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cash dommes - 12/4/2012 11:05:41 PM   
mustsub


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Status: offline 		Why are 99.9% of dominant women on this site begging for cash....lord knows I'm only looking for a domme to rape my wallet...loli
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RE: cash dommes - 12/4/2012 11:11:36 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		We see this rant all the time...but the reality is that there aren't *that* many of *that* type of findoms here.

I just searched for female dominants and did a random clicking of around 12 profiles and not one was a findom of any type. And one was outright stating they want to spoil and financially support their sub.

You may want to consider what your search and profile-viewing habits are if you're running into that many findom profiles here.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/4/2012 11:13:57 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Because:

a) lots of the male subs here are only looking for their exact fantasy being played out rather than actually serving, and don't want to build up a relationship, so they pretty much have to pay for it
b) it's a free site with a lot of people so lots of people are going to use it for advertising
c) some women have a legitimate kink for this
d) some guys have a legitimate kink for this
e) some people wanna make a quick buck and are willing to pretend it's their kink
f) female dominants are comparatively rare, whilst male subs are common, so the numbers are distorted

I could go on and on, but really we discuss this almost weekly on this board. If you go into the search section in the top right and try the key word 'findomme' you will have months of reading material on this.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 1:26:51 AM   
AllisonWilder


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Status: offline 		To drive annoyed folks to the discussion side of things to rant out their annoyances to people that aren't all that concerned with it in the first place. It's clearly working as a new thread pops up about findommes almost daily.

Block the user, hide the profile and go on about your day as if it never, ever happened! :)

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 2:55:26 AM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		Would it be a good idea to make this question a sticky ?

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 3:38:47 AM   
masmiss


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Status: offline 		Since most of the "dommes" begging for money are the hot, young things who only want your money, and horny, porn - intoxicated men are mostly looking for hot, young things the law of averages predicts that they (the horny men) will be reading only the profiles of the women looking for cash.

That will be $5.00

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 3:42:33 AM   
CynthiaWVirginia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mustsub

Why are 99.9% of dominant women on this site begging for cash....lord knows I'm only looking for a domme to rape my wallet...loli


Because, within the profiles area, a lot of people sending letters are here for online roleplay only. Some guys think it's hawt to pretend to have their wallets raped when in reality they are choosing to pay for someone to entertain them with a fantasy. I am not into this...and yet in the past two weeks I had two different guys offer a financial transaction. (I just block and delete.)

There's a clicky in your mail room that tells you how to avoid scammers.

Anyway, apples and oranges can be in the same room with each other...the apples won't make the oranges any less. Search through the people at this site to find what you are looking for.

When I was searching for my submissive, I had to wade through a lot of wankers and married cheaters to find him. It was time well spent.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 4:50:30 AM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		Why do some subs have to exagerate numbers to make a point? Why do they feel the need to start threads bitching because they can't find anyone to play with? Do they really think anyone is going to respond positively to this approach?

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 5:04:10 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		You're a new user, it must seem like there are a lot of these wallet rapers out there. While it might seem incomprehensible to you, there are actually people out there that enjoy that type of thing and this being a kinky site it's open to letting those people get what they want. There are also people taking advantage of what they see as an easy way to get stuff/money.

Funny thing really, without the wallet rapees, there wouldn't be any wallet rapers. Make of that what you will, but if there weren't people out there sending money- the ones asking for it would have faded away as it would be a wasted effort, and they don't seem to be the type to do anything that doesn't produce a reward for them if you know what I mean.

Most of us just ignore what isn't pertinent to us, and let those who like different things carry on however they like.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 5:34:43 AM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mustsub
Why are 99.9% of dominant women on this site begging for cash....lord knows I'm only looking for a domme to rape my wallet...loli

Oddly enough, I logged into CM today because I got an email even though my profile is hidden. It was from a findomme lady I knew, saying hi, could we talk on Skype sometime. I said I'd love to, but just to be clear, I wasn't looking, and would be interested in platonic friendship only. She said she wanted that too.

There's a findomme who posts on these boards from time to time. She and I have talked on Skype too. We've talked about exercise, plans for the future, general life stuff. We've never talked about money, and never done anything sexy.

Both of those women are quite attractive in my eyes, both physically and otherwise.

