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outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:06:58 PM   
DrElectro


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I was wondering I am not someone who lives the BDSM lfestyle 24/7 and I have friends and meet people and fall in love with them outside the BDSM enviroment so thats kind of difficult , if you start chatting to the pretty girl who smiles at you on the train how do you reconcile that with the fact that ifyou say to her by the way I have a fetish about tying girls up and doing whatever with them then she is likely to run a mile?

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:14:36 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:14:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is a matter of some polish and poise and can wait its turn (probably not done on the train)  an example:

You will have to provide your own french accents outrageous for this....

A man strolls the Champs Elysee in Paris and accosts a beautiful woman...

Monsieur: Will you go to bed with me, Mademoiselle?

Mademoiselle: (aghast, taken aback) What do you take me for, Monsieur?

Monsieur: But Mademoiselle, I will give you 50,000 francs for the honor of this interlude.

Mademoiselle: Oh, but Monsieur; I can see I have misjudged you, you are certainly a man of genteel nature and of great refinement...(coquettishly) What will you do when we share our bed of love?

Monsieur: I will lay you ever so gently in the finest linens in Paris, I will sprinkle you with fresh rose petals, I will tie you in the softest and silkiest flaxen ropes available—All the while; softly whispering passionate and wonderful words of lustiness in your pretty little ear.

Mademoiselle: (fanning herself, chest heaving) And then what will you do with me, Monsieur?

Monsieur: I will then bring forth my riding crop and beat you mercilessly as you scream.......

Mademoiselle: (horrified) Mon Dieu! And how long will you beat me for, Monsieur?

Monsieur: Until I am once again in possession of my 50,000 francs; you ignorant whore...

Je pense. Donc; je suis. Responde!
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:18:21 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:20:12 PM   
DrElectro


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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:21:12 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		So many words Ron....shouldn't kneel and suck it work equally as well?

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:31:54 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:34:47 PM   
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That is the most disgusting avatar ever!!!!!



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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:36:02 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:41:04 PM   
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Ohhhhhhhhhh I wanna look..............I don't wanna look..........I am compelled to look.........I shouldn't look..........decisions decisions....


You know you want to, you know you do...

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:41:56 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:51:39 PM   
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Edited to try to add something so as to not totally derail what the OP was asking about....You might be surprised how open people might be, without wearing it openly on their sleeves.  It's really like what Ron said - about the finesse in which a topic is brought up.  If you just bluntly throw it out on the table, it's not likely to go over as well, but over the course of a few dates, a glass of wine, a quiet conversation - - who knows?  Question is, would you be content going out with someone who doesn't want this?  If so, all that dating only to find out she's not interested in it might be a waste of time, yes?


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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:55:23 PM   
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LaT I did read it.

Need not bother, m'dear.  Same old: My slave(s) speak only when spoken to, etc.  You (LaT) could probably write a better one, y'know?  This one does start off oddly, though.  "I'll smoke whenever, wherever...." and strangely ends with something like: "Enjoy each breath you can take.  Medical reasons may prevent you from ever doing so again."

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 2:58:46 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 3:03:25 PM   
HannahLynHeather


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Status: offline 		what the fuck man, do you tell women how big your dick is when introduce yourself? look just get to know the cunt a little first, she doesn't have to know your a piss freak <or whatever other sick-ass shit you happen to be into> right the fuck at the start.

when do you tell her? when the time is right. just like with any other private detail of yourself. i know you're chatting her up because you're hoping to tie the little tart up and cause her enormous pain and discomfort, but how about you find out if she's even remotely interested in bedding you first. sure she's cute, has a sweet ass and perky tits, but can she string two sentences together? does she have compatible political beliefs? does she only date within her religion?

take care of all that vanilla shit first, then if she's still interested, and of interest, then you just ask if you can tie her to the bed one night. its a 4 step process
1. date a while
2. fuck a while
3. be kinky a while
4. own the bitch

come on man, we're talking fucking here, you get nilla chicks to fuck you, right? same thing just an extra step, a left turn instead of a right, and way more fucking fun.

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 3:04:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		You're being unfair, I had quite a few giggles from it, especially the "I am this madly dangerous Satanist who will break your heart" bit was particularly amusing the guy assuming that slaves are just going to line up and be jealous of each other and beg for his favors. Nice bit of attempted creative writing, not really spectacular but it's worth a giggle or two.

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 3:04:30 PM   
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OP if you haven't run away by the off topic stuff, there is no magic decoder ring to tell you if you're compatible. Just as you wonder if the pretty girl in front of you at the coffee shop might be compatible, she may be doing the same. The only way to find out if you're compatible is by dating and talking. Do you have the same views politically and in terms of religion. Because that's equally important. The first date goes well, then you talk a little more frankly on the second. And so on. Because although sexual and kink compatibility is important, so is everything else.


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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 3:14:00 PM   
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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 3:17:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrElectro

First post so hello A/all
I was wondering I am not someone who lives the BDSM lfestyle 24/7 and I have friends and meet people and fall in love with them outside the BDSM enviroment so thats kind of difficult , if you start chatting to the pretty girl who smiles at you on the train how do you reconcile that with the fact that ifyou say to her by the way I have a fetish about tying girls up and doing whatever with them then she is likely to run a mile?


Bondage is about control....

Those who enjoy being tied up generally appreciate a partner who takes control in a relationship. While there are a lot of "pretty girls" about, you can generally glean from a few minutes of conversation whether or not the girl you're talking to likes a "take charge" kinda guy.... The eyes are also a relevant indicator, along with body language. Assuming she's remotely into you, is she better at talking or listening etc?. At the very least, I'd pass on "little miss bossy boots"....

Almost everyone is into something kinky but none have it branded on their forehead. Submissive types generally take the lead from their partner, not the other way around.... You need to look beyond "pretty" and mostly, you need to observe the mannerisms of who you're with.

Focus.

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RE: outside BDSM - 8/8/2011 3:22:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		holy fuck! that was actually sensible advice! good job there newcastle.

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