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JustDragonflies -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 12:37:53 PM)

Someone reminded me recently, where ever you go, there you are.



stef -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 12:51:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DominaKittyK

As i pointed out in the other thread, I am rude to those that are rude to me. I am polite to those who are polite to me.

You've been quite rude to others who have not been rude to you, they just dared to have a different opinion than you. Why do you perpetuate the behavior you so readily decry?



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:02:27 PM)

Fast reply

I feel like I have missed some drama here.

Honestly I haven't noticed any decline in behaviour or manners. I find I am treated very nicely, both online and in person, about 95% of the time, and when I'm not I can usually figure out a reason for it - either I've made a faux pas or the other person is having a really bad time.

As for people being worse now than they once were - I think that's one of those pervasive 'good old days' myths, along with 'children used to be children for longer'. It's just a matter of perspective. As long as there have been people, some of those people have behaved like assholes.

I will admit the internet gives people a sort of comfort blanket to hide behind that lets them let out their snark and bitterness, but it seems to happen all over the net, not just in kinky places. Some sites crack down on it more, and some don't tolerate people coming in flouncing about and getting pissy at anyone who disagrees, which can lead those people to feel bullied.



littlewonder -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:09:45 PM)

what community?

I'm a community of two. [;)]



littlewonder -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:12:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DominaKittyK

Needlesandpins: I could give a shit less what anyone thinks really. It was more a post to see if there are any others that have noticed the steady decline of manners in society.


Does anyone else find this funny when it comes to the problem of the community not caring? Ironic, huh? [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif]



chatterbox24 -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:42:28 PM)

HI Kitty,

I will agree with ya, people can be pretty rough on people here. Come peeps you know you are and know who you are!!! Some of you are venomous snakes who like to bite. Sadists who love it. I felt attacked alot when I first came here and trust me I got defensive and bit right back. Sometimes I still get into with people. I have a mouth and an opinion. Hmmm 24 posts to your name, you are being hazed or initiated. I got my feelings hurt alot and cussed like a sailor lol. SOmetimes I still do. Anyway, stay tough.
I do think society in general are not as courteous to others. Sure ain't mayberry thats for sure. Its very refreshing when you do run into kindness or good manners. BUt to be fair, I can be as rude as the other guy quite frequently, but I do try NOT to be a huge jackass.
I know where you are coming from girl! SO high five and stay cool. Please. THank you. Have a nice day. and Welcome.[:D][:D]



littlewonder -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:47:05 PM)

Hazed or initiated? Not at all. People just come here expecting people into bdsm to be somehow different from the rest of the world. They think everyone will be all in agreement and feel sorry for you and stick up for you because hey, we're all into bdsm! [8|]

When you decide to come here and park your brain outside the door, expect people to toss it back to you so you can actually use it.



chatterbox24 -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:53:52 PM)

I dont know MIss Kitty and I have read no other threads etc.

BUt thats an example right there. "Park your brains outside" now why would anyone get offended by that comment? ITs not insulting in the least. LOL. ITs fuel for defensiveness.
SO build a campfire and I will keep warm by it, its cold here.



littlewonder -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:59:27 PM)

offensive? If you find that offensive, it makes me wonder how one survives in the rest of the world. Would people like you like it better if I said "Here. I found this outside. I think you dropped it. I hope it didn't get hurt. You might wanna keep a hold of that. You are going to need it so that you don't get hurt." with a big [:)] to make you feel all warm and welcome to the "neighborhood" (as the neighborhood rolls their eyes behind her back so as not to upset her while she continues to keep "dropping" her brain).



MsLadySue -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 1:59:35 PM)

Okay snowflake, have it your way.



chatterbox24 -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 2:10:10 PM)

THis is the internet people talk crap all the time. Say things they never would say to someones face. Moronic things alot of times.

I am just disagreeing a bit here and saying yes people get rough treatment here sometimes.
Say we were sitting at a table and I disagree with you nicely, and you said to me " DId you leave your brain outside" THe rest of the table would look at you and think you the insulting, defensive person, not me. ITs not good manners. THere are better ways of coming across. I am not offended, I take it with a grain of salt. BUt THe point is ITS RUDE.

