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New here ;p - 7/13/2013 10:00:47 AM

rachelove5545

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Hey every one

I've become pretty interested in dom/sub and BDSM in general. I am looking for a dom, some one willing to teach me and explore with me. I'm new to this so any advice or help is great

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RE: New here ;p - 7/13/2013 10:12:19 AM

TieMeInKnottss

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First piece of advice--GO SLOW!! there is something called "sub frenzy" that happens often to new and, especially, young subs & it can make you vulnerable to some of the sharks.

Second, set your mail controls...New users show up on a list and you will receive 5 pages of emails every time you logon... You are young and if you are not interested in older men, out of state, out of country men, men who will want to give you "helpful advice"...set your controls so only viable mail gets into your inbox.

3. The biggest scam that happens-emails from men accusing you of not being female, saying there are rumors about your gender, claiming that they are "board moderators or owners" investigating complaints...-THEY ARE SCAMMERS who want to video chat & get you naked. Don't fall for it. Remember video chat can be recorded and posted other places online.

4. My best advice that has NEVER steered me wrong? Keep all communication onsite!! Don't fall for the easier to get to know you through SKYPE... Once you are actually meeting someone (in a public location!), you may want to give a # to make sure you connect.

gOOD LUCK! It is fun, you will meet great people but, like everywhere else...there are some users and abusers. Read some of the books on the Recommended List, search through the topics here & see what some of the experienced people say..Ask Questions!!!

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RE: New here ;p - 7/13/2013 11:35:39 AM

DarkSteven

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Um. A gorgeous 20 year old, looking to join a MF household and make it poly?

You'll be stampeded with messages, most of them from idiots. My advice is to try to find munches and parties in your area and meet up with locals first. Find a female sub or couple to look over you and keep the idiots at bay.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: New here ;p - 7/13/2013 2:26:20 PM

MasterCaneman

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What Misty and Steven said. Hello from me and welcome.

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RE: New here ;p - 7/13/2013 6:12:30 PM

rachelove5545

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Thanks for the advice guys! I'll keep it in mind for sure

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RE: New here ;p - 7/17/2013 7:24:17 AM

Rasciallymisty

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Greetings and welcome Rachel

....LOL MC it wasn't me this time it was TMK :) I have been away for a few days. But Rachel what they all have said is good advice. Hope you stick around and join in some of the discussions here on this side.

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RE: New here ;p - 7/17/2013 8:36:51 AM

TNDommeK

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Hi Rachel, everyone has given you great advice. Be careful. Good luck!
And do come to the boards for great learning and questions.

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RE: New here ;p - 7/19/2013 6:50:02 AM

OohAahMrs

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Yeah, yeah, I'll do all that to help you out, just sign away everything and your life to me and leave the rest to me. By the way, welcome.

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