I think you're misunderstanding why pretty (and/or young) women put "I only talk with tribute" in their profiles. They have bullseyes painted on them whenever they log into the site, and all kinds of men want to use them as fetish objects and then throw them away. Demanding tribute is a way to sort out men who just want to rip and run.

I've found that the best way to gain a woman's trust and interest is to engage her mind, and to keep sex and sexuality as an interest, but not the main focus. This approach is apparently quite rare in a findomme's inbox. I enjoy talking to intelligent, kinky women, and I learned long ago that not every woman with a dom profile is 100% dom the end, even if that's what the profile says. Most people are flexible, and they enjoy both topping and bottoming depending on their mood, or their vibe with their partner that night.

So, my suggestion would be to lead with your personality. On a related note, I don't think your main profile photo is doing you any favors. If I were female, I would probably sort you into the tribute-only box right away.

Good luck.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 6:39:06 AM   
igor2003


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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

We see this rant all the time...but the reality is that there aren't *that* many of *that* type of findoms here. I'm not really sure what you mean by "that many of that type", but I will definitely agree that the numbers aren't 99.9%.
I just searched for female dominants and did a random clicking of around 12 profiles and not one was a findom of any type. And one was outright stating they want to spoil and financially support their sub. Just curious about what you used as your search criteria. After reading your post I wanted to see for myself what the numbers were. I searched for female dominants, aged 18 and up. I would hit "search" and check the one at the top of the list, then hit "search" again, and again take the one at the top of the list unless it was one that had come up previously. I checked 40 different profiles (okay, so I was bored and waiting for breakfast to cook!) and the results I came up with was 14 out of 40 were seeking tributes, seeking payment (pro-dommes), looking for "pay pigs", claimed to be "wallet rapers", or in any way looking for gifts or cash, sometimes in exchange for attention, but sometimes not offering anything at all for what they receive. That works out to 35% of the total. Nowhere near the 99.9% claimed in the OP, but still a fairly significant number. And the ages ranged from 21 to 57 for those asking for some kind of "payment", so claiming that it is only the young, pretty, ones doing the asking is not necessarily the case as so many people on the boards often claim.
You may want to consider what your search and profile-viewing habits are if you're running into that many findom profiles here. If someone is searching mainly for those dommes that are under, say...30, then most likely the numbers are going to be quite a bit higher than the way I searched. Again, still not 99.9%. As I was doing my search I did start to wonder if the percentages might be higher in different parts of the country, but even I am not bored enough to do THAT much searching!



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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 6:44:23 AM   
coldslayer


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Status: offline 		begging? more like demanding but ill let that be subjective. why do i do it? Because i like to and money is power... and as a blk female with feminist tendencies, it feels great. I like to laugh at me conquests. That poor glass ceiling wont let me be great. I have females subs I dont charge. Men are funny. Its amusing to see them bend backwards vanilla, or not. Cute panties slut. Theyd look better on me though.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 6:47:35 AM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: coldslayer

begging? more like demanding but ill let that be subjective. why do i do it? Because i like to and money is power... and as a blk female with feminist tendencies, it feels great. I like to laugh at me conquests. That poor glass ceiling wont let me be great. I have females subs I dont charge. Men are funny. Its amusing to see them bend backwards vanilla, or not.


You may find it amusing but I think it is sad that a guy would be so hard up to interact with a female that he felt the need to pay before he even talked to her.

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 7:01:35 AM   
coldslayer


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Status: offline 		Hmmm... perhaps im not in touch enough with my emotions to recognize that. In my experience though, from the subs I do real time with, they are all pretty well spoken and somewhat charismatic when they arent freezing up... minus my little virgin, but ill break him in in due time. He just seem socially inept in general, but hes actually the most attractive real time sub I have... I wonder if hell see this. Hope not. Im not to flatter him. In my experience they dont seem hard up to interact with females. I mean some are married. Some of them legitimately just want to be dominated. Also alot of my subs crave the humiliation, so they love it when it amuse me. I got the right ones! :-p

Oh. Although my profile states that I require tribute to be talked to, most subs tend to get illiterate by the time they get to that part -_- Something Ive just gotten used to lol. I get to know all of them before I get anything or wed meet up.



