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Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 11:08:38 AM   
Notsweet


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Status: offline 		Once upon a time, I was thrilled and giddy over my birthday.
Things changed a bit when I had an ex-husband or two who seemed to take relish in spoiling them.
I'd love to get happy about it again, in spite of the aging process.
(Which is not being all that kind. Sort of like a bad husband.)

Ideas, please!!
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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 11:40:43 AM   
theshytype


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Status: offline 		I can't be much help. I'm the opposite. I've always hated my birthdays and became depressed. Not because of aging, I just did. Since I've hit 30, I've been loving them. Again, I don't know why.
I would say take the time to make your birthday an all about you day. Spoil yourself if possible. Go to the spa or get a manicure and pedicure, if that's what you enjoy.
Is it your birthday today? Happy birthday if it is!

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 11:55:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		i have a birthday coming up in a couple of months. i have more birthdays that have been a disaster than ones i care to remember. until i was thirty i'd never had a party, and i've learnt to expect that the people i put effort into generally don't do the same for me. i used to feel bad if i wasn't putting effort into the people i class as those close to me, however, i'm trying very hard to not give myself such a hard time about it anymore because it seems to cause them nothing to forget about me. the problem with that is that i am constantly on the 'listen' when people are talking to me to pick up tips as to what they would like. i also find myself looking at things thinking 'i know so-and-so would love that'.

don't get me wrong; some people have given me some lovely gifts that i do treasure, but thinking right now about my ex.....as you mentioned your's.......the only time he made an effort was for my 21st, and my thirtieth when he organised a surprise party. i was very touched by that. the rest of the time though (14years) were a washout. people always use the 'oh but you are so hard to buy for' thing. i'm really not as there must have been tons of stuff they could have picked if only they paid attention when they visit my house, and took a bit of effort to note what i say instead of saying to me 'what would you like?' which will always get an answer of 'nothing thanks'. i don't want something because i asked for it, and it's not that i expect anything either. it's just that if you really want to do something for me then just do it and put some thought in.

this year, i am guessing, will be no different to any other year. however, i shall keep an eye on this thread because for once i'd like to have a reason to look forward to a birthday.

i hope you get your joy back Notsweet

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 12:02:06 PM   
needlesandpins


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Status: offline 		jeez i just read my post back to myself. sorry guys that sounds awfully whinge fest of me.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 12:05:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nah, it's not whiny. My ex took his girlfriend to Myrtle Beach for one of my birthdays, and the last one we spent together, took his girlfriend out to dinner. LOL...

The girlfriends and I are going out for crabcakes and cheesecakes, so there's a face orgasm in my future. But I'm really hoping for...something a little more...restrained. <smirk>

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 12:09:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Now let's get perky!! What makes everybody grin and giggle? Come on, folks, something to charm us all out of birthday slumps.

And by the way. If I could be thirty years old again, I would rule the fucking world!!

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 1:16:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have a birthday coming in early March. I don't like the idea bc I am scared to death of getting old. But I like them bc I am surrounded by friends and family. So that always makes me happy, plus I get great gifts. I'm spoiled like that. But I agree, go to a spa, or do what you enjoy!

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 1:35:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've detested my birthday since childhood. Being born in hell week is a cruel thing to do to a child. This year though, I had a great birthday (well, great for me). I had all my grown children and my 2 grandchildren around to make the day better. Mind you, only the boys said Happy birthday but it was a change for me. I MADE myself open to being content. Usually I hate the day so much it makes me cower in a corner like a dog about to be kicked. I could not do that this year because my family went out of their way to be here for the holidays. I am pretty sure the day was easier on me not because they were here, though that helped: I think it was my decision to remain open to something good happening rather than the normal cloak of depression that envelops me on that day.

So, my advice and something I hope to remember next December is this, it doesn't have to be bad. I can go out, have fun, maybe have a drink or two, dance, and be merry. I am the only one who knows the day normally sucks, if I don't pass that thought around to the world I can get through it.
Next year I plan on going roller skating.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:12:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ohhh Ohhh! I know, I know! Just think of it as celebrating another
wonderful year that you don't have to spend with either of your exes!!!!
Oh, and lots and lots of cake!
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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:14:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just celebrated a birthday and spent it with my family.

