

I am not sure how to say this... So, I am sorry if this is confusing.

Age is a number and for most people, it is just that. When writing a profile, in theory, meeting someone 20 years your junior (or senior) might not seem like a bad idea... So you are 'open' to different ages... Then, you receive a message from some one young enough to be your grandson and you think "Crap... That's too young!"  Two days later, a different person 20 years younger messages you and it's fine.

Sometimes it isn't so much the number as it is the realization of connection (or potential connection).



ownedgirlie -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/5/2006 10:33:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LawnLoverTX

   Let's make the profiles more clear that age discrimination and age segregation
is in order, and that older Doms must be with older subs, and younger doms with
younger subs. That's the fact of life, that's the truth of existence. As long as the
older subs, slaves, ect want older doms, and masters, then lets make it a little more
clear shall we? I'm crying to the fact and truth, I'm 34, and I must find subs in my
age bracket. Sorry ladies, if you are older than 38 then you get a senior's discount,
and have to take the senior's bus. :)


Hmm well interesting idea but my Master is nearly 20 years older than me.  As with any trait, age will be an issue for some and not for others.  Filter your search by age, and as Twice said, specify an age range in your profile - that should help a bit.



GeekyGirl -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/5/2006 10:45:59 PM)

Age is just another preference and I do believe it should be spelled out in a profile.

I am 23yrs old. I have a very specific age preference in that I prefer men ages 30-35, give or take a year. Younger men are generally too inexperienced and have not settled down enough in life to decide to be serious about a relationship. Yes, that's a generalization but it's often true.

 I simply have no attraction for younger men. I look at them and think of them as "kids" or "little boys." I tend to be more attracted physically to the older men, as well as attracted to the fact that they are more likely to have good jobs, their own homes, have decided if they want to have children or not, have outgrown the need to only date barbie-dolls,  have learned a bit of control over their hormones, etc. And of course, in the Lifestyle, with age and experience comes wisdom and I don't always trust a young dom to do things to me, especially edgeplay.

On the other hand, I also avoid men who are much older than about 35, for the reason that my stepfather who raised me is only 38 and I am uncomfortable dating men older than him (and certainly don't want to date men older than my 43yr old mother.) That concept just sort of bugs me for some reason.



juliaoceania -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/5/2006 11:23:54 PM)

Life sucks for you, older women want older men usually in what I have seen, and younger women often want older men when it comes to finding a dominant. I thought it was funny that I am less than a year away from a senior's discount, I am used to that from kids my son's age, but not from people over 30.. I just think you should be warned, the thirties fly by fast, and you are going to be 39 before you blink your eyes, and then ... gasp.. you will be 40!

I am really not offended, I have a little ageism going on myself, younger men are a big turn off for me,... up there will scat play and diapers... it is like make me wanna puke squickiness under 35, and just not a turn on at all until 40. My Daddy is the closest man I have dated to my own age in about 15 years...

You should really rethink your concept on ready for a senior's discount for someone who is only 5 years older than you are... it really made me laugh, that means you must be over-the-hill and well into middle age...laughing here

On edit: I put the age range of what I was looking for on my profile... 40 thru 50, but I would have considered a year or two difference either way.



LordCadence -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/6/2006 1:16:58 AM)

I have seen many profiles that stress theire age restrictions in no uncertain terms and If I don't fall in em I pass em, but maybe there should be a question in the profile set-up covering that (kinda like the search option)  That way when you read the full profile (I know, alot don't at least that's the impression I get reading some of your journal entries ladies) you know if you should even bother them.  Let's face it, women get 20 times asa many emails as guys so anything that helps weed out what they are not looking for and allows them to get in touch with what they arfe (and the same for us guys) has got to be a good thing.  I personally do not care, I have been with women as old as my mom and young enough to be my daughter (if I had any children) and it's all the same depending on my mood and particular tastes at the time.  It's all about the mental clicking with the partner your with.  If your interests, goals and appetites click then what matter age?  But that's just my opinion, I may be wrong.



LawnLoverTX -> RE: Tired of Age Barriers..... (9/12/2006 11:47:42 AM)

Well, there are a lot of interesting perspectives and the sad fact is, age-ism and age discrimination
outwins the false notion of "age is but a number" scenario. IMHO, it is with meloncholy that deep
down, I may not be 'suited' for this Lifestyle. I never had time to research, and discover what the
rules of engagement are. Some see me as a flake, or newbie. There aren't many Jewish BDSM
communities in Texas, that I am aware of, and being Jewish, not many submissive Jewish girls in
Texas. Until I figure out the concepts, and workings of a "Lifestyle" such as this, I think I better
quit, and close this account.  I don't think the pain, cuffs, whips, bukkake, and other extreme
pain will work for me. Plus Hamilton, Coryell, Bell, McClennan, Bell, Williamson, Travis, Hays,
and other counties of Central, West, North, East, and South Texas Law Enforcement, may not
like this Life Style, unless they are in on it too. LOL..

   IMOHO, I met a lady named "Lori" at a church, and tried to get me into the Lifestyle back
in 1998, turns out, she got me in trouble with Law Enforcement, being the "sub" wanting a rape
scenario session, and it was done so loud, law enforcement was called in.. Perhaps it was on a
show called "COPS, In Round Rock, TX" LOL!! If u saw an ambulance, cop cars and a SWAT
team entering this apartment, because a "DOM" was doing his thing to a 'sub' who later cried
wolf, told cops I was an abuser ect, which to avoid unnessary legal entanglement, I decided to
leave for home. The Apartment Manager gave us eviction notice, and being a dumb-butt, wound
up at her mom's home, until we got kicked out of that. She played the 'sub' wanting me to be her
"dom" trying to get Hamilton County Sherriff's dept involved, but it back fired on her, turned out,
my mom and dad knew the County Judge, and Sherriff, and Lori was sent packing home, her
mom came and got her. End of Story.  I didn't realize till now, the "rape-scene" fetish brought a
lot of law enforcement attention. Thus scarring me for the rest of my life. I just came to my senses
and realized, this may not be for me. :(  Sorry for any form of deception.... I got to go work as
soon as possible. With the way age, distance, and the fact I'm "Between" the cracks, I better quit
and move on while I might can?

Shalom,

Micha'el D. Lucas
76531



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