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RE: Public Displays - 10/2/2011 7:26:27 PM

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This thread is being opened back up. Thank you for your patience.

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RE: Public Displays - 10/4/2011 9:30:05 AM

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I'm not big on pushing limits during first meets or for quite while after. Limit pushing, for those that do that, is better done inside of an established relationship where you can (hopefully) count on the person sticking around and dealing with the fallout if it turns out this was a bad idea.

First date top isn't going to be interested in holding your hand and hashing this out repeatedly over the next few months as you need reassurance.

If you aren't yet comfortable talking about it, then you certainly won't be comfortable doing it.

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RE: Public Displays - 10/4/2011 11:35:10 AM

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I´m with those who say OP should talk to his Domme.
If OP feels uncomfortable in mind prior to execution of activity and tells his Domme directly, a REAL Domme wouldn´t have pushed OP into doing it anyway.
Many people can "see in own mind" if an activity is doable or not, and dismiss the activity without even trying it first and shouldn´t be forced to try, so that the Domme(in some kind of mentally disturbed way) can be convinced that activity isn´t for her sub. Instead listen directly to her sub, NOT performing the activity, or at least postpone the thing for the future...

"Don´t knock it, til you´ve tried it" isn´t by a longshot valid in general terms in BDSM-community, it´s the private decision of the individual sub about to meet a new, unknown activity. If the mind doesn´t want, the body shouldn´t be subjected to it anyway and reasonable time to think through first should be given by Domme, not pushing anything...

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RE: Public Displays - 10/4/2011 5:56:46 PM

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You say you're new, so why not tell her you want to get accustomed to things in private before doing any public play.

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RE: Public Displays - 10/4/2011 9:26:51 PM

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for me playing in a dungon or other private place is not a problem in public thats a problem. for you talk to the dom and see if it part of what she expects or just something that is being done to force the limits a bit.

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RE: Public Displays - 10/5/2011 6:47:59 AM

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Having done it once, are you more resistant to doing it again or less so? If the former, then tell your domme that you tried it and it's past your limit. If the latter, could be that it's something you'll come to tolerate (and, who knows, perhaps enjoy).

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RE: Public Displays - 10/8/2011 5:59:31 PM

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Hello,

I love dominating a slave in public, but only if they are into it as much as I am. I like a slave finding fulfillment in pleasing Me, so if the slave is not into the scene then there is no enjoyment. If you have limits that are not being respected then yes you should inform the Domme/Dom. Both parties should be having a good time. Safe, Sane, and Consential.

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