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RE: Solo marriages - 3/18/2012 1:34:31 PM

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I don't know what the womans motivation was, if there was anything beyond what was stated/inferred in the article, but as I said earlier I am surely interested in the marriage = 1 man/1woman folks' reactions.

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RE: Solo marriages - 3/18/2012 1:50:07 PM

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I thought Jim and Holly already were in the arrangement...

And about the tax thing, as a single PARENT, that lady pays less taxes anyway!

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RE: Solo marriages - 3/18/2012 1:59:34 PM

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I like the idea of a single person having the same kind of celebration when starting out in life that married people get - registering for gifts, having a party, having help from family and friends in setting up a home.

I do think though, that marriage is pretty plainly the joining of more than one. So I think that's kind of silly and bordering insulting. It's a bit mocking and...actually...makes me think she might be a tad bitter.

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RE: Solo marriages - 3/18/2012 6:00:36 PM

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Obviously the woman in the article felt better about herself to have had this public affirmation of herself. But it really does beg the question of why?

It concerns me that she felt she had to do something public to make it a positive experience for her to be solo. It sounds to me like she is having difficulty truly embracing her divorced status. And, therefore, something about it seems insulting to single, divorced or widowed people. After all, what exactly is WRONG with going through life solo?

Not to mention she is not actually SOLO. She has a child, does she not? So she is part of a nuclear family that consists of one adult and one child.

I mean, look, people are free to do whatever they want. Celebrate whatever they want. But something here suggests to me she has huge discomfort over her actual status.

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RE: Solo marriages - 3/19/2012 2:00:27 PM

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I remember hearing of a never-married woman who gave herself a wedding when she turned 50. To her it was an affirmation and a party celebrating herself. She truly meant it as an expression of being comfortable in her own skin.

The irony is that she became married within a year or two.

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RE: Solo marriages - 3/19/2012 2:05:51 PM

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Oh we are totally having a wedding party at Calibirthday. Publix has a great bakery and I am kind of a "one of each" person when it comes to baked goods (buying, not eating) so there will be cake a plenty, esp their awesome milk cake! (the tres leches cake). We will grill MEATY THINGS, and have cake and fruit salad and maybe waffle fries from chick fil a if I can bring myself to give them monies.

Bitter lonely old matron HIB!!

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RE: Solo marriages - 3/19/2012 6:19:16 PM

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Some people throw parties when they get divorced. It's to make it clear that they are happy in their new state.

And I'm guessing what this lady got out of it was shutting her mother up who was probably pushing her to get remarried. It's one way to put an end to those kinds of comments from people who won't respect boundaries.

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