I was a fresh pure snowflake until someone peed on me. LOL. Now Im full of piss and vinegar. I now can make it in the world. Woohoo.




LadyPact -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 2:15:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: poise

Maybe she is with her 35 year old friend, who is visiting his 19 year old girlfriend?
Although in this profile, they do spell Australia correctly, so it's hard to tell for sure.
My dear poise, would you be suggesting that the profile of the OP has been created to circumvent another screen name's moderation from the forums?

The Mods have a solution for that.




TNDommeK -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 2:16:50 PM)

I don't feel Jeff attacked you either. He simply disagreed with your opinion. In the time I have been on these forums, I have NEVER seen Jeff attack anyone. Now you want attack? Go to the basement, the P and R section is great for that.



DarkSteven -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 3:29:30 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DominaKittyK

Did it become acceptable to treat people like shit simply because you don't agree with them?


It hasn't happened to me lately at all. I've been fortunate.

You may want to steer clear of the Politics and Religion forum here.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 3:46:18 PM)

Agreed - i've been here longer than you , and i can't say that i have ever seen JeffBC do anything that looked like an attack....



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 4:30:58 PM)

oh good grief.

while the internet, and humanity in general, can certainly be a jerk festival, sometimes you have to look at your own behavior, if you get these sorts of receptions eveywhere you go.



dcnovice -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 4:47:49 PM)

FR

Should archaeologists ever find the Etruscan equivalent of an Internet message board, I'm pretty sure it will include a discussion about how manners--along with the rest of the world--are going to hell in a handbasket. I think it's part of human nature to pine for a golden age that never actually existed. It's definitely part of human history.

The reference to shopkeepers brought two thoughts to mind:

(a) Back in 2001, I had a magnificent vacation in Paris. I dusted off my high school French and began every encounter in that language, apologizing for how much I'd forgotten. With one or two exceptions over nine days, people responded not only politely but warmly. On my return home, I had great fun stunning people by talking about how delightful I found the Parisians.

(b) Last Sunday, I was in a funky shop in Frederick, Maryland. I'd found a cool picture-text collage (below) that offered exactly the advice I need to keep in mind during the oncology triathlon. But it hung on the wall above a carefully arranged table, and I knew attempting to get it myself would led to disaster. The clerk was a young woman with a rather "goth" look, so I was (stupidly) a little wary of approaching her. Talk about misjudging a book by its cover! Despite her look, her service was as sweet and kindly as an old granny's. She went to the storeroom and came out with a boxed version of the artwork, and while bagging it, she politely asked if I'd like her to put my other bag in as well to make things easier to carry. Small points, I know, but they made a world of difference at a time when I needed a kindly touch.

All this to say, good manners are out there. [:)]

[image]http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51FnL7kp3jL._SX355_.jpg[/image]




Notsweet -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 5:11:25 PM)

Though it's true that sometimes, if you pay enough attention to the news, you can get a little pessimistic over all the cursing, name calling, and general nonsense that people pass off as expressing themselves but is simply 1) not knowing any better, or 2) being deliberately rude, which is, in fact, some people's purpose in the world. If we didn't have them, what would we use for an example?

Anyhow. I started feeling better about the world a couple of months ago, when I started trying to make it easy for people to be polite. I smile and say thank you and please, and I engage people in brief niceties. And when they get on my nerves, I just imagine them shitting themselves in public or something. That way I can be cheerful instead of hating.

Hey! It works for me!



LaTigresse -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 5:20:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaKittyK

Did it become acceptable to treat people like shit simply because you don't agree with them? I'm not talking about being abusive, I am talking about the elitist bullshit that is rife in the kink community. Since its very creation the internet has been a breeding ground for arguments and insults caused by difference of opinion but it seems particularly horrible in the kink community. You constantly get people thinking and claiming they know better than others without any decent basis for it.... I think the whole net (but particularly our community) could use a huge attitude adjustment....


It's not them, it's you.



OsideGirl -> RE: Since when.... (3/3/2013 5:29:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: stef

Kitty, when you go looking for a fight, you shouldn't be surprised when you find one.


Funny that you say that. Because during the OP I was thinking "Pot meet kettle".



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