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Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate?

Willing to relocate anywhere.

23% (18)

Willing to relocate on the to a nearby country.

5% (4)

Willing to relocate inside country.

33% (26)

Not willing to relocate at all.

38% (30)

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Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/30/2006 9:57:53 PM

Skuggi

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Just wondering if any submissives/slaves are activily seeking relocation and if so, why and under what circumstances?

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/30/2006 10:03:44 PM

cariad

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girl is not actively seeking, but should she find a Dom/Domme that wishes her to, she would if the circumstances were good, meaning that if things worked out after the first few meetings.

girl would move to where the Dom/Domme is because it would not only be pleasing the Dom/Domme, but also because girl wants to start a new life away from her current location.

hope this helps

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/30/2006 10:09:11 PM

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I am in the process of moving back to FL this month. Having just put aside tenants and with plans to redo the house, relocating at this point would be fruitless. Cross country moves are just a pain in the ever lovin behind.. hehe..

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/30/2006 11:33:07 PM

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I never really thought about relocation until I met Master. On our first meeting he told me that eventually he would be moving back to Brisbane. At that point in time my response was that I would never move. At the time I had all my friends here in Sydney and I have to admit was still not over my ex Master as The Ex Master was here there was no way I wanted to leave.

Time went on though and over about six months those people who were stopping me from going and the issues that stopped me from wanting to go dissapered. Master and I fell in love and started a commited 24/7 relationship and now I would move where ever Master wanted me to. As I have said to Master my home is where ever he is.

I would never dream of relocating for someone I had only ever met/played with online or only a few times in the real world but for someone that I have got to know so well yes I would do anything, i belong to him now and thats all that matters.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 1:11:19 AM

becca333

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I've got ties and responsibilities here, and have no plans at all to move.

But, I suppose, if lightning struck and I was suddenly totally and completely consumed with once-in-a-lifetime soul-mate love and adoration...

I've lived long enough to know that the minute you think everything is settled and planned and in place forever, that's when it all turns upside down!

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 3:01:06 AM

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When i first moved to OH from FL, i though i was willing to go anywhere for the right Man -- and preferably out of Cleveland.

However, now my little one seems settled in OH; and ideally,i would like to be within driving distance of her. (Probably not the same city. We both need our privacy.) To me, this means OH, KY and MI.

i know i do not want to live in NYC, DC, or anywhere on the west coast. That level of stress in my enviroment is just not appealing. (i miss the ocean terribly and think alot of Savannah or the Gulf Coast.)

i do not want to live in a big city, such as Detroit or Chicago, unless my One is able to provide an upper middle class style of living. To live as a lower middle class person in a challenging enviroment does not appeal to me. However, relying on Him financially raises a whole different set of issues.

i do not want to live in the country. (No salons; that cricket phobia again).

i think ideally i would like to live in or near a college town, for the amenities offered and the exuberance of youth.

Where one lives is a quality of life issue. Particularly as W/we age. Many housing ass'ns in Florida have rules forbiding persons below a certain age from buying property and restrict the amount of time children may remain on the ass'n's grounds. Frankly, this does not appeal to me, but whatever floats Y/your boat.

i just think if i found my One, s'how we would work it out. Some Men in my age bracket are planning to retire or have more than one home.

i'd still like to leave Cleveland, but one must grow where one is planted.

pinkee

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 3:30:07 AM

BastianDuVane

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I suppose that in this respect I was lucky. The girl I found happened to be in a state where she was looking to make a big move as she'd just graduated from college. She was looking for a destination and, through me, found that she loved Ohio.

I consider myself fortunate.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 4:08:34 AM

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I am the single mother of two children. Their father is not involved in their lives, in fact, we don't even know where he is. My children rely very much on my parents, my sisters and their cousins as their support system. How could I be so selfish as to move them away from their place of strength? Short answer, I can't. They do come first. So, while it's highly unlikely that I will find my one locally, I can and do remain hopeful.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 4:27:16 AM

keme

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Hard to say... for the right Dominant, under the right circumstances, with the right area in mind... yeah I may move. But til my kids are out of the house I need too many variables...lol

