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earthylaughter -> Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:30:20 PM)
Hello everyone. I don't post here often, in fact only have posted once to the introduction board so far. But.... Not extremely often, but frequently enough that it is bothersome, i find a Dom that contacts me by email treats me with no respect, orders me about in the first email, is rude or just very abrasive. Actually treating me more as a disobediant child, or as if i was an owned slave that deserved chastizment. What is up with that? At first meeting? Do these men really think that is attractive? Is it to other women and I'm the weird one?? questioning minds need to know earthylaughter

enthralled -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:39:32 PM)
Hmmm ... I'm a little confused. Are you talking about just an email, on a first meeting, or do you see the two as the same?? If it's just an email, why get upset? It's JUST an email.... hit delete and choose not to let it bother you [:)] ~enthralled

IronBear -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:46:14 PM)
Like everywhere, there are those who will act in an appropriate manner, treat you with at least the respect that a person should have, and even perhaps prove helpfull and be mindfull of your ststus. On the other hand there are thoise who haven't any manners and possible are clieless as well. These are ignorant pillocs and should be avoided at all costs. Emails? Block and delete. There are naturally a who mass of Dominants who are spread between the other two.. Beingon the net the idiots can wrek havoc and be abuseve to all for they remain hidden in cyberspace with out the courage to show their actions and attitude in face to face situations where other more ballaced BDSM folk can witness and even deal with them..

Controladora -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:54:13 PM)
There are rude people in all areas of life, both Dominant and submissive. Although you don't appreciate that sort of communication, there are indeed some who like and seek that sort of treatment. If its not your cup of tea just delete the e-mail and continue. Controladora

Caretakr -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:55:16 PM)
Some people have a fetish for blowing thier feet off with shotguns.[:D]

mp072004 -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:55:29 PM)
Submissives should treat dominants with courtesy, but not deference. Dominants should behave similarly toward submissives. Really, just act as though you're meeting a friend of a friend or a new (equal) coworker. If a person conducts himself in a way you dislike in the initial email, that just indicates to you that you're not compatible. It's a pretty efficient way to get rid of people you don't want--just delete the email, or give a brief "Sorry, not interested" reply. If you really want to respond further, tell people why you're refusing them when you refuse them, e.g. "I'm not interested in talking further because I found the hostility [or other nasty behavior] demonstrated in your initial email [insert example] unattractive." Monica

sharainks -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:58:19 PM)
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but e-mails get a whole lot worse than what you are describing.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 4:58:50 PM)
You got what is referred to a "wannabe" or a "horny net geek" who thinks that WIITWD is simply a way for them to treat submissives as if they are owned by any and all who describe themselves as Dominants any way they choose.These kind of people make it easy for you to know them for what they are, so hence it cuts back on you wasting your time, for they are all too stupid to actually be able to fool any intelligient submissive for even a modicum amount of time.So I say woo hoo for the stupid idiots, they make it all so easy to spot them..be well..Tempting

LadyHugs -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 5:03:23 PM)
Dear earthlylaughter, Like most others that have been in your place and in your stage of being on Collarme.com; the unfortunate fact that some people have no clue on what they are doing, as they flood mail boxes with the first group send to a batch of submissive women or women in general, with the attitude of 'on your knees [insert any label desired]. Such people don't get it--that slaves/submissives are not automatic door mats and must submit to every e-mail dom about. Just consider the source and look beyond such individuals. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

LotusSong -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 5:05:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Caretakr Some people have a fetish for blowing thier feet off with shotguns.[:D] ... or sitting on the barrel and pulling the trigger (I hate that when that happens) I agree with IronBear.. some people are just oafs.

mnottertail -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 5:12:07 PM)
This would be an excellent opportunity for us to hear your earthly laughter as you click the buttons that make them go away. Ron

IronBear -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 5:24:47 PM)
Me thinkest old cobber of mine, that we mayest hearest "UN-earthlylaughter" at the button clicks. What say thee?

