this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience

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readytogamble -> this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 5:41:34 PM)
I consider myself the luckiest guy alive. My first experience out as a dom, I went to meet an online interest. She was my first experience stepping out in this lifestyle and she had rather limited experience herself. Not only was the first time incredible, but here we are, eight months later and incredibly in love and contemplating the next step (s)..... what are the odds of this happening?...Has anyone else out there experienced something like this the very first time out of the gate? What are the pitfalls? How does one keep the level of intensity or newness up?....Does anyone believe that this is simply an emotional high over a new experience, and thus surely to fail?....(I dont, but willing to listen)

KnightofMists -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 5:47:02 PM)
There is no question that you are bound by the experiences you have had... But are you also bounded by the character and values of each other. When the experiences are not happening.... you have to have something. Are you together because of the experiences your having... or are the experiences celebrating the connection and bond of the two of you. The first is doomed... the second is a lifetime of adventure.

kyraofMists -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 5:53:50 PM)
I am head over heels in love with the first man I experienced BDSM with, but I fell in love long before he ever used a flogger on me. Of course, he is an evil rat bastard, so what is not to love. eg Knight's kyra *edited for typos

DanielsHeart -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 5:57:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: readytogamble I consider myself the luckiest guy alive. My first experience out as a dom, I went to meet an online interest. She was my first experience stepping out in this lifestyle and she had rather limited experience herself. Not only was the first time incredible, but here we are, eight months later and incredibly in love and contemplating the next step (s)..... what are the odds of this happening?...Has anyone else out there experienced something like this the very first time out of the gate? What are the pitfalls? How does one keep the level of intensity or newness up?....Does anyone believe that this is simply an emotional high over a new experience, and thus surely to fail?....(I dont, but willing to listen) Oh it is very possible. my Master and i are proof of that as are many others. If you keep the line of communication open and try not to fit everything into one day, the intensity will remain always. New experiences together are always intense. Enjoy and good luck Daniel's heart

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 6:03:00 PM)
You don't. Energy ebbs and flows. There is as much joy and intimacy in sleeping in your jammies and doing absolutely nothing but be lazy on the couch, watching tv, reading the paper and hanging out all day as there is in a 4 hour edge play scene. Newness will fade, but there will always be new things to do together. Create a relationship, a living dynamic together. Learn to enjoy the lows and the highs equally.

windchymes -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 6:04:36 PM)
For the first time out of the gate, as you say, I think you are by far in the minority, blessed by a major stroke of serendipity! But I am really happy for you and wish you the best! Just apply the same rules and attitudes that you would someone you met in "real life". If you've made it 8 months, heck, that's way longer than many real life "vanilla" relationships last![:)]

popeye1250 -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 6:58:17 PM)
Must be nice!

iowastud -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 7:30:44 PM)
im about to make that first time meeting with someone soon. i hope mine works out as well as yours did.

babygirl005 -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 7:59:51 PM)
Well, I it didn't happen for me the first time, but I did find the woman I will be with the rest of my life here on Collarme. Keep a balance and nurture the non bdsm parts you have in common. It is not always whips and chains, so you need to know and love the person as well. Congrats and good luck to you. Estring

stockingluvr54 -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 8:19:42 PM)
Good for you guys! Hope it works out. My last girl hustled my ass on a yahoo message board. She lived with me for 2.5 yrs and I thought everything was pretty good...turns out she had a real problem with the truth and she took off. Anyways....I thought we had 2+ good years out of the deal.....

