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RE: so im softcore huh? - 8/19/2006 12:13:16 PM

zenofeller

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I will admit to being a bit confused as to the reason for this post. All that aside though, the best advice is to always be yourself. Everyone seeks something different; trying to change that accomplishes nothing.

Ditto

no need to rephrase when said so well

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RE: so im softcore huh? - 8/19/2006 1:29:21 PM

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Tritto ?

Suggest zen rent a copy of Ghost and watch, twice.

Yes I am a sadist, lol

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RE: so im softcore huh? - 8/21/2006 9:33:22 AM

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But one day, you'll meet someone and develop a solid relationship. And you will grow (or not) and she will grow (or not) in your fantasies and desires. What happens if she grows outside of your interests?

My personal take on things has always been to be able to always stay one step ahead of my partner. If she wants to be beaten to within an inch of her life, I need to be able to get within 1/2 an inch. Why? It's not because I necessarily enjoy dishing out heavy pain, or because I'm a natural sadist.

It's because I want to please my partner. I want to stay with my partner. I want my partner to stay with me. I don't want my partner to be bored with me because I can't fulfill her needs. So I learn to fulfill her needs.

So, 15 years later, I can do just about anything. Play at just about any level. I let my limits be dictated by whomever those of whomever my partner is, and safety. My horizons have broadened.

Will yours?

This was very well stated. People often spend far too much time in their comfort zone and don't wish to venture out. Then complain of course when someone doesn't wish to remain in their realm and chooses to branch out instead. Growth should be a welcome part of life and something we all embrace. Our sexuality shouldn't be stagnate and ideally will expand as we age, gain experience, and a clearer understanding of ourselves and our desires. For some this is a natural occurrence, others are happy to remain as they are.

I made a point of becoming well acquainted with people that practiced fetishes that I was unaware of or somewhat opposed to. It was a wonderful education and provided much needed insight and feedback that I would have gone without. Years later I find myself heartily enjoying these things. My willingness to make new discoveries yielded some very appealing activities.

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RE: so im softcore huh? - 8/21/2006 8:36:10 PM

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Sadist here!

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RE: so im softcore huh? - 8/21/2006 8:41:02 PM

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Im told im too soft all the time. Usually by other dommes who dont understand how I do things. I dont enjoy inflicting pain, so I dont. I do enjoy affection, so I use it. And, while it did talke a long time to find, ther ewas a match out there for me. My boy doesnt like pain, although he wil take it if he has to, and enjoys affection(somewhat... we are workng on the comfort level thing on that)

Just look, youll find what you want. Might want to make sure there are no questions, though, in your information as to what you do and dont want.

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