irishbynature
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ORIGINAL: Calandra (Using Fast Reply) I've been in the lifestyle for nearly 17 years, and only last year came to terms with why I am so uncomfortable with interrogation scenes. I was raised in a very dysfunctional family where my mother was manipulative, and forceful. She used interrogation in such a way that even if you didn't DO anything, you'd say whatever she wanted you to say just to make it stop. Calandra I sort of had the same relationship with my mother. When I was introduced to the entire D/s relationship dynamic, my former would use interrogation with me as a method of dealing with his own extreme jealousy issues. Each time it happened, it was based on what he'd dreamed up in his mind, asking me questions to attempt to catch me in a lie....thinking I was secretly seeing another, etc...and I was not. Most of the time, it left me in tears because I recognized the same pattern from my mother. It was abusive and he knew this. The only positive aspect was that I made the connection, as you have; and began working to heal the old wounds from my childhood. Now, I refuse any kind of role play, games, etc that deal with interrogation. I'm glad you made the connection as I did.Often, in any relationship, we bring our baggage and don't realize our partner can emotionally harm us, etc. Irish
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