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RE: Strong submissives/Doms feeling needed - 7/11/2006 6:22:11 PM

sharainks

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Thank you CreativeDominant. I see you do know whereof I speak. Its just kind of a tough period, the kind people go through at times.

However I still have to wonder about those dominant who don't seem daunted by women who can't seem to handle anything on their own. They seem ready to rush in and save the day. But maybe someone who can't deal with budgeting or keeping their bills paid is more fixable than the kind of life issues I have right now.

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RE: Strong submissives/Doms feeling needed - 7/11/2006 6:41:07 PM

MizSuz

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ORIGINAL: sharainks

Do most dominants have a need/desire to be with a submissive that "needs" them to do things for her? IE straighten out her life, make choices for her that she doesn't seem to be able to make on her own? Is it a turn off or a monkey wrench in the works if a dominant feels the submissive is too self sufficent?

A direct answer to the question is: I prefer strong, independent people (regardless of their orientation).

I have, however, experienced a bit of a reversal of this. Submissives who say they need me to need them. The short answer to that is, it ain't gonna happen. I usually advise them to take a good hard look at where they are getting their validation from. Perhaps more introspection would garner better over all results.

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RE: Strong submissives/Doms feeling needed - 7/11/2006 11:08:14 PM

xtremeguy94002

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If there is something they can DO for you they are subs, tell them to get a fing job and leave you alone

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RE: Strong submissives/Doms feeling needed - 7/11/2006 11:09:33 PM

xtremeguy94002

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thats supposed to be funny you know

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RE: Strong submissives/Doms feeling needed - 7/12/2006 6:53:11 AM

CreativeDominant

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sharainks

Thank you CreativeDominant. I see you do know whereof I speak. Its just kind of a tough period, the kind people go through at times.

However I still have to wonder about those dominant who don't seem daunted by women who can't seem to handle anything on their own. They seem ready to rush in and save the day. But maybe someone who can't deal with budgeting or keeping their bills paid is more fixable than the kind of life issues I have right now.

~smiles~...I am glad we got the initial muddying cleared. Still, your last statement does lead me to acknowledge in my own head that I am going to post my own thread. Hope you'll come over and read it.

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