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irishbynature -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 8:45:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theRose4U quote: "OH YEAH!!!...I'm an INSTA-SUB...JUST ADD WATER!"... Are they selling those retail yet? I thought you still had to special order them from Domme Depot? Rose! Walmart is "Rolling Back" their prices daily! They had the "Insta-Sub" packages for $19.99 ((( including a warranty if the Dom is NOT completely satisfied!!!))) Hurry while supplies last.............LOL[:D]

enigmabrat -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/16/2006 8:56:35 PM)
LOL we have often adressed the Doms th\at say on the first e-mail "kneel bitch" and honestly if they have to act like that they arent really Doms

branwen -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/17/2006 12:09:33 PM)
Dom or sub, I try to treat EVERYONE with the respect another human deserves. Believe it or not, it irritates me when a submissive I am not in a relationship with addresses me as "Mistress". Until I have accepted someone as my submissive, I am NOT their Mistress. Is that weird of me or are other Dominants like that as well?

LaTigresse -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/17/2006 12:21:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: branwen Dom or sub, I try to treat EVERYONE with the respect another human deserves. Believe it or not, it irritates me when a submissive I am not in a relationship with addresses me as "Mistress". Until I have accepted someone as my submissive, I am NOT their Mistress. Is that weird of me or are other Dominants like that as well? I feel exactly the same way. It bugs the hell out of me also. Unfortunately many of them have been programmed to feel its the only correct way and get the heebies doing otherwise. I keep correcting them and they keep applogizing.

dincubus -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/17/2006 1:38:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear Like everywhere, there are those who will act in an appropriate manner, treat you with at least the respect that a person should have, and even perhaps prove helpfull and be mindfull of your ststus. On the other hand there are thoise who haven't any manners and possible are clieless as well. These are ignorant pillocs and should be avoided at all costs. Emails? Block and delete. There are naturally a who mass of Dominants who are spread between the other two.. Beingon the net the idiots can wrek havoc and be abuseve to all for they remain hidden in cyberspace with out the courage to show their actions and attitude in face to face situations where other more ballaced BDSM folk can witness and even deal with them.. Very true IronBear. Personally, I treat people whom I approach with respect, the basic respect that should be shown to anyone, regardless of their status. It all comes from how I was raised. My Adoptive father was in the Navy. I learned from him, and to this day, unless told otherwise, address men and women as Sir and Ma'am. That is generally how I address anyone with whom I desire contact with.

WayWardSoul -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/17/2006 1:57:44 PM)
quote: there are days when i crave the touch of a man that knows what he wants, and that thing that he wants is me, to control me and to lead me. I would say they read this part of your profile and take it as what you want. But even without that you will still get some who want to come at you like that. Just delete, block and move on. It just saves you time, knowing there not what you want, rather then spending time to get to know them and finding that out later. By your profile you sound confused so you might want to figure out what you want and word it that way. You might get better responses. WWS

Curiossdragnlily -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/17/2006 2:00:49 PM)
No, you are not weird in your thinking. Many seem to forget that the respect has to be "earned" and is not just given. When i was searching, if One did that, it was an immediate turn off and They got absolutely nowhere with me. with respect, lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios srn 308-692-331

earthylaughter -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/18/2006 8:01:19 PM)
Thank you for the answer enthralled.....(and nice nic by the way ) hmmm i am talking about on line meeting not in person. i havn't made it to the real life step yet.....so i truly deserve the vanilla ice cream cone at this point. (sad smile) You are correct of course i could hit delete and not let it upset me. In fact, i have done that many many times before with other men that have acted in a simalar fashion. In this particular instance i decided to see if maybe the problem was me....instead of him......maybe other subs like that sort of demeaning and condescending talk from strange men that have no hold on them... laughing dang....and here i was going to get all excited and everything...thinking i had discovered that i'm not submissive after all and it was all a good dream gone bad.... giggle, snort, laugh, gasp breathe sincerely earthylaughter

earthylaughter -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/18/2006 8:06:50 PM)
thanks Iron Bear... i just got all sensitive and stuff and let it get to me..... just grinnin earthylaughter

earthylaughter -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/18/2006 8:32:31 PM)
i agree and thank you! i uh....didn't realize i'd have so many replies..... laughing.... i'm not sure if i need to respond to each one....or if it's ok to let a few slide...... thanks to all that have posted so far i think it is fair to say that i over-reacted and should have just hit the delete button and moved on.... but dang... my delete button is getting sore giggle sniff sigh earthylaughter

