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HannahLynHeather -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 4:14:33 PM)
well thank the fucking lord you've come along to teach us all how we should post, eh?. [8\|]

LadyPact -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 4:19:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arieno OP, I don’t profess to have the answers you are looking for. Or even a remote understanding of the motivators driving some of the comments on these boards, but I do know, argumentative negative insulting comment is better left unsaid. Ever been watching a movie when half way through somebody comes in and doesn't know what's going on? Then, you have to sit there and explain what's happened up to that point while still trying to enjoy what you are watching. This is kind of like that. The OP has been here a few days and made two threads within a twenty-four hour period to complain that nobody owns him yet. (Translation, he stood on the street corner with a sign that said "MARYY ME" and can't figure out why nobody is rushing off with him to the church.) It's very obvious between the two posts that he hasn't done any research on how to attract a Dominant woman, either on past threads, or by taking advantage of the FAQ section that's at the top of the Ask A Mistress board. It's also rather evident that the OP hasn't read the information that's provided in the Help section and hasn't bothered with the General Board guidelines about creating posts. All of these rather helpful options are on the site. When people don't take advantage of them and create multiple threads to complain about their lack of success in their first few days here, there's really nothing other members of the forum can do that is helpful. There just isn't a utensil big enough to spoon feed some folks. ETA - Incidentally, while chastising the way other people answered the thread, I notice that you didn't offer any answer to the OP's question, yourself.

DarkSteven -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 4:33:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby You're going to have to be proactive and write to some Dommes and not just wait for them to come to you. Make your letters stand out from the rest, women on both sides of the kneel get their Inboxes flooded all the time and you don't want to just be one of the herd. Read their profiles first, and take note of some things you can mention in your letters, so they are personal to each recipient, NOT just cookie-cutter or generic. NOT necessarily kink-related things either. Consider how you approach meeting women in real life, you wouldn't fixate on kinks first thing. ~Hisprettybaby~ I agree with everything HPB said, but especially this. The amazing thing is how EASY it is to make a letter stand out. Let's pretend that I was a sub male local to her writing to her for the first time. I would deliberately write to her in an informal style, but not a disrespectful one, which I find easy but which is relatively uncommon. Also, I would take note of some of the following things about her: 1. She's tall. 2. She's just had a relationship with a sub man end. 3. She's got a Master she serves, but is looking for a sub for herself. (I'll ignore the fact that she's not looking for a man right now, since she's just an example here.) With that in mind, I'd send an intro email something like the following: ----------------------- Hi there, myprettybaby! I just stumbled onto your profile and I like it. I realize that you just had a relationship with a submissive man end. My sympathies. I don't wish to be too forward, but when do you think you'd be up to another sub man? And would it be an issue that I'm shorter than you are? How would your future submissive fit into the existing relationship you have with your current Master? Best of luck. DarkSteven ------------------------------- Note that with the exception of the height issue which I assume she's worked out long ago, I'm hitting a couple of issues that she's liable to be thinking through right now herself. She very well might welcome someone to discuss those issues with.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 4:50:02 PM)
quote: ETA - Incidentally, while chastising the way other people answered the thread, I notice that you didn't offer any answer to the OP's question, yourself. touche! a hit, a palpable hit! ladyp scores on an delayed riposte!

hardcybermaster -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 4:59:06 PM)
no and we probably won't see you apologising as slavemoth did. it may be BS but benefit of the doubt?

HannahLynHeather -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 5:29:33 PM)
and just what the fuck should i be apologizing for? for answering his fucking question? he doesn't like what i said or how i said it, well boo hoo hoo, too fucking bad for him. that's not my fucking problem. and benefit of the doubt? what for, what fucking doubt? i'm in no doubt about him. the fucker started the same basic thread a few days ago, he got advice and ignored it and started this thread. you know what they say about doing the same thing and expecting different fucking results don't you?

hardcybermaster -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 5:31:05 PM)
the more you use a word the less impact it makes

HannahLynHeather -> RE: HOW (7/12/2011 5:59:16 PM)
and the more you post the less impact you have. so what's your fucking point, church lady?

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