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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 2:30:09 PM   
CreoleCook


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Status: offline 		I tried exhibitionism one time... it gets old real quick when the cops start pointing and laughing, though. 

Seriously now, I would consider myself an exhibitionist.  Not because I have a great body... not because I want to "shock" anybody... but because... well, frankly... I like having sex in public places, and nudity seems to go hand in hand with having sex in places such as...    midnight mass......   or fredrick's of Hollywood dressing rooms,... or fishing piers.... or football games.... or car washes... 

CC

PS.. to answer popeye's question: yes, in my youth, I was a male dancer... when I had a body that wasn't "level."





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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 2:38:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CreoleCook
I tried exhibitionism one time... it gets old real quick when the cops start pointing and laughing, though. 

Seriously now, I would consider myself an exhibitionist.  Not because I have a great body... not because I want to "shock" anybody... but because... well, frankly... I like having sex in public places, and nudity seems to go hand in hand with having sex in places such as...    midnight mass......   or fredrick's of Hollywood dressing rooms,... or fishing piers.... or football games.... or car washes... 

CC

PS.. to answer popeye's question: yes, in my youth, I was a male dancer... when I had a body that wasn't "level."

To me that's not exhibitionism- that's having sex in normally private spaces.  You don't have sex in full public, you have sex behind doors where bits may be seen/heard.  You're not feeding off of being exhibited, you're feeding off of doing something naughty and impressing others when you get "caught."

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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 2:38:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

That leads to another question: How many in here are or were Nude Dancers proffesionally?
And if so did you get the same feelings when you were doing it for money?


I used to be an exhibitionist up until i was about 18. It changed when i did some under the counter adult films, i no longer got a kick out of showing my body or performing sexual acts in public. In fact i lost interest in sex for a long time all together. When its a job in my opinion you gain no  satisfaction from it at all.  I'm sure some probably do but i didnt.
I enjoy exhibitionism again now but im not sure it will ever have the same buzz it did before i chose to do the films.
 

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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 2:41:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I really have no desire to see another person show off.  The "Look at me!  Look at me!" activites should have been gotten over in childhood. 

Then you have those that "get off" on showing themselves to people. 

No thank you..if I'm going to be dry-humped.. I'll choose the humper.

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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 5:10:59 PM   
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I'm not an exhibitionist though I am a nudist.  I believe there is a difference between the two.
For some of us it is a way of life.  Yet, on the opposite side of the coin.  I don't mind people watching me play.  I have issues when they leer. 


I feel I was born to be naked (given the weather and such).  Clothes are a burden that I struggle with everyday.  I am almost always nude at home and, yes, in my yard.  When I lived on my farm, I would go out regularly and work the garden in the buff.  Now, with many neighbors, I generally respect their rights NOT to see a 50 year old naked....lol.  However, they have seen me tossing the ball out the door for my dog in the nothing at all.

And I love nude beaches.....because it is a place where we all get to be ourselves.

If God made us and expected us to always wear clothes, don't you think we would have been born with them?


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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 5:22:29 PM   
NYMaster101


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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 5:32:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

There seems to be many exhibitionists in this site.
For the exibitionists among us...
What is it that thrills you about showing off or more exactly showing off your body and being naked for others to see?
And are you a "public" exhibitionist or just in private for certain people?
Do you like to be totally naked or in lingerie?

I am not comfortable about my body so I don't like being naked. My Dom likes me naked but understands about my dissatisfaction and shyness. He started out slowly by getting me to sleep naked. Then we went on vacation and he had me tied up on the back porch of the cabin naked during a scene and in the hot tub many times naked. Now he has implemented a new strategy to get me to be more comfortable with my body and being naked in front of him. Every morning after my shower, I cannot put my robe on and have to remain naked until he has his shower and comes out to give me a full body inspection. And I do mean he looks me up and down, and inside and out! It's humiliating and erotic at the same time. I still don't much like it but I'm getting better at not cringing and he is proud of my progress.

I do have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in me. I love to dress up, and look and feel sexy. Maybe show some leg or cleavage. My Dom wants me to do more of this and again I am working on it with his help and encouragement.

I do adore lingerie! Garters and stockings, push-up bras, sheer nighties and satin chemises are my favorite things to wear.