While I hate birthdays now, I do appreciate having a wonderful family who loves me and supports me.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:17:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Poise, that's the spirit!!!

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:19:20 PM   
Notsweet


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Status: offline 		SexyRed, not to be a downer, but my family is dead.
LOL...that kind of thing happens when you start to get old.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:20:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh gosh, I am so sorry! I have a very good friend who just lost her mother a month ago; it is very hard to lose family.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:22:25 PM   
Notsweet


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, I shouldn't have been so flippant about it. My sympathies to your friend--no matter how old you are, you're five years old when your Mom or Dad dies.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 2:24:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Treat yourself. Do something you enjoy. Go to the spa, buy yourself a piece of cake or even a full cake! Indulge. Go someplace that makes you happy. Spend the day with good friends and/or family. Do things that make you laugh.

Master usually takes me out someplace or makes me a nice meal or something. Or we'll go somewhere that is just fun. Before I met Master I would treat myself to my desserts, go to a movie, go out for a couple drinks with a friend, go out to dinner with my daughter, buy myself something I have been wanting.


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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 6:01:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Notsweet

Once upon a time, I was thrilled and giddy over my birthday.
Things changed a bit when I had an ex-husband or two who seemed to take relish in spoiling them.
I'd love to get happy about it again, in spite of the aging process.
(Which is not being all that kind. Sort of like a bad husband.)

Ideas, please!!


I always pick one of the better restaurants in town and masturbate under the white table cloth until they throw me out.

It's quite a thrill actually.

I have two left to choose from.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 6:03:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		LMAO.... one more time I am grateful I have my own teeth and do not have to pick them up off the floor.

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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 6:34:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mine is this weekend, and right now Ill just be glad to get it over and done with.
Its not my age...or sadness, just plain ol exhaustion, between me , hubby,my kids, and my sub, I have six birthday, one anniversary to prepare and do all the "legwork" for in february, not to mention valentines day.
I used to love February, not so much now .
Ive had awesome birthdays and Ive had some shitty ones, same as most of us I guess, this year im just too tired to contemplate it. I am blessed knowing my kids will be over for the ritual but im not sure I need anything more than that right now.
Wish I could help NotSweet, Hope you have a good one tho.


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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 7:35:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		My birthday was a couple weeks ago. My driver's license expired.

Honestly, my worst birthdays have been the ones where other people, even with the very best of intentions, decided to take control of how my day went. Family coming over for a party when I was a kid? Oh goodie. I got to spend the day helping clean the house. A surprise party? Thanks for fucking up the plans I had for tonight. The last surprise birthday party somebody threw for me left them with the surprise, because I went straight from work to a strip club, and didn't get home until after 2:00 a.m. I bet I got a better blowjob than I would have at the party, too.

Facebook is a wonderful invention. Everybody can chime in over the course of the day, and I can just click, "like," at my convenience in the evening. No spending two hours on the phone, saying the same things to everybody, over and over.

This year was actually damn good. The wife made a simple dinner of exactly what I like, and a batch of brownies. She got me something very practical, that she knew I needed, and I went to the good liquor store myself, for the present I wanted. We met up with the family on a night that was more convenient, and the waiter knew I was serious when I mentioned that putting the damn hat on me would reflect on his tip in the future.

Now, the wife likes to have a "do" of some sort for hers, so we tend to hit an amusement park, or go for a fine meal with a table full of friends.

If a birthday is supposed to be "your day," then my advice is to make sure it is.



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RE: Birthday moods - 2/20/2013 7:44:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		The only person who remembered mine this year was my daughter. I had to read her message out loud for The Man to realize it. Of course, he's also forgotten a couple of other family member's birthdays this year as well.

In my entire life I've had one birthday party. The year I turned 40 and threw it for myself.



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