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RE: Negativity of Need. - 7/10/2006 4:33:55 PM

iliv2servher

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: iliv2servher

There is much power in the spoken and written word, and how each one of us defines a particular word in the chronicle of our own life path often influences the outcome of that life. It is, therefore, of particular importance that we know and understand the definition of those words which we use to define ourselves.

here I would disagree in as much that with such wrrds a Need and Needy, they are descriptive and it in the context they are used which they will seem to be either positive or negative. I rather fancy it is more important to:
Used such words carefully in a positive manner.

Understand how you define them in the context of your own situation.

I would agree that, for instance, when using the word need in the context of:

The need for air, food and water is essential for the preservation of life.

or

My car is in need of a tune-up or it may fail to start.

This would certainly be correct within the framework of the sentence, and most definately a valid presumption in both cases (both the body and the car would most likely expire).

but

"I have the need for speed."

What? You'll sit in a corner and suck your thumb if you can't go fast?

My premise here is that there is certainly a place for both words, but that the misuse of a word can often place a negative spin on a subject that requres positive action.

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RE: Negativity of Need. - 7/10/2006 4:47:37 PM

juliaoceania

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I wonder whether we feel a need for our children?

A need for our parents?

Our siblings?

A need for our friends?

I have a need for all the people I listed above.. .I need them in my life in some way shape or form. I love them and need them. If I do not talk to them every day it is ok, but I need to know they are out there and alive and well. I need to know they are okay. It isn't a weakness to need these people in my life. I have lost one parent already. I know the pain of needing someone that isn't around anymore. I will miss my mother when she is gone from this planet and need her even though I will never see her again, because I feel the need to have her in my life. I have lost contact with some good friends, and on some level I wonder about them and wish I could find them... because yes.. I need friends.

My child... wow,... I would break in two if anything ever happened to him, but I expect him to grow up and move away and have his own life...I still need him, need to know he is happy, need to hear his voice. It doesn't make me weak to need to know he is ok. Sure I could "live" without him I suppose.. but it would impact my satisfaction with this life.

Brings me to my mate... why should I make my lifemate any less than my child or my parents? Why should I need him less(which I do not have a lifemate exactly yet, hoping I have found him, but time will tell)? Just some thoughts.

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