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lostsoul92468 -> How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 5:55:17 AM)
my Master works full time and i am home. my Schedule is as follows: 5:30am awake and fix Master's lunch for work 5:45 awake Master 6:00 take Master to work 7:00 back at house clean and do computer work ( ie, emails ect) 11:00 1 hour of TV 12:00 check emails and make Business calls. On Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays i take His Mother to Dialysis and pick Her up. I miss Him all day and He say get sleep after 12 until i pick Him up at 5pm. I can't sleep if Master is not here during the day and at night i can't sleep if Master is not in the room with me. i am making Master nuts but i can't help it. Any advice.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 5:59:46 AM)
Get busy. Get distracted. Find joy in the world.

zenofeller -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:06:57 AM)
alternatively, post on forums.

darkinshadows -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:09:13 AM)
If you are making your master nuts then you should help it. You are obviously not dealing with an issue he would want you to be dealing with. So go out - find something to make him pleased and happy. Take up a hobby and use your skills to make him proud. Paint, take photographs, make things, submit yourself to a chariety. If your making your master nuts, then you are going against his wishes. And that isnt healthy. Peace and Rapture

JessieMe -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:11:18 AM)
I am not trying to question what your Master tells you but I am curious as to why a 5 hour nap in the middle of the day is required? Do you have health concerns? If not and you are not sleeping during this prescribed time.. what are you doing? Have you thought about journalling your thoughts to make you feel closer to Him?

leatherorlace -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:11:46 AM)
Sorry, but, I had two demons trying to advise Me how to respond to your post and both were assholes so, I'll simply say "Get a hobby that is useful such as leathercrafting, woodwork, etc", and you can volunteer for the human testing phase of the new cottage industry. lol M. Gentry

juliaoceania -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:24:52 AM)
In my opinion you should try viewing the world through your master's eyes. He has a busy day in which it sounds as if he is working his butt off to provide for you. You should try to make things easier on him not just by doing errands for him, but by being a little more self reliant while he is doing the things that need to be done. How would you feel if someone was as reliant on you as you seem to be on him? I bet it would drive you nuts too. I live 5 hours away from my Dom, and when I opened this thread I expected to see someone that had the real problem of being a distance away from their master and had the oportunity to miss him... I am at my Dom's house right now, he left for work this morning at 6 AM, I have my tasks lined up before me, when do I have the oportunity to miss him so much I whine to him about it and trouble him with it? I have to go the store, cook dinner, take a shower, and clean house. I promised to do the laundry today.. I do not have time to miss him even if he is in my thoughts all day, but even if I did I wouldn't burden him with it because he has to work and part of my service to him is to be supportive of what he does with his day. I think your trouble is you are thinking of your wants instead of his needs. He isn't ignoring you, he isn't shitting all over your needs, he is WORKING. I would put his needs to have a supportive slave/submissive over your needs to be babysat. I do not mean to be harsh necessarily, but I think I am being kind by putting this in perspective for you before you drive this person away because you are too clingy.. and no that is not a submissive trait BTW.

KenDckey -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:24:53 AM)
I agree that it is time to get a hobby. The Red Cross is always looking for volunteers. Go to a local park and help clean it - they always need help in that area. Go to the childrens hosp and sit and play games with the kids. I enjoy writing, photography, going to the park. I am disability retired and without work I go nuts. I even go to the community college and chamber of commerce and volunteer to teach classes for them. And I babysit - ANYONE NEED A 2 YR OLD WITH AN ATTITUDE? LOL I also do research projects for several cities and counties on the computer (I have some unique skills just can't work full time). Go next door and help the older widder woman do things. This will keep your mind sharp, your body in shape, and help keep your mind off of missing your master.

gardenbluebird -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:31:54 AM)
i am going to agree with the other posters. Get a hobby, a part-time job, go back to school, volunteer, do your part to make the world a better place instead of sitting around moping and feeling lonely. Having interests will make you much more interesting to talk to and will keep your Master more interested and involved in who and what you are about. If you expect him to constantly entertain you that will get boring and annoying very quickly.

desertdancer -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:33:39 AM)
juliao..I agree with you on all you said, but it is possible to do all your tasks and long for someone while your doing them... Master is in another country right now, and I go through my day to day activities and I am busy, but with everything I do, I miss him.. I can't help it, I carry him with me always, but still I miss the way his eyes glow at me, or his scent warps around me, or mmm how his breath feels on my cheek... * sighs wistfully* yep, I can manage a business and still miss Master. ~dancer

juliaoceania -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:40:05 AM)
I miss my Guy whenever he is not around... and when I go home I miss him all the more. I guess my harshness is this person is living with her master and she gets to anticipate seeing him every day... Many of us do not have that reality. It is in some ways bittersweet to miss the ones we care so deeply for, especially when they show us they miss us too.. with a phone call, or a kind note, or a sweet gift.

