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RE: Personal Power and the Dominant - 7/10/2006 6:06:43 AM

MHOO314

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Personal power... sounds like another Americanised 'buzzword' to me. From my Pov it is only a matter of confidence grounded in reality and ability.

People look for that, rely on that, draw strength from that. Personal power sounds like something taken, it isn't, others feel the confidence and GIVE the power, the authority, the respect, it isn't 'taken'.

As always Raven, a very insightful post---something I will now go ponder.

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RE: Personal Power and the Dominant - 7/10/2006 10:47:02 PM

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I would add that an another definition for what is being defined here
as "positional power" could also be called "circumstantial power".
There are people who are in either dominant or subordinate
relationships in their career, who walk through the doors of their
own home and take the opposite position. An example could be
the executive at the office whose wife is a homemaker who makes
most of the major decisions in the day to day management of
the household. Or a female nurse who is subordinate to the
RN's on her floor who returns home as a single parent and is
the sole authority figure for the children.

"Personal power" seems very close to charisma or confidence.
Some people are extroverted in their expression of their
confidence, these are the "life of the party" types who love to
be the center of attention. The introverted types quietly draw
others into their circle of charisma and are more subtle in their
domiinance.

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RE: Personal Power and the Dominant - 7/10/2006 10:51:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

<snip> - he observed that I seemed to have a great deal of personal power--attracting people to Me. I never thought a thing about it, I always thought it was just Me---My way, My style--now this is not about Me, but the concept of personal power that exudes or flows naturally versus positional power which almost "demands or commands" attention

It would seem "power" can be just as effective from opposite poles.... Where your power attracts people to you, I've always had a natural gift to repel them. lol Your average chatty time-waster has never seemed to feel a need to share his/her trials or tribulations with me.

Yet fem/subs have told me that that same aloofness and indifference, indeed, almost arrogance, is a highly attractive quality to them. And positional power (in a lifestyle sense?) is easy when I don't, won't nor ever have switched.

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RE: Personal Power and the Dominant - 7/13/2006 6:35:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: champagnewishes
I may have this wrong, but in my minds eye, military academies would seem the ideal candidate for positional power. Police officers would rank right up there in the positional power category.

Positional Power. A valid concept I'd agree. But given the number of times I've run into a person (male and female) who had noteworthy presence in a civilian setting, only to later learn their background, is what moved me to make the connection.

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