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Hey there - 6/13/2013 4:43:27 PM

ScorpionEyes

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My name's John. I'm nineteen years old and I guess you can say I'm a switch. My girlfriend is a twenty-five year old sub and I'm really doing this for her. I have no prior experience with BDSM, except with her, and I want to learn how to make her happy. We're getting close to six months and while regular sex is getting better, she's been trying to get me more comfortable with this whole concept. I'm not against it, but I am not really comfortable with the practice. Coming here so maybe I can learn a little bit more and figure out how to make my girl happy.

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RE: Hey there - 6/13/2013 4:57:00 PM

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Hi John, welcome. There are some great posters here. (And of course some not so great.)

It might help if you and your girlfriend sat down and talked about what it is she feels is missing. What does she want or feel she needs to experience with you that she isn't? It sounds like you're open and interested but your post is extremely vague in terms of how you plan to go about "making her happy" ... Has she given you any suggestions on where to start?

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RE: Hey there - 6/13/2013 6:20:34 PM

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I'm doing this with the man in my life right now.

He is all new to it as well.

I echo the other poster in asking, has she been clear as to what she is looking for/interested in? Have you discussed at length what your and her limits are? What experience you both have?

I hope that you two are communicating and WELCOME!

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RE: Hey there - 6/13/2013 7:58:27 PM

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Greeting and welcome John, I echo what they both said.

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RE: Hey there - 6/13/2013 8:10:57 PM

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I apologize for my indirect comments. Most of the time, I just talk like that when I'm uncomfortable.

Our relationship is probably the best thing that's happened to either of us in a long time, so I'm not really talking about that. The idea of us engaging in BDSM sex more and more is important to her. When we've tried, I end up very uncomfortable with the whole situation. Me getting better, more comfortable, and more informed, and thus able to give this experience to her is important to her. She wants me to understand something special to her and to bring me into that world, so I can experience it with her. That will make her happy. Why wouldn't I want to do that? If my babygirl wants me to tie her up and treat her like a slave - it's obvious why I'm very apprehensive about that, but it's not the worst thing she could ask of me, and I'm willing to learn.

Thanking whatever Gods may be, communication is excellent with us. We both know our limits, soft and hard. I've had two women before her and her two men before me. But, due to the age difference, that's still more cumulative experience with her. Judging by how difficult it is for her to walk most of the time, I think I'm learning pretty quickly.

My lovely girlfriend hasn't been pushing things, allowing me to do this as I'm ready. But, I know this is something she wants. I'll explain more when I can sort out what I know she's into and maybe have another discussion so I'm not mistaking anything.

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RE: Hey there - 6/13/2013 9:11:59 PM

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Well...please feel free to ask me stuff or message me. I'm not coming onto you, I just have a soft spot for your situation.

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RE: Hey there - 6/14/2013 9:16:55 AM

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