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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 10:36:11 PM   
kiska


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		I've yet to meet a Dom who *honestly* wanted to take care of me financially. Lots of them claim to want to do that but when push comes to shove suddenly the submissive is a lazy bitch who won't contribute ... *sighs*

Now, as to all these new Dommes who talk about financial slavery ... Well, if you do a search for Dommes on google, a lot of the websites that come up focus heavily on financial slavery. It *is* a fetish ... This, however, is a free site ...

So, I guess maybe that makes all of us kinda cheap ... Hmm.

At any rate, most people who are looking to pay for their kink (or people for whom the actual paying part is their kink) probably aren't going to be hanging out around here on this totally free site.

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 10:42:32 PM   
missalice


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Status: offline 		hey there, y'all....

i'm a professional Dominant and i get paid $300/hour for my services.

as well, i have a stable of personal slaves.

recently i have added two financial slaves to my stable.

there is one professional Domme who has a great explanation as to why financial slavery is so alluring, and you can find it here: http://www.eurasiangoddess.com/Feb/money101.html

anyways -- i wanted to point out that there's a kind of slavery that goes another way, and that is wherein the slave might learn to depend on the Dominant financially, learning a whole new level of dependency and trust.... not holding a job and relying on someone to completely pay for your life, make decisions as to whether you deserve a new pair of shoes, etc...

it could go either way. i enjoy financial slaves, but i also would never let myself depend on the tributes i get from any slave.

(mind you, i have a slave who *i* financially support as well... my little bitch slave gets plenty of money from me... and it amuses me greatly that some of my other slaves buy him gifts on my behalf.. teehee.)

...as long as it's consentual, any form of play is respectable, dear ones. let the girls charge for their services -- or let the boys throw their money around, if they like.

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 10:43:09 PM   
MistressTheaZ


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Status: offline 		Financial Domination is a legitimate fetish, with an alarmingly high percentage of 'fakers' on both sides, really.

When I have had full-time subs, part of their submission has included management of their assets. However, I also worked for a Fortune 500 brokerage and felt quite apt to do so. *snort*

There are a number of real 'Money Dommes', and some true Financial Sadists, and there are a high number of men seeking them, as well. I have been approached for this quite a few times - mostly due to My work and interest in investing and manipulating money - and when I have engaged, it's been a blast. A consensual blackmail scenario with a sub one knows well can be hot indeed.

That said, as others have written, it's obviously not your kink. There will always be young hot things in leather prancing about with men falling all over them- just take a look at the rosters in some of the commercial houses and then check back to see which of them are left in about six months. I doubt it's coincedence that the turnover is so high, having worked as a ProDomme M'self. ;)

~Thea

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 10:44:57 PM   
missalice


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Status: offline 		oh -- and btw, y'all... i'm one of the girls who are making cash off of my lifestyle... but i do still hang around on the free site.. its my way of networking and meeting people... i don't seek clients off the site, just friends....

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 10:48:12 PM   
missalice


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Status: offline 		MistressTheaZ -- What do you mean about the turnover rate being high not being a coincidence? I don't see where you were going with that thought, m'lady.

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 11:10:16 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Girl, you'd better get ready for all the boys who are going to come calling you out of your name because you're not giving it all away for free, since that is allegedly where the grandness/glory are, lol.  
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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 11:19:07 PM   
zero69u2


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Status: offline 		behind the website and facade is some indian guy named amir who works at 7-11 selling slurpys by day and playing sexy asian dominatrix to money slave boi's at night.
would you really want to pay to cyber with another guy who's pretending to be a domina.

the pro's usually never engage in sex with clients.. Unless your playing the escort market with domina services..  so you get your spanking and get your money taken.. i'd feel like a prostitute along with her if i engaged in that sort of thing. 

i'm not submissive so maybe i just don't get it.

where's the chivilry in that ? where's the sense of conquest ? where's the adventure.. the zazazooo? is there any allure to playing these games.. other then if you were filthy rich and just wanted to control whores with money... i don't see the appeal or allure of doing that either.
i'd feel seriously teased and not pleased.