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 8:29:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: popeye1250 Must be nice! ...[sm=flowers.gif]..Pats Popeye on head..its oootayy!...you will find your mate someday......Tempting

Submotive -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 8:46:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: readytogamble I consider myself the luckiest guy alive. My first experience out as a dom, I went to meet an online interest. She was my first experience stepping out in this lifestyle and she had rather limited experience herself. Not only was the first time incredible, but here we are, eight months later and incredibly in love and contemplating the next step (s)..... what are the odds of this happening?...Has anyone else out there experienced something like this the very first time out of the gate? What are the pitfalls? How does one keep the level of intensity or newness up?....Does anyone believe that this is simply an emotional high over a new experience, and thus surely to fail?....(I dont, but willing to listen) Don't know about odds, but i feel extremely fortunate as well. After only 7 months of "testing" other Doms, i met Master on a vanilla site. He really had no clue what i was up to weg but - ahem - He has had NO problem catching on royally. Personally, i think it's extremely important to really like and love Your O/one, have some common interests beside BDSM, have ongoing, clear communications and respect for what Y/you agree on. O/our dynamic grows and deepens along with O/our love. [sm=flowers.gif]

DixieBellle -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/8/2006 10:01:35 PM)
Hello readytogamble. Master and i found love, He was my first RT exp but i was not His first sub. He is the love of my life, the risk i took in giving my all was very definitley worth it.

obis -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 1:27:33 AM)
Enjoy your luck! But yes, it's such an amazing experience that you're both being overloaded with the excitement of it all, and for your own sanity you should both keep that in mind. Don't go getting married or pregnant until you've given it at least 6 months or so for the new car smell to wear off [;)]

twicehappy -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 4:20:03 AM)
Awwww...sorry to hear that one. It is true you must be careful but 2 1/2 years is a long time only to get screwed.

CuteIrishM4F -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 4:20:37 AM)
quote: She was my first experience stepping out in this lifestyle and she had rather limited experience herself ... Has anyone else out there experienced something like this the very first time out of the gate? i promise to let you know when the first experiance happens! a.

sub4hire -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 7:40:26 AM)
I don't know if it would fit your question or not. Though I found love with my first dom. We were both living in Texas at the time. Met one another and things went from there. Then spent ten year's together. I asked for release as he was being transferred outside of the country. Though we didn't meet online. We met at a bowling alley. It was great either way.

TheShadows -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 8:26:37 AM)
My husband and I met on Alt.com back in December of 2000. It was my first time meeting anyone, real life or from online, who was interested in the lifestyle. We were married on Halloweeen of 2001. Coming up on 5 years. Granted, I started out as "submissive" to him, but we couldn't be happier, regardless of how things have ultimately turned out. I think if you both attempt early to lay a groundwork of vanilla-type things you have in common, the sky's the limit. That's what worked for us. Some of the pitfalls we've encountered are keeping a comfortable balance between vanilla-type relationship stuff (Our marriage, which comes before anything lifestyle-related) and BDSM-D/D (in our case) parts; trying to move too fast in the beginning, differences in communication styles....I could go on. Basically, any type of pitfalls you'd find in any vanilla relationship may come about at some point, but lump a handful of D/s related issues on top of those, just in case. Sounds like you guys are doing quite well, and are happy. Don't worry so much....Ya might jinx it. LOL. I wish y'all the best. MrsShadows

stockingluvr54 -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 8:30:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twicehappy Awwww...sorry to hear that one. It is true you must be careful but 2 1/2 years is a long time only to get screwed. No sweat here Tess! I look at it as a pretty good deal for the most part. Busted her lying in the beginning...sat her down and had a long talk! I've got a pretty good defense mechanism built inside these walls of mine....when someone lies to me....no matter how hard I try and trust....I can only give back about 90% so when it all came to an end....I still had that 10% that she couldn't touch! To her credit...she really helped my biz take off with some of her skills and that's also about the time that I was starting to realize that "something" was missing in a "normal" relationship? So it's all good.......

ExSteelAgain -> RE: this isnt a really scientific poll, but how many here found love on thier first time experience (8/9/2006 9:24:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross There is as much joy and intimacy in sleeping in your jammies and doing absolutely nothing but be lazy on the couch, watching tv, reading the paper and hanging out all day as there is in a 4 hour edge play scene. Dang, the things we have to look forward to.

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