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Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 7:41:30 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Like most of you, I work in the so-called real world.  I blend in.  Well.  I would just prefer to be there as little as possible (the vanilla plane, not work).  People don't ever quite get to know me, even after years.  That's plenty fine.  This is probably all just a reaction to getting a low score (in the 40's) on the sociopath quiz.  I'm still a little miffed about that.

I work in a mostly-guy environment, so any remarks I make are not inappropriate per se.  I'm sure you've heard it before.  'So, what are you going to be doing this weekend?'  Boring.  Chit chat.  Hate it.

So, sometimes, choosing the time and place wisely, I say things.  At the risk of outing myself who actually heard this and other conversations (doubtful), this is how I responded.

'I think I'm participating in a fisting.  You?'  Something like that usually draws some chuckles, but it tends not to get too out of hand.  But I say it.  No mention of my participation on the top, bottom, women, men, 4-legged creatures.  Nothing.

One time they boys were talking about some sick things they had seen.  'Oh, that's nothing.  Now mind you, I only saw this on video, so I wasn't there, but.....'  Then I'll tell them something REALLY hard-core.  Stops them dead in their tracks every time.

Now, as I said, usually nothing more is mentioned.  But I'm always prepared.  'So, how DID that fisting go this weekend?'  'Oh, just as you'ld expect.'  (Ho-hum.)

So, do you ever play mindgames with the vanillas just to make the day go by any better?  Just to make people wonder?

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 7:44:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Absolutely!! My days would be boring with it.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 7:48:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL yes, I've been known to drop a few comments like that from time to time too.  It's funny because they dont really know if you're serious or not. 

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 7:50:31 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		I don't get it.  How is sex talk lifestyle?  I guess I'd have to say no.  I don't play mindgames with people whom are on the same level I am.  Nobody is vanilla anymore.  Everyone has quirks.

Sex talk isn't the top of my list of conversations.  Lifestyle talk sometimes is.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 7:53:35 AM   
yourbadgal


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Status: offline 		lol i dont do that, but i bet its funny 
maybe i should try

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 7:55:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mind fucking unsuspecting person/people. Isn't that involving someone non-consentually into a scene? Hmm, oh well.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 8:00:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		The talk needn't be sexual, and there is no 'scene' for consensuality to be an issue.

To wit:  I'm a bit of a creature of habit.  Although I might eat at several different places for lunch, I tend to like the same things at those places.

At one place, with usually the same person taking my order every day, when asked what I wanted I said 'You know what I like.  Bring that.'  I wasn't domming, and I certainly wasn't being an ass.

Now, there are two places that I go where I never have to say a word to get the food and drink I like.  Delicious!

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 8:05:54 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

Mind fucking unsuspecting person/people. Isn't that involving someone non-consentually into a scene? Hmm, oh well.


I don't see how that's nonconsensually mindfucking someone. They asked a question, (What are you doing this weekend?) they got an answer. You shouldn't ask questions if you don't want answers. The vanillas who know me have learned not to ask me anything unless they are prepared for a very truthful response. I even warn them.. "You don't want to ask me that!" ::chuckles::

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 8:10:54 AM   
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I work in a predominantly male civil service agency. A branch of law enforcement almost no one ever hears about. It's prone to the same chit chat you would expect of any such place. It always amazes me how they discuss certain sexually related topics as if they were doing something freaky. All it takes is a few descriptions of what I find pleasurable on the weekend to make their eyes bug out, laugh nervously, and quickly find another topic.

Every once in a while, I'll purchase some new item/toy while on meal break and show it off as we're all waiting to clock out. (Not where the cameras can record it, mind you! I'm crazy, not stupid.) It's like the parting of the Red Sea. Satisfying in a silly way, but hey, I like cheap thrills.


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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 8:13:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Banter is always fun, a lady I work with offered to take me out behind the building the other day. I quipped "you big tease, you won't either" with several people milling around she quickly opened her purse to show me a small red flogger was carrying, and a big grin. Ya just never know.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 8:14:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, a big resounding YES!!!!
One time at work the topic of neckties came up (don't ask me how or in what context...it was one of those inane workplace conversations). Now as you can probably guess from my picture, I am not really a suit-and-tie sort of guy, and my co-workers were a little surprised when I said I was thinking of starting to wear a tie. The fun came when they asked why I was thinking that, my answer: "Well I would always have something handy when I want to tie some girl up."