jamesthehumanrug -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 5:52:29 PM)
dear earthly i know exactly what you mean i put up with arrogance as cute when lets face it only a masochist can apply to it ;most people dont like arrogant persons at all... so thank god for us! but to me its personality embedded ; so i expect it sometimes,but , i have been lucky and had tops who knew me intimately first ;were sophisticated;demure;were attractive no matter what and worshiped ;anyone else knowing me as slave/ masochist who didnt respect me ,at all,and just booted out orders ,and public degredation ceremonies were deviant outcasts to me; they can go have a nice day without me i need clear understanding of who i am ,if they are to be understood of their position ;lets face it no matter what the relationship with no respect ;there is no love for you, so forget it ;they really dont know you and dont want to ,so there's no relationship possible. how can you respect a top who doesnt respect your image. one time a professuer at college said: "masochist ;youre not gonna get much out of ,THAT relationship".... ,so i always remembered that.... maybe tops get unattracted to us too....,so they act unattractive enuff ,for us ,not to function w/ them. one question i have is :do all slaves like to be trod upon;do you ? does, that have anything to do with your name ,earthly,? are m's a dime a dozen?

champagnewishes -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 6:02:05 PM)
There is always one thing i can count on....every time i think i have heard it all, it's not long before someone else comes along and says it cruder and ruder. Being the level headed person i am, i delete one with no more nor any less emphasis than the previous..[:)]

irishbynature -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 6:14:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthylaughter Hello everyone. I don't post here often, in fact only have posted once to the introduction board so far. But.... Not extremely often, but frequently enough that it is bothersome, i find a Dom that contacts me by email treats me with no respect, orders me about in the first email, is rude or just very abrasive. Actually treating me more as a disobediant child, or as if i was an owned slave that deserved chastizment. What is up with that? At first meeting? Do these men really think that is attractive? Is it to other women and I'm the weird one?? questioning minds need to know earthylaughter When I get "odd" emails such as "Bow before me little one, I am a Dom"...I normally hit "Delete" and laugh...sometimes in fun I've been very bratty and replied, "OH YEAH!!!...I'm an INSTA-SUB...JUST ADD WATER!"...then I block their name[:D] from my account. Giggles Irishbynature

deltadawn -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 7:14:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthylaughter Hello everyone. I don't post here often, in fact only have posted once to the introduction board so far. But.... Not extremely often, but frequently enough that it is bothersome, i find a Dom that contacts me by email treats me with no respect, orders me about in the first email, is rude or just very abrasive. Actually treating me more as a disobediant child, or as if i was an owned slave that deserved chastizment. What is up with that? At first meeting? Do these men really think that is attractive? Is it to other women and I'm the weird one?? questioning minds need to know earthylaughter The wonderful thing about emails is you can just delete and block. Enjoy that feature!! dawn

popeye1250 -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 7:41:16 PM)
Earthly, it's just a rude and immature thing to do. When I write an e-mail to someone on here who I don't know but would like to, I try to be as polite as I can and to tell them a little about myself that may interest them. My purpose is to attract them not repulse them! I don't know why some guys are like that, probably inexperience or maybe a "wannabe." In my opinion you should be mostly vanilla until you get to know someone and you both trust each other. As for that "Cyber" stuff I have no interest in it. As another poster said; "some net geek wannabe." Just delete and move on.

MisterBAR -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 8:26:13 PM)
Hey, my friend - what they said. Delete and move on. A Dom should be a gentleman first and foremost. There is more power to the restraint shown in proper, polite behavior, than in all the attempts to claim non-existent power, by brazenly asserting it and making clear that there is actually nothing but wishful thinking there. Regards MisterBAR

outlier -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 8:41:04 PM)
Dear earthylaughter, First of all I must tell you you have chosen a wonderful name. I believe the answer to your question is that being anonymous allows some individuals to behave in a way they would not dare face to face. They do not speak or act for all of us. The sort of person who sent you those emails is a bane to all of us. Not just you and the other ladies who have to read them. But also those of us who are trying to reach you and others like you. I suggest that in addition to block and move on you take the initiative and search among the profiles on the other side and then you can initiate contact with the sort of person with whom you would like to have a dialogue. This is simply a time when you cannot let the bad rob you of the opportunity to reach the good. All the best with your search. Outlier

theRose4U -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 8:41:22 PM)
quote: "OH YEAH!!!...I'm an INSTA-SUB...JUST ADD WATER!"... Are they selling those retail yet? I thought you still had to special order them from Domme Depot?

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