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trixr4kids -> RE: The Bdsm Light Switch. Changing ones self. (7/27/2006 6:22:36 AM)
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I say maybe she just got sick of the second class citizenship that goes along with being a submissive. Or maybe all the wanna be Doms who get their titles out of cracker jacks boxes finally pissed her off enough to the point she gave up finding a REAL DOMINANT since there only seems to be like 1 real Dom in 5000 fakers, losers, predators & wanna be's these days. When your happiness only comes into play in your life second behind a Dom you serve, you have no freedom to express your opinions if Doms are talking, and you have to act in ways against your nature often to be considered a good sub in public it can wear your desire to be a sub down. Let's face it sub's always have the short end of the stick. What's wrong with her wanting someone to devote their time, money, & efforts for her benefit & happiness for a change. Maybe she's just fed up and decided to make men pay for what's been done to her.
In addition to that I'd like to say the notion a sub should not be able to change into a more dominant position and play safe is ridiculous. Many sub's (me included) have learned how to play safely from both perspectives so some lummox wanna be Dom can't accidentally do something stupid due to lack of training to hurt them. I do not like to top people, it's not my nature, I did have a Master who wanted me to top others occasionally. I have been in the top role under a Master's request & done some severely extreme scenes due to the knowledge I've gained in my submissive journey. Believe it or not the subs lived and even liked it when I paddled them.
Just because she learned from the bottom does not mean she did not understand the top's job too. I've also read & heard over and over again that someone who was a sub would make the best top's for play as they know what they are doing and how it feels personally. They understand the play better than someone who's never been at the sting end of a whip before.
I think the group who would not accept a sub who decided to switch over to being a Dom should get a grip and get over their high and mighty stupid selves and put their inflated ego's back in their back pockets. That kind of asinine attitude is part of the problem in this community.
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