Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you?

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Sherrr -> Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 12:26:21 PM)
Am I the only one who finds it irritating, presumptive, and sort of offensive to be addressed as "Mistress," "Goddess," or a similar name right off the bat?

MissToYouRedux -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 12:49:37 PM)
Eh, it doesn't really bother me. I think the guys (poor things, as my grandmother used to say) are doing the best they can. But the smart ones pick up that my nic has an embedded IQ test. ;) **Edited to add that I take very little online personally, good or bad.

Sherrr -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 12:57:14 PM)
Nice! Sometimes I wish I wasn't so liberal feminist. "Miss" automatically implies patriarchy to me, but you seem to have it more figured out than I do. You've given me something to think about, so thanks.

kalikshama -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:04:40 PM)
Mistress Janice agrees - http://www.xtranormal.com/profile/5297466/ - click on "The Meeting"

Sherrr -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:08:43 PM)
Two minutes and forty three seconds of genius!!!!!!!!!!! I'm adding that link to my profile, if that's ok.

RoughChances -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:22:30 PM)
Yup bothers me..until your in my service your an equal and using my name is not a sin

kalikshama -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:26:33 PM)
Of course! Enjoy, and welcome.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:30:16 PM)
I don't like being addressed as a title that our relationship does not demonstrate. However, in initial conversations I will let that slide. I understand the sub in question is trying to do the right thing, and does not want to offend by being too low protocol right off the bat. I love it when they ask me how I should be addressed, this tells me they have their head at least partially out of the porn and view me as a person, instead of fetish delivery device. When in a relationship, I still prefer my first name used, it gives all the more weight to those times when I "force" the sub to use titles or protocol. I can't imagine being in a relationship where someone always addressed me as a title, that starts being a bit too much like objectifying ME, which since I have a strong preference for male subs, just does not work, in my opinion. YMMV and all that crap.

Sherrr -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:35:59 PM)
Very well said. I agree about letting it slide in initial conversations, though the irritation factor goes up exponentially with every "please let me serve you," etc. that gets added on. I so agree as well about being seen as a fetish delivery device. Also agree about forcing the use of titles at certain times. I guess there's nothing you said that I don't agree with :)

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:44:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sherrr Am I the only one who finds it irritating, presumptive, and sort of offensive to be addressed as "Mistress," "Goddess," or a similar name right off the bat? I really would rather someone use my username instead of Mistress or Goddess. Then, when he knows my real name, use that until there is some agreed-upon dynamic in place. But I realize everyone on here is only trying to do the best they can....or I hope so anyway. Oh, yeah! I also love The Meeting. I think it's totally funny!!

hausboy -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:52:51 PM)
From the other side of the kneel....it's a litmus test for me as well if the person I contact insists on being called something formally right away. I use screen names now always, and if they prefer something else (formal or first name), I'll let them cue me in on it. I don't have any objection if someone CM's me and calls me "haus", but if they start calling me "boy" from the start, before they get to know me as a person, it has the same reaction for me that being called "Mistress" has for many of the previous posters. Just too soon. (and not only do I love that video....it cracks me up that some idiot then went and openly trolled for women in the comments section. talk about clueless!)

Delilya -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 1:55:10 PM)
"The Meeting" is epic. I nicely ask that they use my name until such a time as service has been agreed on. Even then I prefer m'lady to other titles.

MissBenson -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 2:20:28 PM)
Oh miz chatte ..."fetish delivery device " ? LOVE it ! Haw. I'm definitely going to use it , and I'll give credit where credit is due , no fear . [ So now we know you are funny and smart as well as , in that teeny photo of yours , gorgeous . ] I too find the whole catapulting into the use of a title that implies a relationship that does not ( yet ? ) exist just.....incredibly annoying and clueless . Wether in person or online . OK ,they may be doing their best but if this IS their best it is NOT good enough . It's fucking rude ! It's...it's PUSHY . I realize that the online world has exploded this whole insta-relationship tendency , just add water and stir ( blech ) but that doesn't make it right .

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 2:33:29 PM)
Thank you, MissBenson, but I did not coin "festish delivery device" I picked it up here on the CM forums. And use it to good advantage, I would say. But please do not credit me. I regret to say I do not know who to credit. Still, it is a lovely phrase and one many people notice. Best, Chatte

PeonForHer -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 3:08:47 PM)
FR I find that a neutral, but polite, form of salutation works best in those introductory cmails. I always start with 'Dear Bignose'. (Seriously, I did actually use that once - and it worked!)

BBBTBW -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 3:18:13 PM)
The Meeting...AMAZING. I love it

HannahLynn -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 3:25:08 PM)
my name is hannah. my girls calls me that or "hanners", or "hun", or "lover", or "eddie", or "boss-lady", or "bannaners" or all sorts of other shit, fuck sometimes they even call me "the old whore". if one of them called me mistress or goddess i'd just fucking piss myself laughing.

BBBTBW -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 3:25:36 PM)
The Meeting...AMAZING. I love it

Lucylastic -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 6:50:00 PM)
I prefer to be addressed with the same respect I give. No more no less I have one pet, only he calls me Mistress.I dont need anything more.Ihave friends in offline who call me Ma'am, and milady, but that is their choice, their prerogative. I know when they call me ma'am they are doing so because they respect me for who I am to them, and not because they feel obligated. I dont need platitudes or verbal ass kissing

MistressLilliana -> RE: Dominant Ladies: How do you prefer to be addressed and spoken to by an unknown male approaching you? (10/22/2011 7:37:04 PM)
Since my user name is Mistresslilliana I can't say anything about anyone calling me Mistress however, I pay more attention to those who write to me and ask if its alright if they do call me Mistress. Otherwise, I make it clear from the beginning that even should they call me Mistress, I'm not theirs until I own them.

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