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 4:47:43 AM

spankmepink11

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At this point in my life, i would choose not to relocate due to the fact that i still have one of my 3 sons at home. We were a military family for years and never stayed in one place more than 2-3 years at a time...sometimes 1 year.
This has been the closest thing to a "hometown" my sons have had...and we all love the area. Also, my older sons are the only male support system the youngest has, and i would not willfully seperate him from that.
That being said, however, once my "nest" is completely empty, i would certainly entertain the idea of relocation within a reasonable distance, but the relationship would have to be spectacular to lure me away from my beloved adopted home town.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 5:19:58 AM

spectreandnectre

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When Master and i met i moved from Pennsylvania to Nebraska. I was ready for a move and couldn't have been happier with my decision.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 5:23:45 AM

talibahh

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There was a thread on this recently...

http://www.collarchat.com/m_397504/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#397611

what i said in there still stands for me at this point in time...

tali

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 5:33:37 AM

feastie

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One more thing...

Why would it be incumbent upon the submissive to relocate?

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 5:49:27 AM

DullRazer

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I agree with feastie.
At least, if I am reading what you wrote correctly.

It seems your asking why it is seemingly always neccessary for the submissive to relocate. (If I inferred that wrong, Im sorry)

I see that as an extremely valid question. Many submissives have far more important obligations, or do not have the financial means to relocate. I am one.

I attend college, a University that I love and could not dream of going anywhere else. My education is paramount to me, as I come from an entire family where no one graduated High School (yet along went to college) and so, I simply can not just *drop* college to relocate. There is the option of transfer- but as I said I am in love with my school, and see it as the best fit for me. If I wanted to have gone anywhere else- I would have applied.

Being a college student (and coming from a low-mid income family) I don't have the financial means to relocate- even if I *WAS NOT* in school.

I find it a bit perplexing that it is always put upon the sub to relocate. I understand that it can (and often times is) viewed as a part of the 'submission' aspect- leaving everything behind to start a 'new life' so to speak- but it simply can not be done. What vexes me even more, is that many Dominants seem to refuse to accept that possible relocation isn't a current option- and end talks with the said submissive.

If the Dominant and submissive *really* do click, and are compatible- then it should be a compromise, IMO. I believe that if the slave is unable to relocate (not unwilling- unABLE) due to valid and respectable reasons, then- if relocation is still a central issue- then the Dominant should be willing to take that next step. Just my schpeel. ^_^

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 7:03:13 AM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

One more thing...

Why would it be incumbent upon the submissive to relocate?

I agree. I've frequently wondered this. I live 3 minutes from the beach, in a place with almost perfect weather year round. I have a career. Why would I leave here to move to a place I would hate? I don't agree with the attitude that it doesn't matter if the sub/slave is happy. I'm inthis life because it makes me happy. If, I live every day in misery, I'll get out.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 7:07:02 AM

lisa1978

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I do not have any attachments like children or other relatives that depend on me so I am open to relocation. To me finding a long-term relationship as a slave transcends physical location or preference. I moved to where I live now to be owned and although it did not work out I have no regrets.

Now, I will not move outside the U.S.. I want to be an affordable plane ticket close to my family and also I am very much not comfortable safety wise being in a foreign country knowing nobody but one or two people.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 10:00:33 AM

ShiftedJewel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

One more thing...

Why would it be incumbent upon the submissive to relocate?

I don't think it's always the submissive that relocates, I've heard of dominants that have as well. I think it all depends of the circumstances of everyone involved. For us it would be lunacy to relocate... My husband has had the same job for 23 years and everything we own is paid for so it wouldn't be feasible to start over at this stage of the game, hell, we've almost got it beat. lol

Jewel

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 10:00:38 AM

NCSilverWolfs

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I have no intentions of relocating anytime soon. I have teens and they're settled here. (Ughhhhh) So i'll continue to enjoy the little get togethers till they're grown and outta the nest pretty much. I won't say never though. Just a postpone. But I also have to agree with the above... no reason why it should be the submissives job to relocate. I think it depends on all factors...family, kids, jobs, etc....

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 12:12:54 PM

losttreasure

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It isn't always the submissive. Though I'm completely open to relocation, I've no idea if I will or he will. When we get to that point, I'm told that we will discuss all the options before a decision is made, and it just might be that we BOTH go someplace new.

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RE: Are submissives/slaves ready to relocate? - 5/31/2006 12:21:19 PM

heartfeltsub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spectreandnectre

When Master and i met i moved from Pennsylvania to Nebraska. I was ready for a move and couldn't have been happier with my decision.

But to Nebraska, you must be a masochist. (grinning)

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