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Satyr6406 -> RE: Michel Foucault on Punishment (8/1/2006 1:47:52 AM)
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I would like to (kind of) echo what the good doctor said.
In my case, I am not really into BDSM. I get no pleasure from using a flogger, necessarily. I, actually, identify myself (when I have to) as a "Daddy Dom".
A good many submissive ladies also happen to be masochists, also. But, this means that they enjoy physical punishment. Why, then, would I use something like that to "punish"? First off; she'll enjoy it and second off; it will "blur the lines" and, possibly, detract from her enjoyment of the activity, when that's what it is intended to illicit.
More to the point: if a lady is truly submissive and has given herself to me, just the fact that she has failed me, is almost punishment enough. If she has been deliberately disobedient, depending upon the gravity of the infraction, I don't know where "punishment" would help that. If it is a small infraction, a more emotional "punishment" is what, I think, is called for. Example: I ask her to take the car to get the oil changed before Saturday. She doesn't do it. I would ask her to think about how her disobedience has hurt me and then, she would be learning how to change the oil, in our driveway, on Saturday morning.
If her reason is: "I just didn't feel like getting it done.". There's a problem with the quality/level of her submission and that strikes at the very core of the relationship.
Michael
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