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emotional torment - 8/24/2012 4:18:06 AM   
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This has nothing to do with my owner (for once lol)

At the moment I am going through a really hard time in my life, I've been getting help from a therapist so I am supported in that respect, I am just asking the general populous if there are ways to reduce stress and ways to be able to relax and calm down.
I've been very high strung with my situation for the past 6 months and I would really like some input and advice.
I've tried music, long hot baths, tasks that involve me needing to concentrate but i am looking to see if anyone has any alternatives from these to reduce stress and anxiety.


At the moment there is nothing i can do to change my situation as it is in the hands of the courts now.
Again just looking at ideas on how to occupy my mind and help me focus on other things.



thanking you all

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 4:33:44 AM   
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Relaxation exercises/hypnosis always work for me. I've become so accustom to the techniques that I can usually make myself calm down, or fall asleep with them within 10 minutes. I was taught how to do it with myself by an actual hypnotherapist, but if that's not an option for you, check out some of the youtube vids on this subject.

Something like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JcyyHSzoov8

If you don't like the sound of this guy's voice, there's a lot of these type of videos to be found on youtube, so you can just keep looking until you find somebody you feel comfortable with.

Good luck.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 5:06:22 AM   
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thank you :)
I'll definitely try it

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 5:36:32 AM   
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Yoga.

If I'm too frazzled for yoga, cardio.

Sometimes cardio followed by yoga.

Sometimes cardiovascular yoga (like Power Yoga or Ashtanga.)

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 5:36:43 AM   
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Exercise. Beating the snot out of pillows.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 5:39:36 AM   
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derailing my own thread.
what are the best foods to battle lethargy?

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 5:48:14 AM   
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It depends a lot on what kind of vitamins and minerals you're missing.

For me it tends to be iron. Especially now that I'm living at high altitude, so I take supplements. However, taking too much iron is dangerous, so not something you should experiment with yourself.

Get your doctor to do a full blood work panel to see if you've got any consistent deficiencies.

In a general sense, make sure you drink lots of water (no diet soda doesn't count), dehydration makes you feel tired.
Avoid refined carbs (white flour, white rice). Make sure you get plenty of protein. It's advisable to have protein with every meal, in small dosages (30-50gr). Try to have consistency in your diet. Eat at least 3-4 times a day, preferable more often, and try to eat at the same times every day.

Do not ever skip breakfast. In fact, for most people breakfast, not dinner, should be the biggest meal of the day.
If you have trouble eating solids in the morning, try a meal shake and some juice instead.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 6:16:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant

derailing my own thread.
what are the best foods to battle lethargy?


The best way to battle lethargy and will help you gain some peace of mind hopefully as well is exercise.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 6:19:25 AM   
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The best way to battle stress is to exercise, eat right, ensure you are hydrated and sleeping enough. The problem is that being stressed makes you WANT to do the opposite of all of those things. Sorry to hear you are struggling

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 6:39:27 AM   
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Due to very heavy menstrual bleeding, I'm anemic, and once my iron level was so low the doctor said "One point lower and I'd give you iron intravenously."

The first supplement the VA gave me did nothing for me. I forget what form that was - probably cheapest.

Now they are giving me Ferrous Gluconate, which raises my iron level but not my energy.

I've started taking Thorne Research Iron Picolinate and something has raised my energy lately - may be that.

I've never had the constipation typical with iron supplements, but since taking vitamin C to bowel tolerance, I've never had a problem with constipation.

I agree with Ishtar about not taking iron unless you've had the panel first.

I also agree with avoiding refined carbs. I don't eat bread made from flour - I eat Ezekial, which is more expensive, but I don't eat bread every day. I do eat whole grains like quinoa, millet, and oat.

I can't drink juice - that much sugar not buffered by fat and protein whacks me out.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 6:51:20 AM   
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quote:

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Exercise. Beating the snot out of pillows.

Exercise. Beating the snot out of slaves.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 6:57:45 AM   
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I suggest a pet. No, seriously. For stress relief, having a furbaby to cuddle with, pet, lavish attention on is a GOOD thing! and I'm not just saying that because the Cats own me... there is research:

http://stress.about.com/od/lowstresslifestyle/a/petsandstress.htm

http://www.webmd.com/hypertension-high-blood-pressure/features/health-benefits-of-pets


just to start...

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 7:00:54 AM   
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Don't laugh, you know chia pets?  Well, chia seeds (not from the kits...lol...try a health food store) are amazing.  I make up a gel of chia seeds in water (they absorb water like crazy) and add the gel to smoothies, baked goods, heck just about everything these days.  They have really made a difference in my energy levels.

http://www.rawreform.com/content/view/345/127/

While people's bodies react differently to things, this is one of the few products that works for me as claimed.  They seem expensive, but a bag lasts forever; you don't need much to see a difference.  A little goes a long way...


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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 7:55:38 AM   
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lmd,

If it is affordable then therapeutic massage can be helpful.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 9:34:53 AM   
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Music is my biggest soother. I put on my headphones, go for a walk, then stop by the park to watch the wind in the trees.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 9:53:38 AM   
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Write.

Paint.

Draw.

Anything, just create

Creation helps me almost as much as the cocktail of drugs I'm on. Though to be honest, everyone is different, what works for one doesn't mean it works for another, try anything, everything.

also *Mind Hugs*

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 9:55:22 AM   
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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 10:17:14 AM   
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*hugs GT*

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 11:22:39 AM   
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What works for me is to do something nice for someone who needs it. Volunteer through a charity, or just identify people around you that could use some help and go offer it to them. An elderly neighbor who needs their lawn cut or garden weeded. Random acts of kindness - when I'm out shopping I can usually spot opportunity by offering to help people with mobility issues with returning their carts, or opening doors, or offering to carry something to their car. Little things, but it really gives me a serene feeling.

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RE: emotional torment - 8/24/2012 12:24:09 PM   
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Have you tried meditation?
I've struggled with panic attacks and
anxiety and I've found it helpful.
Meditation, yoga, tai chi and qigong
have all helped.
Regular exercise is good. I think a walk
outside in the fresh air and nature is
especially healing.
Ditching caffeine helped me a lot.
And if you're up for the upkeep of pets
think about getting a fish tank.
Doesn't have to be a large one.
Just big enough for a few goldfish
to swim around in.
Watching fish is soothing and relaxes
people which is why some dentist offices
keep a tank in their waiting rooms.
A friends brother had a therapist who
recommended it to him and it actually
helped him a lot. When he was feeling
tense he'd go chill out in front of his
fish tank.

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