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ORIGINAL: Sdarcy

I would like to respond since my profile does state that I am NOT looking for contacts, and that I am a prodomme so no-one can say I am misleading anyone. Yes, there is a plethora of women who seem to think that it's in the Secret Female Dominant Book of Rules that one must charge. Of course that's not true; my dearest friends are all lifestyle, for-fun-not-for-pay dommes (and no, I'm not playing matchmaker so don't ask).

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However - please bear in mind that experience and equipment are wonderful additions to a woman's repertoire.

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Dungeon furniture, whips, toys and wardrobe all cost money; finding the time to play with enough people to acquire proficiency can be difficult when one has another full time job. Add into that diet, exercise and beauty treatments so one can avoid the dreaded cow comparisons and you're talking a goodly sum of money. I always find it a bit annoying when gentlemen expect the very best dominant quality while bringing nothing to the experience save their dicks and demands,

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yet they scream to high heaven to think they might be expected to contribute to the Mistress' expenses. Why should we be penalized for choosing to make a career of something we love to do?

To summarize; yes, it's wrong to be sneaky about the fact that one expects tribute, but expecting tribute is not in and of itself a character defect.

Regards,

Ms. Susanne

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ORIGINAL: mstudentslave

Now this is in this ones journal on its profile but it wanted to get a wider view and response and it seems like this is the place to do it. Basically this one is shocked as to the amount of Dominant Women on the site with personal profiles who require tribute. Now of course Pro Domination is a business and quite a prosperus one judging by profile amounts but it seems like almost any Domme this one pays interest in suddenly decides that money is needed. An example is a Domme this one begun to get close to recently just to be told its first task was to deposit £100 into the Dominants bank account. Not much of a task and despite the fact that yes it does prove loyalty this one looks for a Mistress that views him as more than a pay cheque. It become clear with that Mistress that She was saying the right things to keep the slave hooked and to help it hand over the cash.

So what this one really means is since when did the BDSM community become all about paying people to show loyalty, this one knows that Domme's are in high demand but hoped that a personal, free to use site such as Collarme would provide profiles for Domme's seeking service, not offering one.

Rant over, this one would like others views on this and yes, it is ready to be flamed out of here.

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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

I loathe getting messages from subs who write like you do...maybe I'm pedantic, but I immediately think...clown or wannabe... with no comprehension of what it takes to be a submissive except what his fantasises have been telling him is how a 'slave' (or 'sub') acts. 

Great for ya fantasises and great for when you get the opportunity in real time (online or off) to be at the feet of a fem dom.  But right now...it's just a really annoying way of communicating and does nothing to inspire me, and I'm sure plenty of others to give you any more time of day beyond reading your profile and moving along.   

First off, it comes across like it is 'all about you'

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you aren't anyone's 'one' .... you are *you* a human being, a person, a walking talking penis

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... hopefully you are submissive and you will get the opportunity to be someone's 'one' one day ... until then, don't patronise fem doms with some insipid please look at me mistress see i am so respectful of your superiority i wouldn't insult your superiorness by allowing myself an ego and will only ever refer to myself as 'one' cause thats all I am worthy of, yet you as a fem dom I have no idea what you want, but this is what i want and i'm a twue sub... barf, ya think?  Close but no cigar.   As a fem dom I want to meet the *man* {editor's note: "walking, talking penis"}behind the subservience ... the subservience is a given ... being a *man* and not a jerk out to fullfill his fantasies isn't.  Reading your rant and reading your profile I'm loathe to call you submissive.  Right now you are sounding like someone who has no idea what submission is despite all your so called knowledge.  

And the fact that in your profile you make this rant ... wouldn't turn me on to a guy like you ...you make a great deal of assumptions about 'dommes' and lay all the blame for your predicaments at their feet ... yet I bet you were wetting your little panties the entire time you had contact with these women and suddenly they turned into bitches when they laid down their terms ... and now those terms weren't to your liking or don't fit your schema of what you think should exisit in a BDSM community ...you wanna toss ya toys outta the cot and rant until momma comes along and says 'yes, yes, their all big meanies and you're right to not want them around' ...

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my advice ... *stop messaging profiles while you have your hand on it* and *don't dictate what you think this site should be about and for whom* ...it's an open forum message board and personals ... not some mythical bdsm wonderland where only the twue bdsmers should be allowed.

Lastly, you say in your profile, in the comments, that your rant is very unsubby like, well *barf* at that too ... you're living in a dream land.