LiliesDoGrow -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 6:53:23 AM)
Lostsoul, Correct me if I'm wrong, but you're in a fairly new relationship? Perhaps it's not your missing him while he's gone to work. Maybe you still have some insecurities to work out. I'm sensing abandonment issues? Sounds deeper than you're just missing him while he's not home.

thetammyjo -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 9:47:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lostsoul92468 my Master works full time and i am home. my Schedule is as follows: 5:30am awake and fix Master's lunch for work 5:45 awake Master 6:00 take Master to work 7:00 back at house clean and do computer work ( ie, emails ect) 11:00 1 hour of TV 12:00 check emails and make Business calls. On Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays i take His Mother to Dialysis and pick Her up. I miss Him all day and He say get sleep after 12 until i pick Him up at 5pm. I can't sleep if Master is not here during the day and at night i can't sleep if Master is not in the room with me. i am making Master nuts but i can't help it. Any advice. Have you talked to him about it? Did you agree to rules about where you are supposed to be and when? If so, perhaps you can ask him to revisit those rules with you. What sounds great and works out well in the beginning may not be the best thing for the long haul. If you don't have rules keeping you at home alone or scheduled, have you considered taking a class or doing volunteer work? I can't speak for your master but if I had a slave who did not have a job then he would not be allowed to just stay at home doing nothing after housework was done. I'd expect him to be reading, taking a class, doing volunteer work, gardening, something to keep him up to date and useful to me. About the sleeping thing, I suggest you keep a journal and write down how you feel and what you are thinkiing when you can't sleep. Then you can work on understanding those feelings and thoughts and on adjusting them. I'm going to be bold here and say that if your Master is being driven nuts, its a sign he needs to get actively involved in helping find and carry out a solution that will benefit both of you even if it means adjusting what he wants you to do when you are home alone or even keeping you at home alone.

jadedshadow -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 10:05:10 AM)
Hi lostsoul, I guess I'm a bit more sympathetic than the others here, or just understand where you're coming from as I feel the same, and me and my Master are hundreds of miles apart. He works, and I do, but it's not steady and during the day W/we have the liberty of emailing one another, which helps. Yet on the days when he doesn't have time for me, I feel like you do. One of the things I would suggest is as the others have said, of course, find something to do to fill in the time. Master gives me tasks to do that pretty much keep me busy and my mind is on Him doing what He requested so I still feel the closeness there. Perhaps you should ask your Master if there is something else you can do with your time rather than just sleep the hours away and missing Him. Also mentioned, journaling is an excellent idea. I don't know how many times I've put my thoughts in my journal when I didn't want to burden Master with the things on my mind. Other than that, the chatrooms on collarme can help by having like minded people to talk to, and keep you busy, and I've found they are not as cynical there as some of the responses you might get here..also most have room rules that keep people under control or they get booted so not too many smartasses to deal with. If you want something a little more productive but can't get out as my case often is, may I suggest a good book? Any of the Kushiel's Legacy books by Jacqueline Carey are excellent reads that allow you to escape reality, and get your mind off your misery of missing your Master. Take care,jaded

ExistentialSteel -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 10:08:59 AM)
Ah, the world is your oyster. It reminds me of something a girl who lives in Key West told me. She said she was bored because there was nothing to do there. Now, I realize we can all close our personal shells now and then, but the world is there for you. The girl in Key West missed all the things many traveled to Key West to do. Why do you think she didn’t see the beauty of the island, beaches and funky places of Key West?

agirl -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 10:11:51 AM)
Hello lostsoul, I have to say it.......... It's better to miss him than to be glad he's out of your hair for the day......lol On a slightly more serious note...... I miss my Master when he's not around, he knows it but it doesn't drive him nuts at all. Sometimes I miss him more acutely than others and if I'm not missing him, he fills an awful lot of my thoughts. Maybe filling your time with something you REALLY want to do, that absorbs you, would be helpful and give you a little more balance. Why do you need to sleep for 5 hrs after lunch? In what way does it drive him nuts? Is this a fairly new relationship? Regards, agirl

kittensmailbox -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 10:15:41 AM)
i cant believe that you are lucky enough to be living with your Master and you are still complaining.... i am sorry this may sound heartless, but i feel no pity for you.... count your blessing and suck it up....

lostsoul92468 -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 10:47:37 AM)
I am not complaining and i do run errands and the like but i still miss him. I read a lot and working on learning water colors but nothing and i do mean nothing takes the place of justing looking up and seeing him. He called and said that what i need to do is find someone to talk to and build a friendship so that i have other things to concentrate on. He likes that i miss him but me mopping about it is the problem. So now i must work hard to rechannel my energy.[;)]

kittensmailbox -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 11:23:01 AM)
That is called high maintenance, i should know, i was just like you once... Join a gym, go for walks, meet friends for coffee... Nothing brings a man closer {wondering what you are doing}, as much as when you stop following him around.... This one guy , use to call me all the time, just to say hello and i mean all the time, but when i started to call him back and tell him how much i wanted to be with him, he stopped.... So i stopped and guess what, now he is making all the moves, wondering where i am, missing me... A Master is a man first... i am not saying go cheat on him or play mind games, just cool your heals... Give him the space to miss you... i mean really miss you... [:)] Just because we are submissive, doesn't make us victims and mindless dorns... P.S. BEFORE i get any hate mail from certain ppl, let me just add that this is what works for me....

LokisBrat -> RE: How do you deal with missing your Master/ (6/28/2006 11:32:15 AM)
Loki works full time, and often (though not currently) thousands of miles from home. I have been fortunate enough to not have to work so that I can focus on getting my degree. While it's summer and the unmentionables are out of school, so am I. Loki is much happier with me, and I with myself, when I fill my days. I read, do my online things (swapping cosmetics and books, chat, mail), and follow a daily list of jobs he gives me. (I hate to call them chores!) Brat[:)]

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