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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 5:40:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

There seems to be many exhibitionists in this site.
For the exibitionists among us...
What is it that thrills you about showing off or more exactly showing off your body and being naked for others to see?
And are you a "public" exhibitionist or just in private for certain people?
Do you like to be totally naked or in lingerie?

I am not one by nature.  I am exhibited at times by Master, however.  My thrill is the enjoyment he gets out of it.  He has not exhibited me naked in public but has invited strangers over for a private viewing, showing, playing.  In public he may have me dress provocatively, in ways I would not otherwise do.  Since I tend to be rather shy in this regard, these are not things I would ever wish to do on my own.

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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 7:27:32 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Ummmm...no....I do not like to be nude in any public forum of any kind..It would tend to make me feel self conscious,shy,humiliated,angry,and more than likely tearful.....in private that would be a different matter...wether that means out in the woods or at home or whatever..I do not get a thrill out of the possibility of being seen by someone else.......Tempting

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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/17/2006 8:56:56 PM   
CreoleCook


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross


To me that's not exhibitionism- that's having sex in normally private spaces.  You don't have sex in full public, you have sex behind doors where bits may be seen/heard.  You're not feeding off of being exhibited, you're feeding off of doing something naughty and impressing others when you get "caught."


Okay, I sit corrected.  Having looked up the definitions of both exhibitionism, and voyeurism, I would say I am a bit of both exhibitionist, and voyeurist.  I am not trying to impress at being caught darling, I assure you.

As for exhibitionistic behaviour, I don't mind walking around nude.  I don't mind going to a nudist colony, or a nude beach, for that matter.  I won't play volleyball though.  I'm too competitive... I will end up hurting myself, and not in a good way.

CC

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RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 2:06:08 AM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		i've never been much of an exhibitionist, but lately i have been getting a craving to "release the inner slut" and do some dirty girl things. i think i get more of a charge out of actually pushing my limits that way.

i had expected a Dominant would push those things, but it seems i gravitate to John Waltons, who have no interest in such. So, i go it alone.  That's a shame, because i have a lovely club that is designed to allow us to explore these naughty fantasies, right now i'm having a hard time explaining to my M or D why these things appeal to me.

Couple of weeks ago, i hosted a girls buzz party at the adult club i frequent.  We had our buzzing toys, 8 outlets, and comfy play space inside a room with a 5 foot one way glass window.  i guess the idea of there being more than just ME doing it is what allowed me to go through with it.  We ended up with 5 girls participating, and something like 2,700 male viewers pressed up to the glass.  lol.  (i think it was more like 20)

This is the event announcement we posted:


Have a little exhibitionist side? Want to do something wild but cannot do it on your own? Ladies, This is for you. We'll be playing with our toys, yes, buzzing ourselves off, in the ladies playroom. The room has one way glass, so we know our guys will be watching, but we can't see them, we'll just do our little show and enjoy some serious girlie energy.

  • I'll have condoms on hand so we can keep our stuff sanitary, there are power plugs in the room.
  • Wear a skirt. We don't need to undress, just barely showing anything is very hot.
  • Bring a pillow! The play space has a padded vinyl covered platform-thing, but it's flat.
  • Bring a special blanket! Or a towel! or both!
  • I'll have nice thick white wash rags and a crock pot of hot water, in case you don't want to exit the room with lube or personal juice on the pink bits.
  • This is a first time thing. It's not going to be any fun if we don't have at least 5 women going at it at once, and the more the merrier, plus, it'll be more distractions for those of us that are a bit shy.

    • due to some messup with the drinks, (i brought hard liquor, instead of beer, and couldn't get the inner slut drunk!)  i had to do it completely soberand nearly chickened out.  i cannot believe how liberating it was to realise i did it without any outside influence or pressure, or even the greasing of a few drinks. 

    So to answer Popeyes question, it wasn't so much about naked.. it was about the freedom to break a tabo, while in a safe place and not offending anyone not appreciative of our activities.

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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 4:10:15 AM   
    Riskyssquirt


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    Status: offline     		I never thought of myself as an exhibitionsist,but i love hiking naked,so i guess i am. 

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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 5:27:48 AM   
    gingersnap


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    Status: offline     		I enjoy showing off!!  I cannot help that, I simply enjoy having someone turn and look at me. 
    I don't go around naked in public, mine is more of a tease, a slow bend over in a short skirt, a few buttons undone on my blouse.
    I get the most wonderful sensations when I have been able to turn a head.