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 11:41:28 PM   
MistressTheaZ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: missalice

MistressTheaZ -- What do you mean about the turnover rate being high not being a coincidence? I don't see where you were going with that thought, m'lady.


I saw a large number of Women come into the NYC houses over a period of years thinking Domination was an easy way to make money without nudity or sex. When they found it required work, dedication, knowledge and commitment, most eventually left. This isn't meant to disparage the Ladies dedicated to what they do; I think it's obvious W/we all tend to know who the 'real' ones are......and aren't.

Take no offense where none was intended, Missalice. ;)

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 11:42:27 PM   
kiska


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zero69u2

behind the website and facade is some indian guy named amir who works at 7-11 selling slurpys by day and playing sexy asian dominatrix to money slave boi's at night.
would you really want to pay to cyber with another guy who's pretending to be a domina.

the pro's usually never engage in sex with clients.. Unless your playing the escort market with domina services..  so you get your spanking and get your money taken.. i'd feel like a prostitute along with her if i engaged in that sort of thing. 

i'm not submissive so maybe i just don't get it.

where's the chivilry in that ? where's the sense of conquest ? where's the adventure.. the zazazooo? is there any allure to playing these games.. other then if you were filthy rich and just wanted to control whores with money... i don't see the appeal or allure of doing that either.
i'd feel seriously teased and not pleased.



Some people don't care ... If he's good enough at pretending to be a woman, then more power to him!

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/14/2006 11:50:38 PM   
kiska


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		Coming here and mentioning that you get paid for professional services is like going to a Gay Pride parade holding up a sign that says homosexuality is a sin against nature ... lol

Ok maybe its not *that* bad ...

The thing is, on CM, for some reason, anyone who mentions the notion of being "professional" and being in the "lifestyle" usually ends up being called a whore, a joke, a faker or any number of other things and then it explodes into this huge arguement. This is the only place I've ever seen this kind of rabid reaction so I don't really get it ...

Yeah, there are a lot of people who call themselves professionals and haven't the first clue what they're doing but I think you get that just about anywhere you go ... I tried the pro thing ... Well, sort of. I was a phone sex operator. I couldn't get into it. I was on the submissive side of things, though, not the domme side. Thats about as pro as I'd ever want to get.

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 12:13:12 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiska

Coming here and mentioning that you get paid for professional services is like going to a Gay Pride parade holding up a sign that says homosexuality is a sin against nature ... lol

Ok maybe its not *that* bad ...

The thing is, on CM, for some reason, anyone who mentions the notion of being "professional" and being in the "lifestyle" usually ends up being called a whore, a joke, a faker or any number of other things and then it explodes into this huge arguement. This is the only place I've ever seen this kind of rabid reaction so I don't really get it ...

Yeah, there are a lot of people who call themselves professionals and haven't the first clue what they're doing but I think you get that just about anywhere you go ... I tried the pro thing ... Well, sort of. I was a phone sex operator. I couldn't get into it. I was on the submissive side of things, though, not the domme side. Thats about as pro as I'd ever want to get.




I am a Dominatrix (pro-domme),didnt always used to be.
As a couple years went by submissives started being repeat customers.I am very lucky to have 4 ( 3 from here 1 from someplace else.) this year that will celebrate being in My service for 1 year.Plus a few others that are still testing the waters.

I dont give a rats ass if anyone thinks I'm a whore....I know Who and What I am.
If someone else doesnt like it well I guess they can go shit in a hat and wear it.
ESPECIALLY since CollarMe has a section for Professional Services.

Not to mention I have a personal D/s relationship with slave bishop so I dont just "act it"  I live it.Its really to bad the Pros get picked on the true Pros have a lot of great info that They would love to share to help Others find Their way.


PS>>>Portland,Maine's  PRIDE festival is Saturday June 17th.The parade starts at Monument Square at 12pm and ends with a festival in Deering Oaks.
There are quite a few of the BDSM crowd that turned out last year...lets hope this years is better

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 12:30:47 AM   
MistressTheaZ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiska...