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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 9:04:06 AM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: coldslayer

begging? more like demanding but ill let that be subjective. why do i do it? Because i like to and money is power... and as a blk female with feminist tendencies, it feels great. I like to laugh at me conquests. That poor glass ceiling wont let me be great. I have females subs I dont charge. Men are funny. Its amusing to see them bend backwards vanilla, or not.


You may find it amusing but I think it is sad that a guy would be so hard up to interact with a female that he felt the need to pay before he even talked to her.

If it really even is a "her".
There is always going to be a bottom feeding element to WIITWD & those that believe they only deserve the worst. Saw sub the other day good looking, stable career that wanted daily & constant humiliation because he" deserves no better for the things he's done"...um wow ptsd anyone? While catharsis is a benefit, there are those seeking "help, rescue or security" with no idea how to go about it in ways that show their value, just what they think will get what they think they want

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 9:36:36 AM   
RumpusParable


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quote:

ORIGINAL: igor2003


quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

We see this rant all the time...but the reality is that there aren't *that* many of *that* type of findoms here. I'm not really sure what you mean by "that many of that type", but I will definitely agree that the numbers aren't 99.9%.
I just searched for female dominants and did a random clicking of around 12 profiles and not one was a findom of any type. And one was outright stating they want to spoil and financially support their sub. Just curious about what you used as your search criteria. After reading your post I wanted to see for myself what the numbers were. I searched for female dominants, aged 18 and up. I would hit "search" and check the one at the top of the list, then hit "search" again, and again take the one at the top of the list unless it was one that had come up previously. I checked 40 different profiles (okay, so I was bored and waiting for breakfast to cook!) and the results I came up with was 14 out of 40 were seeking tributes, seeking payment (pro-dommes), looking for "pay pigs", claimed to be "wallet rapers", or in any way looking for gifts or cash, sometimes in exchange for attention, but sometimes not offering anything at all for what they receive. That works out to 35% of the total. Nowhere near the 99.9% claimed in the OP, but still a fairly significant number. And the ages ranged from 21 to 57 for those asking for some kind of "payment", so claiming that it is only the young, pretty, ones doing the asking is not necessarily the case as so many people on the boards often claim.
You may want to consider what your search and profile-viewing habits are if you're running into that many findom profiles here. If someone is searching mainly for those dommes that are under, say...30, then most likely the numbers are going to be quite a bit higher than the way I searched. Again, still not 99.9%. As I was doing my search I did start to wonder if the percentages might be higher in different parts of the country, but even I am not bored enough to do THAT much searching!




Hiya!

I just re-did it to see what another go would be since we had a good difference in numbers. This time, out of 20, none were findoms, 3 were pro-doms and one of them was seeking lifestyle partners with just a note at the bottom of her profile saying that if you were a random guy or girl seeking a passing-by session that you could contact her in a professional capacity. The oldest of the two findoms I noticed was 22. Can't recall the other one's exact age.

My method was setting the search to dominant females of all ages, then loading pages and clicking randomly on names without reading them so as to try not to influence my results.

Going the opposite direction of doing what I get the impression most people making and complaining in these type of threads are doing, I then searched female dominants under 25 and picked names that came across as fetishy "hot". 8/10 with 6 being findoms and 2 being pros.



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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 10:00:06 AM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		Oh, I just thought of something else that figures into some of these guys' numbers, I'm sure:

When I (and many others, Ive found by chatting around) get a very wanky or what I consider disrespectful message I'll often tell them "if you want that, this is my fee". It's usually makes them run immediately and hopefully irritates the hell out of them.


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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 10:04:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Seriously, we need it a sticky at the top of the forums that says: " If you're thinking about making a post to complain about FinDommes / Fakes / Scammers / Wannabes - Don't, we've heard it all before"

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 1:58:39 PM   
searching4mysir


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Seriously, we need it a sticky at the top of the forums that says: " If you're thinking about making a post to complain about FinDommes / Fakes / Scammers / Wannabes - Don't, we've heard it all before"



Yeah, but it isn't as if newbies read stickies anyway

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RE: cash dommes - 12/5/2012 2:13:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Seriously, we need it a sticky at the top of the forums that says: " If you're thinking about making a post to complain about FinDommes / Fakes / Scammers / Wannabes - Don't, we've heard it all before"



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