    Does that make me an exhibitionist or a tease?  giggles

    gin

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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 6:29:59 AM   
    GddssBella


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    Hate to be a dissenter, but exhibitionism is rather distasteful to me. People non-consensually exposing themselves around me violates my rights. If I'm at a private party and it happens, I have certain choices I can make.

    When done in public though, I have to wonder about people's sense. There's that whole arrest for public nudity issue. I don't have any children, but I'd be concerned about adults exposing themselves around minors.

    On a more aesthetic note, if you don't have a physique that would make the heavens blush in lust, keep it covered. I can appreciate beauty in both the male or female form but it has to be of the highest caliber.

    quote:

    ORIGINAL: LotusSong

    I really have no desire to see another person show off.  The "Look at me!  Look at me!" activities should have been gotten over in childhood.
    Amen!


    Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...





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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 7:31:18 AM   
    Mercnbeth


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    Status: offline     		We'll be "exhibiting" at the Folsom Street Fair in September. There is a lot of naked, and even more leather/naked. Outside nudity on about 10 blocks in the middle of SF. It doesn't get any more fun.

    We love taking pictures of all the dressed "vanillas". They look so out of place.

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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 7:59:42 AM   
    Aine


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    ORIGINAL: GddssBella


    When done in public though, I have to wonder about people's sense. There's that whole arrest for public nudity issue. I don't have any children, but I'd be concerned about adults exposing themselves around minors.




    As to exposing around minors, I would think and HOPE that most everyone that does such things would have enough farkin sense to know who is around them at the time of exhibition.  To me, that goes without saying.  Although, on the same view as you on that particular matter, I want to shove a nice, large, nail-riddenbat up the arse of anyone who willingly exposes a minor to such things.


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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 8:12:41 AM   
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    ORIGINAL: GddssBella
    On a more aesthetic note, if you don't have a physique that would make the heavens blush in lust, keep it covered. I can appreciate beauty in both the male or female form but it has to be of the highest caliber.

    Hmm, in other words, if people are going to exhibit, their bodies must fit your standard of attractiveness?

    What is ugly to one is beautiful to another, and so on.  Personally I loved when Kathy Bates exposed herself nude in that Jack Nicholson movie awhile back.  The sense of freedom, confidence, and inner acceptance she exhibited was more attractive than any body could be (to me).

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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 8:24:44 AM   
    Aine


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    ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

    quote:

    ORIGINAL: GddssBella
    On a more aesthetic note, if you don't have a physique that would make the heavens blush in lust, keep it covered. I can appreciate beauty in both the male or female form but it has to be of the highest caliber.

    Hmm, in other words, if people are going to exhibit, their bodies must fit your standard of attractiveness?

    What is ugly to one is beautiful to another, and so on.  Personally I loved when Kathy Bates exposed herself nude in that Jack Nicholson movie awhile back.  The sense of freedom, confidence, and inner acceptance she exhibited was more attractive than any body could be (to me).


    Eh, both are opinions, valid to each person.  Albeit hers is rather insulting to those of us that have the opposite opinion.  She is entitled to it, however.  Though I think I see what you are getting at.

    Granted she has her opinion on what is beautiful, but that doesn't mean that those are the people that should be "allowed" perse to be exhibitionists.  As long as she isn't spouting like a madwoman this particular opinion when someone of lesser "caliber" exposes themselves around her and forcing them to cover up rather than just politely leaving said situation, then it's a rather harmless opinion.  But if she's forcing said opinon on those around her (which in no way am I saying that she does), then there's just something wrong.

    But PLEASE don't get me wrong here, I'm speaking FIGURATIVELY.  So don't shoot me for something I DIDN'T say. :D


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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 8:53:32 AM   
    ownedgirlie


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    Status: offline     		Yes, of course it is a harmless opinion, and I respect that it is her opinion which she is entitled to, and which may differ from my own.  I suppose the way in which it was stated is what threw me a bit.

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    RE: Exhibitionists. - 8/18/2006 9:00:16 AM   
    Aine


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    ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

    Yes, of course it is a harmless opinion, and I respect that it is her opinion which she is entitled to, and which may differ from my own.  I suppose the way in which it was stated is what threw me a bit.


    Oh, completely understandable.  I would think that it would irk most people. 



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