The thing is, on CM, for some reason, anyone who mentions the notion of being "professional" and being in the "lifestyle" usually ends up being called a whore, a joke, a faker or any number of other things and then it explodes into this huge arguement. This is the only place I've ever seen this kind of rabid reaction so I don't really get it ...


I think part of it is because the other side here is marketed more as 'BDSM personals' than a listing or ad site. While there will always be men in search of ProDommes on seemingly Lifestyle-oriented sites, the ones who aren't get a bit perturbed when someone's profile does not suggest She is a ProDomme. Others are just bothered by the commercial aspect in general or feel a conflict with lifestyle meeting tribute sessions. *shrug*

To each their own - there is room for everyone. ;)

~Thea

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 12:40:26 AM   
timeoutgurlie


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ORIGINAL: SingleTail69

you said it yourself! your not a pro! i'll assure you that most of these aren't planning to be anyones financial planner! just ask timeoutgirlie!!!!  haha


Hey now, hey now!  I'm fully prepared to be a financial planner so long as I don't have touch or see their lil wangs or manberries

Planning would consist of a timeline with allotments based on such things as the date a collection is available in stores, seasonal collection changes, estimated needs for accessories, and enough grocery and food products to keep him alive and paying.  He would know well in advance when her services were due and I'd even go to the bother of calculating how many hours of overtime he should be scheduling in order to easily cover the cost of his pleasures. 

Don't be so quick to underestimate us, lest I hop in the Planmobile and make it to your house in record time, singletail in hand

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 1:01:23 AM   
Gem


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Status: offline 		Bightest Blessings
 
Money is power. It gives you the ability to be independant, to make decisons about you life, to move on or stay.
 
Men have tradtionaly made more money, and run the finances, thus held the power over woman. Strip that away by having financial bondage/domination and the woman holds the power over them.
 
Blessed Be
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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 1:06:38 AM   
Dollbecky


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Status: offline 		Its odd, I dont do dishes, cant keep a straight face saying Master and am a all round bitch ...I truely suck playing a Sub(poor bastard loves me anyway) but the fact I have to ask my Beloved for my pocket money and get permission on how I spend it doesnt faze me at all...that finacial bondage isn't it ?

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 7:00:45 AM   
krikket


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SingleTail69

this has got to be a myth right?i'm sure that there are guys out there that will pay a girl well for their services but total financial bondage come on! splain this shit to me!


i think my landlord, the utility company, my ISP, my etc., beat them to it..lol

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 7:47:38 AM   
OsideGirl


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From: United States
Status: offline 		I'm already in financial dominantion.....we own two cars...have a home......

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 7:53:28 AM   
SirCumsSlut


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SingleTail69

this has got to be a myth right? i love checking out the "new users" to see whose coming onboard, but all these hot young learther clad "Dommes" touting financial domination has to be a joke! i'm sure that there are guys out there that will pay a girl well for their services but total financial bondage come on! splain this shit to me!


You live in the US right????  Well then you are already in total financial bondage with the US govt, employers, utility companies, banks, and the IRS........

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 8:11:17 AM   
CrescentLuna


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From: Upstate NY
Status: offline 		The concept is pretty simple, and though it isn't one of my own kinks I can definitely see how giving another person total financial control when you're used to having it yourself can definitely be part of a power-exchange relationship. I, too, am not interested in relationship that only focus on D/s without relationship or sex - but hey, to each their own arrangements. To some the idea of being in submission to a person, whipped about, and then dismissed with a directive to jack off seems pretty hardcore masochist.

And, since it was brought up otherwise, I stripped through two years of college - definitely helped pay the bills for those us who didn't have rich parents or want to go into hardcore debt.

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RE: Financial bondage?!?!!!! WTF - 6/15/2006 8:12:30 AM   
cheshireboy


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Status: offline 		i look at it this way, the one money is one of the traditional ways that men exclude control.  it is one of the things that many men take pride in, for a Domme to ask that submissive to give up their control and pride and hand it over to the Domme.  i can see why that would appeal to many, plus in someways it appeals to the "knight in shiny armour" myth where they shower tokens of love on the Lady in waiting, where all they get is a simple "thank you," as the reward and that is enough.  now would this boy go that route...no, but he does understand the fetish of it.

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