Not even vaguely risqué by our standards, really rather ho-hum, but the blushes and sputtering it caused was priceless....

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 9:32:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I work in a kitchen... I would be considered weird if I DIDNT like kink! :D :D

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 10:37:45 AM   
Kagesuta


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Status: offline 		There was one time, when I was in a car with four other friends... They started talking about fetishes for some undoubtedly strange reason, as though they were things you could just pick up and be rid of, the next moment. "I tried having a fetish once..." etc, etc.
I shook my head, saying flatly that fetishes, in my experience, came naturally and aren't prompted by a desire to have one. I certainly didn't get to pick.

A few eyebrows were raised, and the next hour was dedicated to them listing every kink they could think of, in an attempt to get me to reveal mine. They're persistent little buggers.

It's not much of a mind-fuck, but it was worth a few laughs, on my part.


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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 10:49:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		lol it is fun.  I always did it to my dads gf but now she knows so it isnt quite as fun.  I made one remark to my mother about buying my husband this pair of leather pants I saw (oooh they would look so nice, and quite fitting if i might add) and she starts to laugh and blush, and I was like, you think thats bad, you should see the flogger I made him for his birthday!  She laughed and said "no wonder you two wont go to therapy!" so my answer to that was "nah, if we needed one, there are therapists for people like us!" I still dont know if she knew I was serious about all of that or not! LOL

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 11:01:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know whether this is the same,but I at work,in my own time,after dinner use what's left of my hour to make things......and crafts etc,myself lacking a metalworking workshop of my own.On one occaision I was making a pair of nipple clamps,and whilst I was at work,doing my job,the clamps resided in my toolbox awaiting the next stage of their development A colleague started idly looking at what tools I had(a sad interest for mechanics),and came across the nipple clamps,after a few moments fingering them,with a perplexed look came the question(I was waiting for that),'what are these for?',my answer,'nipples',that got him.I was'nt sure whether he understood the answer,so I said 'they are nipple clamps',with that he put them down and walked away.I just wonder what went through his mind.It has kept him out of my toolbox,he does'nt go there any more,probably scared of what he might find.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 11:29:47 AM   
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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 12:30:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh yeah, I love doing stuff like that.(although I'm not so bold as to mention a fisting) I have a guy at work I always kid around with. Mind you he says some pretty outrageous things but I'm certain he's actually quite conservative. He once snapped his fingers at me and I gave him a horrid glare. He told me he'd pay me back by letting me snap my fingers at him. So for months every time he'd go by my office I'd snap my fingers and he'd come running (of course he would ham it up) I LOVED it. Just cracked me up every time.

(in fact, when he gets back from vacation I think I'll have to do that again-it's been a while)

One time he'd done something that caused some extra work for me and I told him he owed me. So he offered to go get my mail for me. Once he delivered it (presented on the palms of his hands). I told him if he picked up my mail a few more times he could kiss my shoe.

and he likes to get his in too. One time I called him at home when he was on vacation because I had a question about something. He told me he knocked his nipple clamps off when he was reaching for the phone.




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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 12:56:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		All this really sounds like fun, but i would think you would have to be careful what you say and to whom at the work place so you don't get slapped with a sexual harassment suit. I've never worked in an office setting so don't know all the rules.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 1:11:22 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		proudsub,

You can find any number of things to say to various types of people; it just depends on the context of the conversation.  Coworkers are obvious because you are around them quite a bit, but it can really be anybody.  Shopkeepers, restaurants, librarians, law enforcement, gas stations.  Wait, check that on the 'law enforcement' types.  That could be sorta risky.

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RE: Headgames for the Vanillas - 7/28/2006 2:40:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would say I have done this more than once. Especially answering the phone.

Mom: hello is my daughter there?
Me: yes she is but she is tied up and gagged at the moment.
Mom: seriously?
Me: yes, she got riled up and needed to be calmed down.
Mom: long pause.........................................ok as long as she is ok, tell her I called.
Me: yes ma'am, have a good day.

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