MistressJan -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/18/2006 8:40:50 PM)
I have seen this too, and I think they are trying too much. If you do not wish to communicate with them, tell them, and if that does not work, then block them from your email. This is a time when you have the right to search for what you desire and can contribute. Most of them that are doing this, are not really serious but rather trying to get you to go on web cam with them. Hit the delete button. Respectfully, Mistress_Jan

earthylaughter -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/18/2006 8:41:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WayWardSoul quote: there are days when i crave the touch of a man that knows what he wants, and that thing that he wants is me, to control me and to lead me. I would say they read this part of your profile and take it as what you want. But even without that you will still get some who want to come at you like that. Just delete, block and move on. It just saves you time, knowing there not what you want, rather then spending time to get to know them and finding that out later. By your profile you sound confused so you might want to figure out what you want and word it that way. You might get better responses. WWS You are right WayWardSoul that i am confused about what i desire. In fact, i tried to be very clear about that in my profile....so the fact that i'm not a "hard core masochistic slave" type should be fairly obvious to those that are observant. The title of my profile is fairly self explanitory...."I'm not sure if i'm submissive or not" is a fairly straight forward way to tell someone where i'm coming from.... I have spent the better part of the last 7 years reading and learning about submission, slavery, masochism, dominance, leather, and all the information i could, keeping in mind that i'm a full time mother and worker so i fit the studies in between my other obligations. (OH i also had to read all the Stephanie Plum - Janet Evanovich books they got in the way of my study too.....but that's a different story....) So i do know what submission IS. I just don't know if I AM submissive. It is a fairly hard thing to explore solo. I am also celibate by choice at this time...so i'm not out there sleeping with all the single hot Dom's (grin) to find out just how submissive i am. i sorta wanted to explore without the risk of disease and pregnancy. thank you for your words... earthylaughter

EvilGeoff -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/18/2006 10:42:29 PM)
Hi earthlylaughter, The best response, if you want to make one, to any of these individuals would be something along the lines of: "Thank you sir, for the interest. However, while I may be _a_ submissive, I am not _your_ submissive. That submission has not been earned by you, nor negotiated from me, at this time. Perhaps if you demonstate qualities of character, integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, honor, control, respect, and the like, you will earn my surrender." grins and shrugs A much classier response than "Get lost, poser!" and it may serve to educate said person about what is expected and _accepted_ by you. YIK, - Geoff

earthylaughter -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/19/2006 7:13:27 PM)
good advise EvilGeoff.... actually quite good advise from all of those that have posted...so thank you each and every one (ok...now i feel like i'm sounding like tiny tim...And God Bless us each and every one...giggle) i have in the past said things of a similar nature.... quote: ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff Hi earthlylaughter, The best response, if you want to make one, to any of these individuals would be something along the lines of: "Thank you sir, for the interest. However, while I may be _a_ submissive, I am not _your_ submissive. That submission has not been earned by you, nor negotiated from me, at this time. Perhaps if you demonstate qualities of character, integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, honor, control, respect, and the like, you will earn my surrender." grins and shrugs A much classier response than "Get lost, poser!" and it may serve to educate said person about what is expected and _accepted_ by you. YIK, - Geoff ....but i was told that i was trying to top from the bottom.... lol i guess little ol us just can't win can we (wink wink) now.... i'll go back to reading... thank you all for your kind words be well smiling earthylaughter

littlesarbonn -> RE: Correct Dom behavior to a sub that is not owned (7/19/2006 7:58:57 PM)
As a male sub I get the other alternative email which amounts to "I liked your profile. Tell me more." Nothing about them at all and no reason to indicate why I should even respond in the first place. And if you've read my profile, it's like turning to James Michener and asking (after reading his novel "Texas"), "so, James, what else can you tell me about Texas?"

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