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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/12/2006 3:36:14 AM

bandit25

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Nah, don't give up. Maybe you and he are just in a slump right now. Seriously. Try a few different things. I KNOW it can be so frustrating, but hang in there. It'll get better. Ok, you have some health problems...you acknowledge it up front and you're willing to work through them. Honey, it looks to me like you have a lot to offer.

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/12/2006 3:53:37 AM

wandering4u

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Variation! Whatever is good at the timeis good. Straight vanilla or heavy kink - it's all the same as long as the core D/s relationship is there.

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/12/2006 6:02:31 AM

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And the difference between Kink sex and Vanilla sex? Whats "normal" for me is "kinky" for another. So its all interesting.

I think, any is better than none. Think how many people get none at all.

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/12/2006 6:11:08 AM

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Sex is what ever He says it is.. rough, hard, rugged, soft, sensual, whatever. IT's His way, whatever way He likes it. As someone else said, any opportunity to serve and please is a good opportunity. S'all good!

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/13/2006 6:32:32 PM

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Hi. I know just how you feel!

Daddy and I just moved to a new house and did the move ourselves with help from just 2 other people. We were completely wiped out for at least a week and we are still unpacking, sorting, and arranging furniture. We just got internet back yesterday, so now he is deep in the throes of fine tuning our home network.

We've only had sex twice since the move and the D/s dynamic has definitely suffered. We are slowly getting back into things because we both really don't want to go back to the way things were a few months ago!

Good luck you, Mistress of GA!

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Thank you all for responding. I am really busy right now, as I am making the move to Savannah. I am really tired from the packing and the stresses of the move. It is hard to keep the D/s dynamic in place when it is a ldr. I am hoping that this move will change how things are going. Kinky sex? Forget it, I can barely keep up with any kind of sex at the moment.

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/13/2006 6:35:01 PM

missalice

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*cries* i don't have a vanilla to slide back to and i don't think i'd know how to create that, either.... *is terribly confused and a little horrified by suggestion*

anyway, if your sex life is getting, um, boring.. err... try not having sex for 6 months.... i think it will inflame your twisted urges... or something.. teehee

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/13/2006 6:36:31 PM

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Hello A/all,

I dont really consider it sliding from one to the other. My sexual relationships tend to be somewhat D/s, even if they are not BDSM,
and I have been in relationships with vanilla women who enjoyed my
being in control. Women who were not into that have not made very good partners for me. Not blaming them, simply making the observation.

Personally, I am far more attracted to a woman's mind than I am to her
desire to be spanked.

Just me, etc.

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RE: Sliding Back To Vanilla - 7/13/2006 6:44:30 PM

DiurnalVampire

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I tried the whole vanilla life thing. Got married to a VERY vanilla guy, and it worked, for a few weeks. While we were living together, things were pretty good. Once the ring went on my finger, he expected me to conform to societies (or his upbringing's) view of what a "good wife" should be. Subservient, docile, sexually undemanding and ready when he was and only when he was, and very plain when ti did come to that sex. For him, Me being on top was exotic.

NEVER again. I'll stick to sub men, who are comfortable with my aggressive personality, enjoy my need to be in control and dont try and fit me into any strange little ideal of what the perfect wife has to be becasue thats how his mother was and all his aunts, his sister and everyone else saw marriage to work.

Sex is just better when you both want it, and you both want it the same way... ot at least you both want it in some waht and you can argue about the positions later *grin*

DV

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